Hi!

[RobynNYC]

Hi!
 

So it occurred to me I’ve been a member for a while and hadn’t introduced myself, so here goes ...

 

I’m Robyn, 49 mtf dysphoric, have been in therapy for almost a year now trying to figure myself and my situation out.  I’m married and the first thing I worked on with my therapist was how to communicate my dysphoria to my wife, which was sooo hard but sooo worth it. So she knows, and seems very non-plussed and is very supportive of me trying to figure out where I am on the spectrum.  We have two kids and she and the kids are the center of my universe. 
 

Over the past year I’ve joined an in-person support group, lost a bunch of weight (yay size 2!!!), and started epilating.  All of that helps tremendously with my dysphoria as I try to figure out whether transition is right for me. I’ve recently started very low level hrt and am thinking about facial hair removal (which the quarantine has obviously quashed...).  I’m also using the quarantine as a chance to keep my nails longer and grow my hair out, which will give me enough to work with for a decent pixie of top knot.  

I’d love to get to know others in similar situations, and am especially keen to hear from you if you have or are attempting to keep marriages and family with young kids intact. 
 

Thanks for listening!
 

Robyn. 

 

[KathyLauren]

Hi, Robyn, and welcome!

 

Congratulations on telling your wife, and on having her be supportive!  That is such a huge thing!

 

I started my transition at age 62, also with the blessing of my wife.   These last three years have been the best of my life.  I wish you continued success on your journey.

 

Regards,

Kathy

[RobynNYC]

Thanks Kathy! So good to hear from others who started later on and have supportive spouses!

[Jani]

Hello Robyn.  Participating in group meetings are a great way to socialize with other like minded people.   Good for you for losing the weight you wanted off.  I also started late at 61 so it is doable.  My wife doesn't like the idea of being thought of as lesbian but she loves and understands me.  My son is older and I have grandchildren.  All is well there. My DIL's parents were a bit put off at first but they've come around.  Sorry about the electrolysis, but they will all be open for business in due time.  Best of luck moving forward. 

 

Cheers, Jani

[KathyLauren]

34 minutes ago, Jani said:

My wife doesn't like the idea of being thought of as lesbian but she loves and understands me. 

 

Mine, too.  This is how she rationalizes it...  (Apparently, the Easter Bunny knows all! )

[Jani]

What a smart Bunny!!

[RobynNYC]

On 4/12/2020 at 6:21 PM, KathyLauren said:

 

Mine, too.  This is how she rationalizes it...  (Apparently, the Easter Bunny knows all! )

That’s such an awesome button!!   You’re so lucky to have such an awesome wife!

 

[RobynNYC]

On 4/12/2020 at 6:15 PM, Jani said:

My wife doesn't like the idea of being thought of as lesbian but she loves and understands me.  

That’s so good to hear!  I don’t know how mine would react to being thought of as a lesbian but she does love me.  She’s known for the better part of a year but much of my journey has been internal and I am really struggling with whether transition is the right step for me. I figure I am not in any rush.  Life is good, the plagues notwithstanding, and to say I’m happy with my family is an understatement.   
 

we’ll see how I react to low dose hormones and what other things I can do to ease dysphoria, like hair removal etc.  

 

taking it one step at a time ....

 

 

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[Traci Lynn]

47 minutes ago, RobynNYC said:

That’s so good to hear!  I don’t know how mine would react to being thought of as a lesbian but she does love me.  She’s known for the better part of a year but much of my journey has been internal and I am really struggling with whether transition is the right step for me. I figure I am not in any rush.  Life is good, the plagues notwithstanding, and to say I’m happy with my family is an understatement.   
 

we’ll see how I react to low dose hormones and what other things I can do to ease dysphoria, like hair removal etc.  

 

taking it one step at a time ....

 

 

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I am very hapoy for you, it sounds like you have already taken several steps down the road to transition already. My wife is great, she supports me in my transition even though she says I am not a lesbian, she wants to remain married for our triplets, but date outside our home. I have been on HRT for over 7 months now and we are still together. Best of luck hon.

Traci Lynn

[RobynNYC]

Thanks so much! So encouraging to hear your story, really heartening!

 

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