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My husband is telling me he’s transgender

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Jenny1984
On 4/30/2020 at 12:49 AM, Ursula said:

Hey Jenny! I’m pretty new to being the partner of a trans lady and can’t really add value to what has already been said but just wanted to reaffirm anyway! 
You can’t underestimate the change this is for you too, it’s so wonderful that you’ll be going through it together but don’t be too hard on yourself. 
What you said in the beginning will have been shock. And honestly as someone who didn’t see her husband as being a wife, it’s a big shock. It makes you question if you know them at all, but you do. 
It’s easy to slip on the pronouns when they’re not living out as a woman. My wife has told most of our close friends and some of our family but I still have to think “ok do they know her as he or she?” before I speak which leads to me sometimes dead naming her to her face. She’s understanding though. 
all you can do is be consistently there for her and the rest is up to her ☺️ It sounds like you’re already doing that xx


Hey there, Ursula😀.

 

 So awfully nice of you taking the time to write me. Yes, it was a shock at first, but things are good now. 
 

I don’t know what he’s fixing to do about stuff, but I’m mentally preparing for him telling me that he’s gonna go all in. I’m ready to accept that. There’s nobody else for me than her. It’ll be strange to refer to her as my wife, though.
 

The only thing I worry about is the health issues a transition could potentially cause. I’ve read about some of those issues, but I know that both me and her will have to accept those risks. I’m helping her with outfits and makeup and she’s improving her skills by the day. 
 

I have been thinking this through, and I know that I’m going to live my life as the wife of a lady. It doesn’t scare me, it feels somehow right. 
 

I hope you and your wife are doing well.

 

 

Love from Jenny❤️

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