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10 days and counting to SRS

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jae bear

It’s getting so close now, and of course I worry that surgeries will be delayed again if Covid gets worse, but so far things are still marching along and my scheduled SRS is 10 days away. Of course it will be awful if it gets delayed but I’m a big girl, I’ll just figure out what to focus on next and do what needs to be done... I’ve been going back to school so I will just shift my focus towards my schoolwork and see if I could complete the practicum portion before surgery? Otherwise I’m just going to Work my tail off and get everything ready, eight days from now I have to start the bowl prep process and a clear liquid diet before surgery...
 

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Carrie

Hi Jae

I am very happy for you.  Thank you for pointing to this site I am amazed at the lovely people here. 

May your surgery be on time and as easy as possible.

Take care

Carrie

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Susan R
44 minutes ago, jae bear said:

so far things are still marching along and my scheduled SRS is 10 days away.

Wow, this is an incredible time for you @jae bear. The anticipation must be daunting. I wish you the best of all possible outcomes with your surgery and recovery. Keep us updated!

 

My Best,

Susan R🌷

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KathyLauren

How exciting, @jae bear!  It was only back in March that I was in the same position, so I remember the feeling well.  It will be a whirlwind of activity, but enjoy every minute of it.  I wish you an excellent outcome!

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KayC

Just connected @jae bear and catching up on some of your previous posts.  You've come a long way!

 

Wishing you all the best❣️

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Cyndee

@Jae Bear - I agree with Kathy, it is a whirlwind, and time moves at different rhythm then. My fingers are crossed for you, that circumstances will be kind.

 

Best

 

Cyndee

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VickySGV

You are heading into the eye of the storm for sure.  It will go fast though, and then the healing journey will begin. 

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BrandiBri

Wow, you've come so far Ino the last two years! So happy for you and wishing you the best! 

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Jani

Oh  Jackie, I remember when you first came on board here!  Quite a different person now, confident and beautiful!  I'm happy that you've come to this point and know it will go fine. 

 

Hugs, Jani

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Dinaki

Dear @jae bear, if any pain you'll experience, may be pain of happiness and joy!

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jae bear

Well, just a few more days now, I had my last day at work yesterday and I’m just kind of lying around cleaning up a bit... I have to start drinking the bowel prep gallon of horrors tomorrow, not looking forward to it but I’m sure I’ll do just fine. I’ll make the occasional post here as I am recovering, let you girls know how I’m doing- I’m glad the day is finally coming, sometimes I’m excited about it sometimes I’m relieved, but mostly I’m glad I got this far and things all seem to of worked out just fine!

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Dinaki

Always keep smiling dear @jae bear.Good Luck!!!

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Jackie C.

Good luck! Especially with the bowel prep. That was brutal.

 

Hugs!

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KathyLauren

Good luck, @jae bear

 

I didn't find the bowel prep that bad.  On the other hand, bringing my guts back online afterwards was brutal.  I had enough gas to fill the Goodyear blimp!

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Mmindy
1 hour ago, jae bear said:

I’m glad I got this far and things all seem to of worked out just fine!

Prayers, Positive Thoughts, Candles, and Incense are lit for you to have a safe and speedy recovery.

Thank you for being the Mama Bear as Jackie Rabbit too. You have been such a big help.

 

>Hugs<

 

Mindy🐛🌈🦋

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Jani

All my best to you dear Jackie!  As to the prep, we all must go through the tough time to get to the good ones.  I'll be in touch.

Hugs, Jani

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VickySGV

Drink it up lass it all comes out fine in the end!!  Do be sure your doctor lets them give you Gas-X for the first couple of days but you will do fine.

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Cyndee

The bowel prep and the fasting is kinda brutal in it's own way, then you can look forward to that first meal on the other side, sure tastes great !

 

Best wishes

 

Cyndee

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DeeDee

Good luck with everything Jackie! :)

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Tory Aoi

I'm so happy for you!  I wish you the best of luck, I'm sure everything will turn out fine of course!

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Madelyn

That’s awesome, so happy for you🤗

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jae bear

Thank you girls for all the really kind and hilarious comments, a few of those I laughed out loud so hard I think it shook the walls! I’m sure I’ll get through it just fine, I’ve already mixed up the jug of horribleness and have everything ready for tomorrow morning. Not my first rodeo so I’ll just “go with the flow”!

Hugs to you all!

Jackie

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KayC

That's great Jackie!

Sending sincere prayers for a smooth procedure and recovery🙏  Thank you so much for all you do to share your journey with us❣️


 

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jae bear

Well, it’s 9 AM, everything is prepared so I guess I’m off to the races! Wish me luck!

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Jackie C.

Luck!

 

Big hugs. It'll be over before you know it!

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