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So im not sure where to put this topic, so if it needs to be moved, feel free.


I was just doing some minor research on doing a gender marker and name change. I was born in Indiana, but live in North Carolina. 


Do i have to follow Indiana gender and name chance policies or do i follow North Carolina policies? 

The Indiana policies require state id and filing with the court in the county you live in. Does this mean i file here in NC for the Indiana change?

Or do i file in NC even though i was not born here?


Should i seek a lawyers help on these matters?



Hugz ❤️


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Susan R

I was born in Washington State and now reside in Washington state so my ID and legal document changes were relatively simple. Everything was done in the state of my residency (WA) the name change more specifically in my county of my residency (Snohomish County). My birth certificate was done here in Washington too but that would’ve been the only document that I would’ve had to file out of state if I was born out of state.  In your case that will likely end up being Indiana.


Here is a good resource to search this info in case you haven’t seen it.




These ID and document changes are pretty straight forward but a lawyer is always an option but overkill if you do a little research. You can always call your county courthouse to get the details for the name change.


Most (if not all by now) State DMV’s are linked to your Social Security so if you change your drivers license you‘ll need to change your SS ID card/info within 30 days. When I did my driver’s license and SS last year, I needed a letter from my PCP which stated, “Susan Rxxxxx has received the appropriate clinical treatment for the new gender of female“ which is no longer required in our state for a DL but is still required for a gender change on your Social Security account.  I did name change, drivers lic., and SS all before noon on the same day. It was very fast.


I changed all my Passport and Birth Certificates if you need that info..it should be located within those URL’s though. if not, feel free to PM me if you have any trouble.


Best of Luck,

Susan R🌷

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