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How To Get Therapy When You Can't Leave The House

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Jani

These are trying times.  Not just for our community but for all of us as we are asked to stay in while many places we would like to go to are closed.  This is a good article that enumerates ways to find and obtain counseling while sequestered in your home or away from loved ones.  It mentions AA, Psychology Today, Betterhelp, Talkspace, Larkr.   Admittedly I had not been aware of the last three sites.  The Department of HHS and National Suicide Prevention Lifeline links are also there. 

 

https://www.npr.org/2020/04/03/826726628/how-to-get-therapy-when-you-cant-leave-the-house

 

Here's the takeaway from the article.

"Let's do a quick recap. What are the most important things to know about getting therapy right now?

It can feel really tempting to put your mental health on the back burner right now because there's so much happening. But you might need help more than ever. And it's not great to just constantly download that onto your friends and family because they're going through the same thing too. Therapists are trained professionals. They have confidentiality in mind. If you have insurance, you can ask your insurance company to help you find a provider or a method. And if you don't have insurance, there are lots of free options and low-cost options for you out there."

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Jackie C.

I'm on Betterhelp. I've got an appointment with my therapist today. She also sees a therapist on Betterhelp, so circle of life.

 

Hugs!

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Suzanne1
On 4/6/2020 at 10:18 AM, Jackie C. said:

I'm on Betterhelp. I've got an appointment with my therapist today. She also sees a therapist on Betterhelp, so circle of life.

Hugs!

Yeah, it seems very few folks go into counseling field because they're happy and psychologically & socially well-adjusted.  I'm guessing most have significant "baggage." 

 

[Just as an aside-- really -has nothing to do with this thread; I only mention it because I thought it very funny.  Old adage, told to me by an Etoh/Drug Counselor {supervisor]:  "If you can't do---teach; and, if you can't teach---counsel; and if you can't counsel---supervise. " 🤔]

 

Good resources; online-/tele-/skype-counseling seems to becoming more greatly accepted by professional associates, partly because of the pandemic.  I'm inclined to think that it will continue post-pandemic (assuming our nation does); it's just too darned convenient for clients & professionals, both.

 

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RobynNYC

I’ve been seeing my therapist for the better part of a year.  Prior to the quarantine, she was very selective about phone counseling).  Now she has migrated her entire practice to phone. I’m surprised how effective it is, but it’s probably because she’s an excellent therapist and I’m a chatter box.  😀

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Jani

Thats good news @RobynNYC.  Its always good when we find a counselor we trust and can work with comfortably.  Mine was like that.  I looked forward to seeing her.  I'm glad to hear you're a "chatterbox" too as its the best way to get results; speaking your part.  Its important to talk about the issues you have so the therapist can react to them and guide you.  After a while I started keeping a notepad with things that happened since the last visit and any new questions that may have come up. 

 

Cheers, Jani

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