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Beverly

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So, it's been 5 weeks since surgery. Recovery is not fun, right, LOL? Does anyone enjoy dilation? Rhetorical question. I have a great physical therapist in the system who's been a big help with tips for dilation. I'm still dealing with soreness, which is to be expected. Who knew the pelvic floor muscles were so involved in every little body movement. I dread it when a sneeze starts coming on, yikes! If you're preparing for surgery, be sure to buy some comfy dresses. You'll want to wear these for comfort as much as possible.

 

It IS very liberating not dealing with tucking and dysphoria, but getting used to the new 'look' anatomy takes some time as swelling decreases and scaring at the incisions begins to soften in appearance. Honestly, at first, it looked pretty darn scary, LOL! It's looking much better now, and I'm happy with the results. If you opt for a full-depth vaginoplasty as I did, understand that you are getting a REAL vagina, and you have to learn how to take care of it just like a cis female.

 

Psychologically, as awesome and amazing having surgery can be, and it is, just prepare yourself mentally for some tough recovery weeks dealing with healing, pain, hygiene, dilation, change in routine and follow up doc visits, which for me is a 2-hour drive one way. It's a lengthy and difficult process, but it's life changing and so worth it. I was very comfortable in my own skin as a woman before surgery, but it's an awesome release from any self consciousness about 'hiding' a secret. No more secrets. It's a great feeling.

 

Lots of love,

 

Beverly ?

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2 hours ago, Beverly said:

Who knew the pelvic floor muscles were so involved in every little body movement. I dread it when a sneeze starts coming on

P.S. This is genuinely something I have heard many woman say lol.

 

So pleased for you, and thank you for the update Beverly. Keep taking care of yourself! x

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Yes recovery is not a walk in the park, as this was a serious surgery.  But you will do well.  Once things settle down a bit more and you get used to the routine, life will get back to a sense of normalcy.  

 

Did I miss it, is that a new avatar photo?

Jani

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7 hours ago, Jani said:

Did I miss it, is that a new avatar photo?

It is a new avatar, photo, Jani. Thanks for the well wishes!

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9 hours ago, DeeDee said:

 

P.S. This is genuinely something I have heard many woman say lol.

 

So pleased for you, and thank you for the update Beverly. Keep taking care of yourself! x

Ha ha, and you definitely don't want that while dilating, LOL!

5 hours ago, Kylie said:

Good to hear @Beverly! I’m glad your recovery is going well! Keep us all updated.

 

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Thanks, Kylie!

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1 hour ago, Kylie said:

Ha! @Beverlyive learned over the last 2 months sneezing and coughing are no fun! I agree, I coughed one time while dilating, weird!

LOL! Same. I coughed while dilating the first week, tried my best to suppress it, didn't, and the thing shot out of my canal like a darn missile! ?

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Hi again everyone, thought I'd post a 3 month post-op update. Everything has healed nicely and I had my first intercourse last Wednesday. What an empowering female experience.  The initial penetration was uncomfortable, but after that it was quite enjoyable. My friend loves the new vagina, lol! He was very impressed with how it turned out. Yay! I was so nervous about that. Still keeping up my dilation routine. I decided to make it more tolerable, and even fun, by stimulating my clitoris with a small vibrator while dilating. It helps the time pass. Sensation is returning and I experience what I describe as multiple less-intense orgasms. It's definitely a different kind of pleasurable feeling that I'm getting used to. It's actually something my medical team wanted me to do to stimulate those nerve reconnections. I no longer dread my dilation routine ☺️. Can't wait for my next real time, lol! Hope you're all well and having an amazing journey.

Beverly

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