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coming out to wife of 27 years part 2


Heather Shay

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last week i asked about telling your spouse. thought i would share my experience. i had never come out until last week. i tested the water by telling a gay male male. he was amazing in his support. secend i tried a young straight woman who is sort of a second daughter to me and she also was amazing in her support. saw my doctor yesterday about starting hrt and he said be honest so i sat down with my wife swallowed my fear and told her. i told her the facts and ask Dr.Z  (great gender specialist with youtube channel - if you have not checked her out please do ) she indicated to NOT ask for permission as that is not fair to them and i used that when talking to her. i cannot tell you how much weight fell off my shoulders.and lastly the ladies of TransPulse, you have given me love, advice, guidance and most important, a shoulder to lean on.

Thank You,

Shay

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And this mornig I finally got rid of the light beard I've been hiding behind for 50 years.

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Congratulations Shay. I agree a huge step forward. good luck on your journey

 

Kymmie

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Congratulations, Shay!

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thank you - these little victories feel so good when they come....and it's been a long time since the last one...

Shay

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Wonderful news @Shay.  I can remember the weight being lifted years ago.   Keep looking forward and smile! 
 

Jani

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thank you. i still cant believe how good it feels to come out of hiding.

Shay

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thank you....the road is long, its nice when im not always tripping over chuck holes

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