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Thanksgiving on the 4th of July

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It may be Independence Day, but today I want to find out what you are thankful for... sort of a MTF THANKSGIVING DAY. 

I am so thankful I found you ladies. You have given me so much hope, comfort and support. In the month since I joined, I came out to some friends and wife, discussed hrt with doctor, signed up with LGBTQ care network Equitas Health, had my first consult with my NP and will start my hormones next week.

I may not have started hormones but I sure am feeling very emotional right now with joy and tears at the same time.

Thank You...Mental Hugs,


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I am a big fan of thanksgiving at any time.  One thing I am thankful for right now is the opportunity to share in your joy, Shay!


I am thankful mostly for having a wife who understands and supports me.  Within the first two minutes after I came out to her, she said, "Whatever you decide to do, I will support you."  Wow!  She meant it, too.  Her support has made the rest of my transition almost effortless.  (Significantly, our wedding anniversary is the Thanksgiving weekend.)


I am thankful for neighbours who support me.  For other neighbours who are accepting even if they are a bit puzzled.  For living in a wider community where the prevailing ethos is that, if you don't know how to behave around someone, be polite.  For living in a society where people look out for each other.


I am thankful to have had medical insurance that enabled my physical transition.  For having good enough health to go ahead with it.


I am thankful for the psychologists, psychiatrist, medical doctors, and support groups, including online groups such as this, for the psychological support that helped me get clear in my own mind about what I wanted and how to get there.


I sure have a lot to be thankful for!

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I do not celebrate the 4th of July ( I am foreigner in your country), but I am thankful that I am a live and live the woman I so desired when I was just 5 years old.

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Both are such beautiful answers. I hope to be able to share your joy ... like.... forever.


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