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Mary Jane

im making this because i get how it can feel and how it can be if you go to school it can seem like or it can actually be like you have no friends and everyone else has at least one, it can feel lonely it can seem like no one even wants you except maybe a few people that has already left, and more but there's something in you that probably no one realizes for me its so many parts like the part of me thats a fighter both mentally and physically. the people that dont want you the real you don't deserve you your better than them i dont know in what way but you do, you just need time to think about what it is, and i often imagine things are a battle because most things really are whether its work, life, or school its a battle but its one you can do if you have the right help or the right things set in place for me that's playing games and watching videos, movies, shows, etc that i like but i also have a defense that makes me go blank if things are bad enough and hey things arent good? then make them good or at least better. can't cope with things then find ways to cope with them food, games, watching something, drawing, etc and maybe you lose people or people lose you either way they weren't meant to stay maybe they were there to teach you something but that something is up to you to figure out, or they were just there for a certain time. people come and go but the ones that stay, the ones that are true friends no matter what you deserve them their the ones that matter the most not ones that dont want you. also last thing never doubt giving people multiple chances it might just lead to them being good enough for you i say this because i have someone who is basically friends with me but was one of my bullies before even if hes not a bully now i still dont consider him a friend but its close you can decide how they get the chance whether they earn it or you fully give it

 

be your self the right people or the right things will eventually come and if they leave they weren't meant to stay but eventually there will be the right people or the right things that stay maybe its even the thing or person or thing that left that will stay (by the way why im also saying things is because maybe just maybe its not just people that's going to be right for you but also things whatever that might be)

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Sarahnr1
11 hours ago, Mary Jane said:

im making this because i get how it can feel and how it can be if you go to school it can seem like or it can actually be like you have no friends and everyone else has at least one, it can feel lonely it can seem like no one even wants you except maybe a few people that has already left, and more but there's something in you that probably no one realizes for me its so many parts like the part of me thats a fighter both mentally and physically. the people that dont want you the real you don't deserve you your better than them i dont know in what way but you do, you just need time to think about what it is, and i often imagine things are a battle because most things really are whether its work, life, or school its a battle but its one you can do if you have the right help or the right things set in place for me that's playing games and watching videos, movies, shows, etc that i like but i also have a defense that makes me go blank if things are bad enough and hey things arent good? then make them good or at least better. can't cope with things then find ways to cope with them food, games, watching something, drawing, etc and maybe you lose people or people lose you either way they weren't meant to stay maybe they were there to teach you something but that something is up to you to figure out, or they were just there for a certain time. people come and go but the ones that stay, the ones that are true friends no matter what you deserve them their the ones that matter the most not ones that dont want you. also last thing never doubt giving people multiple chances it might just lead to them being good enough for you i say this because i have someone who is basically friends with me but was one of my bullies before even if hes not a bully now i still dont consider him a friend but its close you can decide how they get the chance whether they earn it or you fully give it

 

be your self the right people or the right things will eventually come and if they leave they weren't meant to stay but eventually there will be the right people or the right things that stay maybe its even the thing or person or thing that left that will stay (by the way why im also saying things is because maybe just maybe its not just people that's going to be right for you but also things whatever that might be)

 

You have learnt WELL my young friend A +  on that one 👏

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Mary Jane

thank you 🙂

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Kellysinclair101

I when thru school  didnt  make friends  with any untill high school last year . It was hard but you can suvive .   Life does get better after  . I find the ones  i new are now wanting  to be friends  now .they wouldn't even talk to me untill we were alone in schools   . So i geuss its a popularly  thang in  school . But they do grow  up and find new friends  in the very ones they tormented  when they were young  .  Hugs 

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