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first smooth face in 50 years


Heather Shay

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I had the most incredible day yesterday. Only took 68 years but I was able to talk to my doctor about HRT, do my blood work, set up appointments with an LGBTQ health care company for a HRT consult and team and start prcess of company therapist in my area. I finally came out to my wife of 27 years and she was supportive and this morning I got rid of the light beard (never could grow a big one and always told people I've been growing it for 50 years) and am now completely smooth faced and using LPI/eptilating. It sure would be nice to have clear sailing but at least some of the major hurdles in my life have finally been cleared and I owe a lot of the confidence building to do it to you wonderful new friends. Thank you SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Much ladies.

Shay

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This victory was all you @Shay. Enjoy it. May there be many more to come!

 

Hugs!

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thank you so much - you have been such a wonderful find and I really love your humor. I tend to be a punster and I have a lot of pun doing it.

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@Shay

 

All I can say is WOW,  You did more in a day than most of us do in years. Congratulations on having the courage to move forward and come out to your wife. That part of my transition was so difficult for me. It always amazes me when one us actually does it.  You have a new frontier to conquer and it looks like your wife will be right there with you. I happy for you?

 

My Best,

Susan R?

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thank you, to be honest i was scared sht <. 

she has fibro and  35 year old son with aspberger and she was in good mood after my band rehearsed so i mustered up my courage and .  what a way to ens this if she is with me. i shaved the little bit of beard still there this morning and even without the moisturizer i am glowing. 68 years is sure a long painful journey but a light came on thanks to you and my new sisters on transpulse. i owe you guys so much and best i can do is mental hugs and i hope some of my songs i am posting will bribng a smile or two.

Shay

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That's wonderful! I'm happy for you. That sounds alot like when I started this journey over a year ago. I started trying to get back in shape and nair'd my body hair away. It was so amazing to see the skin of my belly again. It's such a good feeling to do the things you need to to take care of yourself ?

 

~Toni

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You are 100% right and several years ago I tried the Nair route on my legs after shaving and looking as my wife said when she caught me using gray market E, "gosh those look like a teen girl shaving for the first time". The Nair smelled horrible. Now I shaved "delicately" and started epilating with laser. I always used to keep my beard to force me to hold back my wants but this morning when I shaved as smooth as possible (the skin didn't know what the hell was happening, especially below my lips) and I moisturized then used the laser on my full face and twice under my nose that has not been naked for 50 years. You know what, I feel about as whole as I can - next next consult on hormones - CAN'T WAIT!!!!

Thank you for your kindness,

Shay

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Congratulations on a joyful and productive day @Shay.  I wish that you can carry this feeling forward for many days!  I'm sure the look in the mirror was a bit different after you took care of those wayward hairs!  

 

Cheers, 

Jani

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you bet and you know what, it felt wonderful. i didnt even scare myself other than thinking i wont be to bad loving once the hrt kicks in snd more importantly when ixleatn hoe to do my make a whole lot better.

you are  so kind to comment and i am soooooo happy i found you ladies, you saved my life.

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Does that ipl laser really work for you? I've heard nothing but negative review about them...

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i think its too soon to tell. i hate to say it but i used it two times before i figured out how to use it. i will report back in a week or two. it indicates it takes a week or two....heres hoping...heck of a lot cheaper than electrolysis or professional lazer treatments.

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9 hours ago, Shay said:

68 years is sure a long painful journey

 

I can certainly relate, as I came out at 69 and am now 71.  But two years of not being constantly stressed out as I was before, of no longer hiding my gender identity, has done wonders for my sense of well-being.  No regrets whatsoever.  Therapy, electrolysis, HRT has really been beneficial for me, too.  All good and necessary steps on my journey.

 

Summary:  you go, girl! ?

 

Astrid

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Hi again Shay

I was reading an article the other day about electrolysis vs laser hair removal they referred to laser as permanent hair reduction but said electrolysis was the only permanent hair removal.

Don't know how true that is but if it is true then the laser would be a good way to reduce hair until you find out better. If need be you could have electrolysis to finish what the laser does not do. It would mean less treatments if you have to go to it.

Wish you well with your laser treatments and hope it works for you

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Carrie 

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gosh what amazing friends. thank you Astrid, we are nearly the same age and its nice to hear from a sister so close in age and journey. 

 

great advice Carrie, thank you.

 

Shay

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Hi Shay,

That's wonderful! It's especially great when those we love are accepting and supportive, isn't it?! You will never forget this day.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf ?

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gosh cannot believe the amount of love you give me. even though i dont start hrt until after my consult next week i want to cry. have not been this emotional in like a bazillion years.

Shay

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Hi Shay 

Be proud of who you are. We call came out at some time and is so good to see you taking your next step to who you are and who you want to be. ?

Lots of love and kisses

Carrie

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