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Holly92

A simple post as I'm new and extremely anxiety prone. This is me, the only thing  I have changed is the length of my hair (digital wig). How do you think HRT will effect me and do I have a chance of passing? Much love ❤️

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VickySGV

Tone the eye make-up down (wrong color for the hair -- ) and you will do fine in my estimation.

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Jackie C.

You'll be fine. Look at all the disparate sizes and shapes of the women around you. It's all good.

 

Vicky's right about the eye makeup though. It could definitely match your hair better. Or you could just dye your hair black and go goth. Whatever you think is the best fit.

 

Hugs!

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Hi Holly!  Welcome and nice to meet you!
Well, I am the last transfeminine person here who should give makeup advice.  As I have told others before, after I try to put on eye makeup it looks like I've been in a bar fight ?


But, being new on this Forum you will find lots of great posts, advice and experience about your questions on HRT (I haven't started HRT yet, but I am convinced now it will likely help my dysphoria/anxiety issues).  Also, gender therapy is another common recommendation.

We are all here to support each other and have the same goal ... to be happy❣️

 

Deep breaths ... one step at a time

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Charlize

I think you will pass easily but perhaps i'd suggest looking at other women's makeup (not in magazines).  Most do little or no makeup beyond lipstick or a bit of powder.  When i was first going out i over did it but time has made me realize less is often better.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

 

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Holly92

Ok, I tried another one with the digital wig but otherwise just natural makeup. I'm sensitive but I want people to be critical, things are so overwhelming at the moment and I'm genuinely after opinions. Much love ❤️

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you have a prefect fem face. Will have no pro being recognized as CIS  Your Charlize is right less is more. But i understand where your at. I am constantly over doing my eyes. Esp now were mask cover up everything but your eyes. Be safe, BE Proud and KICK ASS

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Susan R

@Holly92 Due to your younger age and current feminine looks and with some nicely done makeup, proper feminine movements and gestures, and a real wig, you could easily pass as you are right now without HRT.  With HRT it’s almost a no brainer.  Voice does add an additional dimension and is needed if you want to pull it off completely. It wouldn’t take you long to blend with just a little effort and time.

 

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Jackie C.

Put on a shirt girl! This isn't that kind of site!

 

You look fine. I've seen cis women that look less like a woman than you do while I'm out running errands. With a little makeup, you could be a knockout.

 

Hugs!

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You have a beautiful face and features, Holly.  Just as you are❣️

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I agree with everyone else, very femme features, even pre-HRT. You have a lovely face.

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