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Mary Jane

ok not really hear to ask but yea still don't know my gender but i think i narrowed it down to bigender, tans (i don't know if its transgender or transexual yet), and gender fluid. there really is so many pieces 1. before this school year i never even cared about it but i was closed off to care yet 2. I've wondered what my life might have been like if i was born a girl 3. there's a girl side of me right now its like a different version of me but not like a split personality i know this because met someone in a VR game that just brought the whole side out but he's just a friend 4. the parts of me that I've known is strong right now stronger than the girl side and 5. never really liked my voice when i hear a recording of it for me it doesn't even sound like me at all for me 

 

all of these and yea i still don't know i know i don't have to label myself of my gender so i do settle on one if it feels right and so that's another thing to consider because that's closer to gender fluid but i decide my gender right? so i still say unknown but most likely one of the 3, right now transgender and i think maybe bigender soon (as i said I'm probably genderfluid even tho I'm not saying i am yet. does it seem like i am?)

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Abi

Whatever you call the way you feel is only something you can decide. I can really relate to your question of what life would have been like if I had been AFAB. I am fairly certain I would never have asked what my life as a male would have been like. If you are happy with all of the pieces as they fit together for you, then that is what matters most right? The things that we aren't happy with just give us something to work on. Every day is an opportunity to grow and explore our feelings. I would just say, "live in the moment". 😊 

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I think if I was AFAB I would never have thought about it too and if i did I would probably just do what I’ve been doing aka playing video games probably the same games as now and it would have probably been better. And yea that’s what matters most, right now nothing really fits for me including life pieces but soon they will

 

ah the “live in the moment” haven’t heard it or seen it in a while but already am and will continue to do it I even try to remember it when I’m not doing it anymore

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