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Anyone else tired of it being blamed on the hormones?


ShawnaLeigh

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So for me anything that effects me and makes me cry or mad or forgetful gets blamed on my HRT.  
“Well yes but you are on hormones now and it could just be them”. 
Is anyone else sick of hearing that when you go to someone get help or support?  

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Hormones do many weird and wonderful things. Sometimes for the good and possibly bad.  As far as being emotional
We always had these emotions. We just never really allowed ourselves to show them in quite a material way. It's like an emotional blackmail when you think of it. It has you exactly where it wants you and You are staying there unless you desist from the Estrogen

We want the E but do not want the effects. Personally I quite like the effects. I never use to be able to cry. I in a way because of conditioning always held it in. Society is very quick to tell us Boys don't cry. There however some exceptions. I've seen grown men cry. But it takes something very traumatic to bring it on. But we are not bound by those rules anymore. The shackles of conforming to a male state of mind is no longer there. The E just makes that fact far more prominent.  I have said it many times. These drugs are life-changing to a certain extent. This is why you have to be sure before thinking its what you really want. I love to cry and go awwww at kittens and puppies and laugh so much more. I would say it feels natural. But in reality, it's just the mind is now allowing you to explore and fulfil your full emotional spectrum 2.0 without no real recourse. For me it's awesome. For others, it may be just an awful side effect. You have to regardless of anything  live with those side effects good or bad. In saying that there are many T orientated effects I don't miss. for example that male aggression. Now Looking at a problem from another angle rather than going at it like a bull at a gate. I think you can generally tell when someone is really on E and who isn't. Even if they say they are  in there writing. I am so much more fluid when I write now from how I was. I also tend to wander a bit as some may have noticed in my posts. Sometimes i can right something that seems bitchy even if it was not intended that way. But its never aggresive as it would have been pre hormones. This is not just in writing its also for real. But I wouldn't now give it up for the world. I adore the effects personally.

 

What would be really interesting is for one of our FtoM Forum users to comment on if they have noticed effects from T reverse from what they was like pre hormones.  Theres an open invitation to all you GUYS out there.

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I fully agree I love that I can take E to balance myself in mind and body now. I also fully agree HRT did changed my moods and emotions A LOT when I first started them  Like 3 years ago while on SM HRT.  Since then and being on doctor supervised HRT I am well accustom to their "good and bad sides". 

They do not drive or rule my emotions.  They do make me more sensitive at times but every one acts like I am manic/depressant due to the hormones' and to not worry about it.

They disregard the fact I am in transition and how hard that is in itself.  "Oh its only hard because of what the hormones are doing to you".  Its crap.  

I love the person I am becoming and the personality I am letting finally emerge and I wo this in part to the HRT. 

So yes I got fed up with trying to nicely explain it is not the hormones and why I believe this to be so.  No body listens except my doctors and therapist.  I suppose that's a positive.

LOL

 

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I’m no expert and I’m not on hormones yet that’s tomorrow or Thursday lol. I wonder if that is an excuse for others to use because they don’t understand what is going on and it is very easy to blame it on the hormones and then be done with the conversation. It seems people don’t realize how deeply these emotions run and how long we have hid them and when they come out they don’t know how to react to them especially when they have known you as the previous person before.

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I don't mind.  Those hormones are saving my life.  If the worst collateral damage is that I am accused of behaving more like a woman than I used to, I'm good with that.

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12 hours ago, ShawnaLeigh said:

So for me anything that effects me and makes me cry or mad or forgetful gets blamed on my HRT.  
“Well yes but you are on hormones now and it could just be them”. 
Is anyone else sick of hearing that when you go to someone get help or support?  

 

Welcome to womanhood! You've been mansplained!

 

"Your hormones" have been the go-to for explaining away any feelings or behavior the other party doesn't want to deal with for centuries.

 

But hey, there are things I can blame on hormones:

 

I'm no longer an unfeeling mannequin? Hormones.

I feel comfortable in my own skin? Hormones.

My tiny, tiny breasts? Hormones.

The virtual end to my life-long depression? Hormones.

The ability to cry when I think I need to? Hor... nah, that's my new gender role. It's OK for a women to express her emotions. Sure, I might still be getting a handle on them, but I didn't HAVE emotions, not really, for the first forty-eight years of my life. There's a learning curve. Deal with it.

 

Hugs!

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Yep I love all those and more.  The new attention I am getting -Hormones.  LOL

But I do not like them being used as an excuse to blame things away like you said.

Its kind of offensive to all of use that rely on his medication to find personal wholeness and balance.

Like taking medication for being Bipolar.  Is it the meds fault your like that if you miss a dose?  

Like blaming Tylenol for your headaches when you are not taking it.

Stupid.

 

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Well of course it's offensive. That's male privilege at work. I'm pretty sure you're not meant to like it unless you're a dude. Then it's part of the whole, "I'm a guy and all this is mine!" vibe they have going on. Fortunately, as a society we're getting over it. Unfortunately, it's slow going because the people who have said privilege need to be dragged kicking and screaming away from their safety-blanket.

 

Of course what's wrong with me that I'd rather be on the receiving end? A giant pile of time, money, effort and sacrifice went into making sure I can be mansplained at with impunity and my opinions can be disregarded because of "hormones."

 

Though I have had episodes when I was getting back on HRT that I would describe as hormonal. Was not expecting them to hit quite so hard on the rebound.

 

Hugs!

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I don't know, people are less forgiving of a throat punch. Even when they really, really deserve it. Besides, escalating violence is never the answer.

 

Hugs!

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2 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Was not expecting them to hit quite so hard on the rebound.

I know this feeling well, on and off again regiment was brutal.

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Mmmm, I get mood swings.  Yet I am just on blockers.  No HRT. Must be the latent natural feminine hormones that I have.  Cause the last blood work showed my T level at 15.

 

Kymmie 

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I find the hormones to be liberating. Yes there are days that I get weepy over seemingly trifle things. But on the whole I love the way the hormones have given me the ability to react to life in a way that seems so authentic. As a man I had to walk a tightrope, skirt minefields and walk on eggshells around emotions that made being a member of the boys club closed to me because I was too girl like in my feelings. Now I just go with the emotions.  No longer have to constantly police myself to “fit” in. Viva  la hormones.

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