Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Elle-

What do i do with my hair?

Recommended Posts

Elle-

My hair takes hours to dry, weather air dry or in a towel. it also gets stupidly knotted in water, so bad i can barely get my fingers through it, and then it stays that way for days. drying with a blow dryer makes it frizzy, drying with a towel makes it frizzy. brushing it with anything rips out tons of hair, and also makes it frizzy. im getting sick and tired of it and just want to cut it all off

Share this post


Link to post
Elle-

all of the stuff online telling me how to get rid of knots or frizz are things that cause my knots or frizz

Share this post


Link to post
Susan R
42 minutes ago, Elle- said:

My hair takes hours to dry, weather air dry or in a towel. it also gets stupidly knotted in water, so bad i can barely get my fingers through it, and then it stays that way for days. drying with a blow dryer makes it frizzy, drying with a towel makes it frizzy. brushing it with anything rips out tons of hair, and also makes it frizzy. im getting sick and tired of it and just want to cut it all off

If I use a hair dryer on my hair it can sometimes get a little frizzy on the bottom 3 inches on the sides. I use low heat when I have time.  If I use higher heat to get the job done faster, it can cause some frizziness. I found a product that eliminates this issue really well. Trust me, I’ve tried many other products and I swear by this one BUT it’s not cheap. Sadly, I have not found a substitute in its ability to control frizz and give it some body.

 

Heres the product I use MOROCCANOIL FRIZZ CONTROL 3.4 OZ

Heres where to buy it.

Share this post


Link to post
Elle-
45 minutes ago, Susan R said:

If I use a hair dryer on my hair it can sometimes get a little frizzy on the bottom 3 inches on the sides. I use low heat when I have time.  If I use higher heat to get the job done faster, it can cause some frizziness. I found a product that eliminates this issue really well. Trust me, I’ve tried many other products and I swear by this one BUT it’s not cheap. Sadly, I have not found a substitute in its ability to control frizz and give it some body.

 

Heres the product I use MOROCCANOIL FRIZZ CONTROL 3.4 OZ

Heres where to buy it.

i dont have the money for products like that, i dont have a job and likely wont for at least a year. i get money due to being unfit to work but its $600 and i barely have enough for cheap stuff after stuff i need.

Share this post


Link to post
Susan R

Yes @Elle-, I can understand your situation. I almost didn’t reply because imho, the cost is outrageous but it does work very well and that right there is the only reason I even mentioned it. Like you say...There are so many products that say they help with frizz but don’t.

 

For instance, I just tried another product John Freida Frizz Ease this last week which helped with the frizz a little but when it dried completely it held my hair far too well. It was thickest hairspray I had ever used and I do not use hairspray that much at all. I even tried using very little...same thing but less frizz control.  I’ll likely have it on the shelf a very long time.

 

 

Share this post


Link to post
Elle-

@Susan R i guess ill see if my dad or someone else will be willing to buy it for me

Share this post


Link to post
Susan R
27 minutes ago, Elle- said:

@Susan R i guess ill see if my dad or someone else will be willing to buy it for me

Elle, Have you by chance talked to a hair salon about your needs?  Some have some amazing tricks to thin hair out a bit to reduce frizziness. I’m not talking about actual hair straightening or perms, I mean thinning or layering in a way to reduce this effect. They also might lead you to a product they sell for less than my suggestion or some other product entirely. I do realize with the covid lockdown, it may be awhile. But when they reopen, you might just call around first.

Share this post


Link to post
Elle-
28 minutes ago, Susan R said:

Elle, Have you by chance talked to a hair salon about your needs?  Some have some amazing tricks to thin hair out a bit to reduce frizziness. I’m not talking about actual hair straightening or perms, I mean thinning or layering in a way to reduce this effect. They also might lead you to a product they sell for less than my suggestion or some other product entirely. I do realize with the covid lockdown, it may be awhile. But when they reopen, you might just call around first.

no i havent, i didnt even think of that but my city is open already so i can at least call some places tomorrow. thank you

Share this post


Link to post
Mx.Drago

I use Nancy boy styling cream for my hair, otherwise I can't deal with the Mediterranean Fro.

https://www.nancyboy.com/styling-cream/

 

Either that or use orangic coconut oil. You just have to be careful how much you use, cuz it's oil, and requires a good washing when rinsing.

 

Share this post


Link to post
A. Dillon
6 hours ago, Susan R said:

For instance, I just tried another product John Freida Frizz Ease this last week which helped with the frizz a little but when it dried completely it held my hair far too well.

 

Back when I had long hair, this was my go to. There is also a cream version which works really well, but that is just about preference. I didn't even like brushing my hair, let alone taking care of it, but using this stuff I never had to touch it. Warning: use too much and your hair will be a literal helmet. As long as you use in moderation, it is cheap and effective.

Share this post


Link to post
Elle-

@Mx.Drago thank you for the link and info.

 

Update: my friend messaged me and asked whats up and i told her how my hair keeps pissing me off, and she offered to help me out, so we are going to meet up at some point to teach me to braid my hair! i understand the method, but i struggle to hold all my hair in 3 separate strands while doing it, and ive never been able to practice on someone elses hair thats at an easier angle. while i knew my friends are progressive i for some reason didnt expect any of them to help me out or anything like that.

Share this post


Link to post
Mx.Drago
29 minutes ago, Elle- said:

@Mx.Drago thank you for the link and info.

 

Update: my friend messaged me and asked whats up and i told her how my hair keeps pissing me off, and she offered to help me out, so we are going to meet up at some point to teach me to braid my hair! i understand the method, but i struggle to hold all my hair in 3 separate strands while doing it, and ive never been able to practice on someone elses hair thats at an easier angle. while i knew my friends are progressive i for some reason didnt expect any of them to help me out or anything like that.

Np! I use to suck braiding my hair by myself but found using small hair clips, to braid my hair to help cuz it's easy to grab while keeping the strands separate. Then half way you remove them cuz you don't need them past a point.👍 Never fear asking questions and looking for help, the answers can surprise you in the best ways.

Share this post


Link to post
Elle-

@A. Dillon thank you for the info. do you think most hair products are like that? (use too much or too little and it screws stuff up, like giving you a bullet proof helmet lol)

Share this post


Link to post
Elle-
34 minutes ago, Mx.Drago said:

Np! I use to suck braiding my hair by myself but found using small hair clips, to braid my hair to help cuz it's easy to grab while keeping the strands separate. Then half way you remove them cuz you don't need them past a point.👍 Never fear asking questions and looking for help, the answers can surprise you in the best ways.

so put the clips near the top,(by my scalp), to hold it? also just so i know i understand, by clips you mean what are called barrettes right? unless there are other even better clips that idk about, which would be awesome too

Share this post


Link to post
Mx.Drago
50 minutes ago, Elle- said:

so put the clips near the top,(by my scalp), to hold it? also just so i know i understand, by clips you mean what are called barrettes right? unless there are other even better clips that idk about, which would be awesome too

You could use barrettes, just be careful. If your hair is fine and/or curly, it can get caught and hair will get pulled. I like small claw clamps and double prong clips. Depending on the braid is were you put the clips along the hair line. French braid being closer to the scalp then a regular braid which could be clamped at most halfway down the hair length. 😉Your collection of hair clips and hair ties will increase.

Share this post


Link to post

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    No registered users viewing this page.

  • Who's Online   6 Members, 0 Anonymous, 85 Guests (See full list)

    • KayC
    • Rami
    • Shay
    • Jackie C.
    • BorderTerrierFan
    • ElizabethStar
  • Topics With Zero Replies

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      71,393
    • Total Posts
      648,955
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      7,093
    • Most Online
      8,356

    GreyingRaven
    Newest Member
    GreyingRaven
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. benzenemess
      benzenemess
  • Posts

    • KayC
      Hi Toni.   I am a bit concerned for your safety.  Do you have someplace to go if your roommates become aggressive again?  Assuming you're still in Minneapolis area?  I found this online https://www.mntransgenderhealth.org/  Please take care of yourself❣️
    • KayC
      Nice to meet you @key plate! and welcome! You've found a great place to let this out.  We are all here facing both similar and different obstacles to transition, but all with the same hope ... to be happy. I cannot and should not give you advice about your mother.  You seem to know her well, since your are not surprised but rightfully disappointed by her response. I do hope you make the choices that are best for yourself (and not somebody else) but ... When its all said and done, she still is and will forever be your mother.  Don't let go of the love in your heart for her (it seems like she needs it)   Deep breaths ... one step at a time❤️
    • KayC
      Wow!  Thanks for sharing your photos and story @Joslynn!  That's quite a transition and very inspiring❣️
    • KayC
      That's great Jackie! Sending sincere prayers for a smooth procedure and recovery🙏  Thank you so much for all you do to share your journey with us❣️  
    • KayC
      People who are sincerely kind (without expectation of anything in return) are truly compassionate.  They are that way because they know deep down that we are all intimately inter-connected as part of this complex and eternal universe.   You figured it out, @Mary Jane.  You are enlightened❣️    
    • Timber Wolf
      Good morning everyone,🐀   Happy birthday benzenemess!🎂 Hope you have a wonderful day!   Lots of love, Timber Wolf 🐾
    • Liam da potato
      I meant "not aligned on the.. line" XD Can I ask how u did that?? OoO
    • Liam da potato
      I don't know how u did that but it's really impressive if your ok with comments I' say that the nose with mouth are not really on the vertical line that separates the head in 2, if you understand what I mean. (not my drawing) Mouth and nose are like that \ and eyes like that | But seriously that's really good!
    • Liam da potato
      nice ^^, how about Loic? Stephen? Mathew Michael argh I can't put my eyes away OO
    • Chrysalis
      Bless you Sweetie. . .hang on 'til the sun comes back up!
    • Chrysalis
      I dressed someone else's feeling about that very same sort of thing. What i said then and strongly suggest now is that you find a gender therapist! Like alcohol counselors, it is most typically Gender Therapists are trans themselves and so have been through the early stages of doubt and confusion and come through with experience and the knowledge that provides.  Hope that offers you some hope and help?
    • jae bear
      Thank you girls for all the really kind and hilarious comments, a few of those I laughed out loud so hard I think it shook the walls! I’m sure I’ll get through it just fine, I’ve already mixed up the jug of horribleness and have everything ready for tomorrow morning. Not my first rodeo so I’ll just “go with the flow”! Hugs to you all! Jackie
    • KayC
      THANK YOU @Susan R.  Yes it DOES❣️❤️❤️❤️
    • KayC
      Hi Charlotte!  Yes, I might say that, but I guess what I was really saying is .. .You can identify however you want (or not).  Its your life .. your identity .. and don't worry if it changes as you discover more of yourself.
    • Carolyn Marie
      https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2020/07/critical-resources-help-transgender-seniors-face-challenges-growing-older/   There are a lot more of us calendar-challenged sorts than many people realize.  Good info here.     Carolyn Marie
  • Upcoming Events

×
×
  • Create New...