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Yesterday was a very good day for me.  I've been working as a Fresh Foods Chef for Harris Teeter (a Kroger owned company) for the last 3 years.  I transitioned on the job 11 months ago.  When the Covid-19 pandemic hit, the Chef's department was all but shut down.  We were responsible hot the hot bars, and special event stations in the store, and all of that stopped, so I kept working as just a Fresh Foods clerk.  In April, the department manager and the store manager took notice of me as a potential candidate for management (I do have a background as a Chef running multi-million dollar kitchens), and began giving me more responsibilities in the department and grooming me for the management program.


Yesterday I had an interview with the district manager at the corporate office and was offered a position as Assistant Fresh Foods Manager.  I am going to have to go to a different store for at least 8 weeks, but my current store manager says he is going to fight to get me back in his store afterwards, as he wants me as part of his leadership team.


I had taken a break from the management scene to work on both my physical and mental health (you know, transition, alcoholism, cancer, C-PTSD....) but now it's time to start moving forward again.  In these times, I know it seems that we are being constantly attacked for just being true to ourselves, but there are opportunities out there.  We can find acceptance.  We can succeed.

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Hi Mira

Congratulations! That is a big achievement.  Especially changing on the job that they still want you there speaks very highly.

Warm wishes


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Wow, Mira!  that is fantastic news.  To stack up all of your life challenges and throw in transitioning on-the-job?  You are an inspiration to everybody here I'm sure.



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Indeed, congratulations. This is very reassuring to hear that changing to better yourself does  not cause negative outcomes career-wise.


Thank you for sharing the hope and great news.




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Timber Wolf

Hi MiriaM, 


Congrat's and good luck!


Lots of love,

Timber Wolf 🐾


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Sally Stone

Way to go, Mira.  I'm so happy for you.😀

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Congrats Mira! Always nice to get recognized and rewarded for your work.

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