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Erm one word to describe it all : woah

This morning I went down, you know TO EAT XD, I was feeling better cause I finally slept tonight, and my mom sees me and ask why am I dressed if I want to take a shower (I was wearing jean and shirt.. and not only)I explained I just slept in my shirt and my jean short is because I just have no clean pajama short XD. But then she asked "so, did, that mean you slept in your bra?!" (I'm wearing 2 sport bras as binder)(I didn't sleep on it btw but how could I tell her that I was wearing a bra before a shower it's stupid! And as I hate to lie I tried to look for a reason, and my parents kept asking "is it cause, idk, you feel cool in a bra, to flatten your chest, to ..?idk" And seeing how it was turning I just said the truth but not entirely. I said that I wasn't ready to tell them, I.. cried =3=.

And my dad says that they would never judge me (my mom went to take a shower), that after all they were the best parents XD and that they were made to accept every thing from me. So I felt a bit better and said that, it was indeed to flatten my chest. And surprisingly my dad said "and? Do you think I didn't know? it was kind of obvious ^^" and he said so much reassuring things, like this is me this is who I am, but he kept repeating me stuff, about my DNA, and that cause of it, I'll end up as a beautiful women.. aïe. So I said, "this.. is not my problem.." I think he was talking about the fact that I didn't accept my puberty that everyone was through this at my age and then some never accept it, and DNA and bla bla bla.. oho..

When I said it wasn't that, he said I know, it was an example (when he talked ofthe beautiful women). And he kept talking about DNA. Now let me explain what is DNA to my dad, it is a book where WE are all written. Like my DNA is my book about me. But it can be what I think my personality or you know XX chromosomes. He said (when I asked what aspects of my DNA made me) he said "You're chromosomes XX doesn't make YOU, it's just a category that Man created. It's not something that we know perfectly, when we watch a cell, we don't understand what is in it and bla bla, so.. he means what is.. in my BRAIN?! XD

He said, "what you're thinking what .. everyone think they want to be something else we all want, but what you want to be is you, this is what makes you!" 

I think he supports it. X'D he supports it!

And after he said.. that what I'm doing is not working I can't do anything about it, well not like that. Now I started to be scared of what he was going to say.. "If you want to do something about your chest wearing it while sleeping won't make it disapear, but there are other solutions" ?whu WHAT?!

And then the conversation was cut by mom cause we had a problem coming and all so I took my shower and while I was starting to write this, I heard them talking about it. Mom knows as well. And they seem accepting.. ???

(and if I didn't know what gender I was I was just putting the ftm away cause I was afraid of telling my parents)

I..

(I also wonder if my name wouldn't be Liam instead of Ethan, when I was young my parents told me that if I was a boy, I would be Liam)

I'm Liam/Ethan, ftm and I just came out to my parents?

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Squee! I'm so happy that your parents accept you for who you are!

 

Less happy about the dysphoria you're dealing with, but that's something we all have to deal with until we get things, um, attended to. Still, it's easier to deal with when the people in your life help.

 

Hugs!

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Yay! I'm so happy for you! Having the people in your life accept you makes it all the better. 

 

~Toni

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^^Thanx I'm feeling extremelly happy.

I talked to my mom said EVERYTHING, from A to Z, and in the beginning I tried to convince her cause, when she was young she wanted to be a boy so bad, and dad questioned his femininity, that is what they don't reject it. In the same time mom said that dad thought I was a lesbian XD, he thought that that was my coming out but mom understood and explained it to him.

I couldn't stop talking, I feel extremelly good this constant pain in my stomach, and my headache are gone, I think if I "didn't know what I was" is because I rejected it.

So my parents accept it, I'm feeling less pressure for the rest of the coming out. They bought me stuff, and all, but saying my name and pronouns are still hard for them, that's why they use my nick name XD and my mom still talks about me as her "daughter" but, she won't care if she hears Liam ( btw it's my new name, I'll make a post bout it probably ^^)

I'm so happy thank you guys for being here when I needed, and sorry for being harsh when I was feeling down that was mean..

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You don't want to be Ethan da potato anymore? That's completely doable, but you need to ask one of the devs. They don't trust me with such awesome power. ?

 

Also, your parents are trying. They won't get it right immediately, they're only human, but they'll get there and that's the important part. No apologies necessary. We've all been snappy when we felt out of sorts.

 

Hugs!

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My pleasure.

 

Hugs!

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That's wonderful news, Liam!  Congrats to you and a big virtual (((HUG))) to your parents, too.  They'll come around on the pronouns, hon.  Have patience.  That's one of the hardest things for most people to master.  I wish you all the best.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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I will say it in French and please Liam da potato do forgive of butchering that beautiful language. I learned French when I was a small kid:

 

"Je suis vraiment contente cher ami que vos parents vous a accepter"

English Translation: “I am really happy dear friend that your parents accepted you.”

 

 

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oh pas besoin de vouvoyer on est tous amis ici ^^

English Translation: oh no need worry we're all friends here

 

 

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