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King Arthur

I know I could just look this up on google, but I would rather get first-hand accounts from others on how to go about this. So, how do you get your name changed in California? Will you need to get a lawyer? What are all the obstacles in doing so? Can you do it as a minor? If so, how?

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VickySGV

As another Californian,  my suggestion is to go to Transgender Law Center's website. 

 

https://transgenderlawcenter.org/

 

They have comments on the process written by their staff of lawyers, and have fillable legal forms you can download for starts.  If you are brave enough, you can fill out the forms on your own and take them to the court yourself, but if you have an LGBT Community Center near you, they have law student and lawyers who will help you do it for free.  I do have legal training and did it myself successfully but believe me I was an emotional wreck for part of the time.

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Dana Michelle

I am also from California and I discussed some of the issues I had with name change on this thread:

My advice is: bring three copies of each form; bring change, cash, check book and credit card; bring envelopes.

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Dana Michelle
1 hour ago, King Arthur said:

Can you do it as a minor? If so, how?

Yes, a minor can change their name. A minor has to fill out this form https://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/nc500.pdf. It requires either getting the parents' signatures or issuing a notice to allow the parents to object.

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VickySGV

I missed the minor point there. Sorry.  If your parents are receptive it is no problem, but they are the petitioners for your name change.  If they are not receptive have it done through an attorney or LGBTQ center.  I have been a professional employee in the CA Law system and have seen the problems happen where you will need their help. 

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Dana Michelle

The corrected URL is https://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/nc500.pdf. The period at the end of the sentence got included in the link so it produces an error.

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