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That person in the mirror


DragonflyGirl

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I'm good at seeing things that aren't there in the mirror. I know I'm slightly built, but I often see an obese person or a body builder, and I know it's my brain playing tricks on me.

 

Every now and then my brain forgets to do this and I notice a massive change, as though it's happened overnight. Back in March it was my face that seemed to have just suddenly changed one morning. Today it's my body.

 

I looked in the mirror expecting to see Conan the Barbarian as usual, but instead I was absolutely thrilled to see a recognisably female shaped body that's not untypical for thin brunettes! It was a milestone moment, and I have to keep checking it's real! ??

 

If I'm seeing something that's not there again, at least my brain has imagined something that's made me happy this time! ??

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Congratulations! 

 

Confidence comes next!

 

Hugs!

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Funny how how i hated the mirror for a long time.  Then it became a love hate thing.  Today i'm simply trying to love whoever i see with as little judgement as possible.  Sure brushing my wig or a little makeup can ice the cake a bit but it still tastes as sweet and maybe it's less fattening without icing.

Times has almost made the mirror my friend.  I no longer feel i will scare people or myself.

 

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Charlize

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It's just so nice to look into the mirror and see a person I can properly recognise as myself for the first time since about 13.

 

That was when I started to retreat into my shell, knowing that people weren't seeing me any more. I'd become hidden behind this man thing that had taken over my body.

 

It's taken me a long time, but now I'm taking it back!

 

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That's so wonderful! It's something I am working on in therapy and hope to get there someday. We are so tough on ourselves. I don't know we can show everyone else love, but when it comes to ourselves, we fall short.

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We are hard on ourselves because we wish for so much more sometimes and it is hard to see.the bad things or things that don't look quite right.  We do get there eventually and as you do you will be more happy with yourself. Life gets better and better as we become what we want. ?

 

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I have not started HRT yet, but once I do, looking in the mirror is going to be difficult for me. I brush out my hair every morning and put it up in a ponytail before work. If I dont shave for a few days, I look like a guy w long hair and boons! *I use breast forms. Sleep in them, drive to work with them, take them out for work, put them back to go home and keep them until I get back to work again. Or showers. Lol! 

 

I love my look when I'm clean shaven, have my forms on and my hair is dressed up. Ive even started learning how to French braid it. Such an amazing feeling! 

 

So proud you are seeing the you that you deserve to see! I hope I maintain that for myself after starting HRT.

 

Hugs ❤️

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