hip and butt dysphoria

[ChrisBee]

Hello! I am looking for advice if anyone has it on dealing with dysphoria around my hips and butt? I have a good chest binder and like to think i can pass fairly well, but I have a very shapely bottom that causes me a lot of discomfort...

I tend to buy specific styles of pants that mask the shape better, but even still sometimes I'll walk by a floor length mirror and cringe ? I've seen stuff about compression shorts helping, but want to know if anyone has recommendations before I buy...most of the shorts i find advertise compression specifically in ways i DON'T want... go figure...

Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated, either for shorts or other methods to get a flatter looking backside. I'll be getting on testosterone soon and hoping that will help redistribe fat into,better areas, but I can't be sure of that and if so how long it might take.

[Jackie C.]

Testosterone is powerful stuff. Most trans men can pass within a year. Then we never see them again because they go rushing off into their new manly lives and forget all about us <sniff>.

 

Seriously though, I have the opposite problem (my white backside be FLAT). If you're starting T soon, start an exercise program that concentrates on your upper body and wear boxy bottoms. Your butt will dissolve before you know it.

 

Hugs!

[TommieAnne]

Like Jackie suggested, excercise.

A man's bottom, especially a large well muscled one, is very much a different shape than a woman's and the testosterone will play a big part in muscle building.

TA

[A. Dillon]

Now this is something I can speak to....

 

I have struggled with hip and butt dysphoria, even before I was out I would wear huge, like 4XL, flannels over black or dark colored shirts, or hoodies. I cannot recommend hoodies enough, there are so many types to choose from, but I would suggest Champion as the best. I know that it is going into the summer season, making this a bit harder, but their hoodies have good lining so they don't get very sweaty so it is not so bad. Another thing I would suggest that I personally use almost every day is a men's compression shirt, especially if you wear it with a binder. Only rarely should you layer them, but when you do you are completely flat, it is truly amazing. I almost started crying the first time that I was able to actually walk outside in a t-shirt and nothing else. Cargo or jean shorts, while not exactly the best of fashion, work really well to make you look a bit taller and pass 100 times better. Since the shirts are very straight, they give you a more square shape. You have literally no idea how many guys dress like that. They need to be down to the knee though, any higher and they are more like women's pants. 

 

Ok, that was really long, but if you have any more questions you could always message me. 

[ChrisBee]

Thanks yall! I started on T a couple weeks ago and haven't had a second to breath, much less get inti a good workout routine like I'd want to ? but hopefully with the semester ending and if i can get moved into a new place pretty soon I'll have some time to find somrthing that works for me, and hopefully keep it up through the next semester! Cargo shorts have been my best bet for years, so hoping that those plus the T gives me a more comfortable summer than any others so far...

[Maid In Bedlam]

If i could a observation here. What you are describing is not gender dysphoria but body dismorphic disorder or Bdd.

 

Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), or body dysmorphia, is a mental health condition where a person spends a lot of time worrying about flaws in their appearance. These flaws are often unnoticeable to others.

 

 

You might have BDD if you:

 

worry a lot about a specific area of your body 

spend a lot of time comparing your looks with other people's

look at yourself in mirrors a lot or avoid mirrors altogether

go to a lot of effort to conceal flaws such as choosing clothes that sheild/hide your body.

 

I noticed you have started Testosterone. Have you run through BDD with your therapist/Doctor?

 

If not then I would question your health proffesional regarding this. because taking hormones for something they may actually be BDD is very wrong and needs to be addressed.

 

Sorry if i sound like an old kill joy. But you are taking a BIG step. Just make sure its in the right direction