Oh I do not take offense and I read through all of what you had wrote and found it very interesting. I was just saying I did not follow it at this time as I am an impatient person and frankly I am also a tad overwhelmed in my own life with recent events unfolding extremely fast.
I certainly appreciate you doing this as it can be a very helpful process for many of us.
Tori I do not understand this. I do not feel what I had said falls into a brain dysphoria. Perhaps it does and I do not realize it. I'm always open for opinions and positive criticism.
Love the new pic Patti. Good luck with the Job interview Shawna.
I had a great day today. My wife and I went shopping. Michael’s for some sewing items them our mall to window shop. No one appeared to see anything but two women shopping together. Never got misgendered. Even got a complement on the dress I was wearing. This just topped off a great weekend.
Thank you for talking about this and learning. Before this Virus problem started I used to get flyers from ULTA and Sephora cosmetics and their stuff had scratch and sniff inserts in them. My computer chair is near where the mail drops in, and more than once I have rolled the chair wheels over the flyers, and set off the samples. They can have me sneezing for an hour or two. In my CD days, the stronger the perfume smell was the desired motif, I do not miss those times.
I shop at Torrid, Long Tall Sally, Target and the local thrift stores. I like cruising the resale shops with my wife, it's a fun outing and sometimes I get something pretty. Don't discount skinny jeans though, I've got no hips so they fit better than regular cut. I'm an XL-Tall at 5' 11" and... no idea what I weigh anymore. I hope less than 210. I haven't been able to check since the pandemic. We don't own a scale.
OK, now we're a step closer to each other. I have a non-binary brain in a male body. Lots of girl stuff and lots of boy stuff for me.
I just got a perspective shift. If you have that fully female brain, then I see how you say "I have the wrong body!"
And you got a perspective shift, "Oh, I have a female brain." This is how I was thinking of the MtF people the whole time and I didn't see the pain of "I have the wrong body" until a few days ago.
Very cool. You can see that for me, I don't think, "I have the wrong body" I just think, "I have an abby normal brain!"
Ok, I'm tired. I'm tired of spending hours and hours looking for pants and tops for tall women. At reasonable prices. I can't pay $79 for a single top, Lane Bryant. You, too, Long Tall Sally. Goodwill, you have tons of clothes but could you please put the tall stuff in a special section? Amazon, you have 40,000 pairs of jeans and no checkbox on the left for "Tall". How am I supposed to look through 40,000 pairs of jeans?! Also, some of us are getting older... I don't want skinny jeans, I want a stretch waistband with normal legs. My eyes are bugging from screen searching so much I'm going to need a new prescription for my glasses.
Does anyone have any suggestions on where to find tall clothes for older gals at affordable prices? I'm only 5'11"... it shouldn't be this hard!
This is a highly volatile subject that could get heated so I won't fully go there. I will say however, that here in NH, we had a long standing sexist code. In the Union Leader or any other classifieds here, there's a phrase code of "Must be able to lift 50 lbs and over." It's a blatant way of saying MEN ONLY. Women need not apply. I found this out by accident in my early 20's. I'd been in the air force, worked in stables where lifting 50 lbs happened a dozen times a day with feed, manure and tack. I applied for the job but the guy saw a 5 foot female and immediately said, "This ain't the place for you little girl. The ad is for men. Gotta lift 50 lbs." No joke.
Keep in mind that a lot of rhetoric we hear comes from the loud mouths. In this country there has always been, and will continue to be, a silent majority, people who have an opinion but don't feel the need to shout about it at the top of their lungs. I learned long ago to try and tune out the loud mouths and the news reported primarily for sensationalist reasons. We have to look past all BS we are made to see and hear to really feel the pulse of the nation. If we take the time to do that, we see that most people don't take issue with the way we express ourselves. It's only the terrified loud mouths who are making all the racket, and they really, are the minority. My experiences as a trans woman have for the most part, been extremely positive, and I absolutely refuse to cower in the face of a few blowhards. Take heart, that it is never really as bad out there as it can sometimes seem.