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Okay I know I am not the only one who has peeked at themselves in the mirror and totally didn't recognize themselves. In my case earlier today I was on tending to my plant, I was working on my desk and on my desk was a small mirror. I had cut my hair this morning and when I glanced into the mirror, I saw a guy, but like an actual guy, it was me but I looked so much like an actual dude. Of course I was stoked about this and wanted to share my little bit of happiness. This also reminded me of one of my favorite memories like this one. 


I went to the state fair with my family and we were walking around the place where people sold products indoors, well tent-like indoors. My stepmom wanted to look at jewlery and the place also had coins so I tagged along. They also had these giant mirrors (Which I didn't know) and at the time I was wearing my Naruto merch. (Specifically my Kakashi shirt) and I saw someone wearing the same shirt as me, so being the extrovert that I was I kinda reached my hand out and said "Hey, I like your shirt!" It took me a whole minute to realize I was talking to myself. I recently cut my hair around this time too. I gave myself and others a good laugh so it was worth the embarrassment. 



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I too am seeing Shawna more then Shawn while in my wig  even without makeup now.  Its a wonderful feeling too.

Now when my wig comes off is a different story and I get quite upset over it at times.  But I know eventually this too will go away as I let estrogen fill in the blanks.

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Recently been watching this tech news channel on youtube. And the host looks like me, except he has a well groomed face hair but long hair exactly like mine. Makes me kinda feel less dysphoria bout my face.

Ever since I was young, my mom use to joke bout how much I looked like my younger brother. Didn't care for the joke, but me and my brother other than gender differences we practically look like twins, except he's a darker skin tone and a bit taller for obvious reasons.

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Liam da potato

Hehe it happened to me too when I first cutted my hair, didn't know I was trans at this time, but even if it last 2 sec it felt great! ^^

Totally relatable hehe

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This happened to me a few months back. My hair just got to the length of my shoulders, obscuring my neck and shoulders. My biceps have atrophied fron avoiding hard manual labor work. I walked by a window in a dim lit room around twilight and saw the hazy reflection of a girl in the window. It was me! I see her in the mirror now too. It feels so magical when you finally start to see it...



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Yesterday we were out and in our area we are still wearing masks.  I was also wearing goggles.  My hair has gotten longer and my upper body has atrophied a bit and looking at myself in the mirror, I was like omg I so come off as female.  I’m not pursuing social transition at this point so I’m (trying to?) present male.   It’s something I’ve had to put a lot of effort into over the course of my life.  Anyway yesterday I totally got the sense I was coming off more female.  The longer hair, the body language I have always had a tougher time controlling and the mask just all combined together.  


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