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Jenni

So I have always been trans and never transitioned. I have always been afraid of eating too much because, I have always wanted to transition. I have always been skinny and fit but I have decided that I want to transition. I recently unintentionally lost 45 lbs because of an accident. Any advice or support would be appreciated. Much love ❤️

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Charlize

Jenni, Thank you for your honesty!

   I would suggest that you speak to a therapist both about your gender and diet issues.  Finding a body image i liked was difficult for me.  Transition helped but i remember mentioning to a beautiful young woman that i felt bad about my looks.  She looked at me and said it was a trap that many women fell into.  We need to accept ourselves and live our lives today.  

My therapist helped with that acceptance and once i started just being i've found peace (most of the time) with myself.

 

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Charlize

 

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7 hours ago, Charlize said:

Jenni, Thank you for your honesty!

   I would suggest that you speak to a therapist both about your gender and diet issues.  Finding a body image i liked was difficult for me.  Transition helped but i remember mentioning to a beautiful young woman that i felt bad about my looks.  She looked at me and said it was a trap that many women fell into.  We need to accept ourselves and live our lives today.  

My therapist helped with that acceptance and once i started just being i've found peace (most of the time) with myself.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

 

Thank you. 

I always felt uncomfortable with who I was as a person. I was always either trying to be the strongest man, or preparing for transition. I just need to find a therapist that can help me.

Thank you, much love ❤️

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