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Guest Elizabeth K

Trick Question

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Guest Eagledancer

This just cracked me up...I waited for the answer to be given just in case I was wrong...lol...I got the BECAUSE but I finished it in a very parental explicative! My final answer...BECAUSE I SAID SO! Godspeed...

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Guest ChloëC

um, Left Field.

(look it up! )

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Carolyn Marie

OK, I hope I don't ruin the humorous nature of this topic, but the question reminded me

of this quote from Robert Kennedy:

"There are those who look at things the way they are, and ask why...

I dream of things that never were, and ask why not?"

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Jean Davis
Oh....wait......

You mean it's NOT "42"?

DANG!

Donna Jean

Don't feel bad my first answer was YES :huh:

Then I changed it to NO. :blink:

Finally I settled on MAYBE. :unsure:

Seemed like the safest answer :rolleyes:

LUV

Jean

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Guest Roberta1

WHY? (Taken from one of the books not included in the Bible: The Book of Roberta, as told around the campfire whilst toasting marshmallos)

Once upon a time, long, long ago, and far, far away, God was playing in her laboratory. She said to herself, "self, I think it would be nice to

put these two things together, and see what happens." One of the things had a hole in it, the other had a protruberance, and it seemed likely

that the two things might just fit together. Not only did they fit together, but they wouldn't come apart, no matter how much God tried...

Eventually, the two things erupted with such a force that it could only be described as an explosion (scientists now like to call it the "big bang

theory). Not only was God's laboratory destroyed, but all the debris continued to travel to every part of the known empty, filling the void as it

were. Later, but only slightly, when God was out for a walk, looking over the new spacescape, she encountered a stranger. The stranger

asked God if she would like to play a game. "What kind of game?" she asked. "Marbles" came the answer. Well, God had never heard of

marbles and asked how it was played. I won't go into the details, but marbles was the game of choice for eons. Finally, after all the marbles

were pocked and cratered from playing, God was tiring of the game, because none of the marbles would track straight any more, she decided

that it was time to invent something else. I never had any pets while I was growing up, she thought. Maybe it is not too late to right this

oversight. Then she thought back, gee, look at what happened way back when I put those two things together... And she started to do some

baking in the kitchen, but couldn't seem to get the ingredients quite right. Some of the things had holes, some had protruberances, but some

of the things had both, and some had neither. This can't be right, she said. But then, it came upon her: That she had used so many

different ingredients, and neglected to keep track, that this is just the way things are going to have to be. All these things will have to just

get along with each other, despite of their differences, end of story! Now, I wonder where I can keep my menagery? It just so happened, that

there was one big blue marble left over that wasn't in too bad a shape. You guessed it! All the things were put together in one place so that

God could come and play with them from time to time. But then, she thought, they are so messy, and need taking care of all the time, and I

just don't have all that much time any more, what with all my responsibilities, trying to fit in listening to all the prayers, and doing miracles all

the time, etc. I know, I will make it so that the things are responsible for themselves. I'll invent "cleanup on aisle seven". This worked for

quite a while, or at least until some of the things didn't like what some of the other things were doing. Why should we clean up after them all

the time? So some of the things got irked at some of the other things, and decided to go away, and live by themselves. Some say that this

was around the time that all the things were trying to see God by building a really high-rise building, but since writing hadn't been invented

(that would come later on some mountain) there is no coraboration to the story. Any way, to get back to the point: the building project

didn't work out as well as was expected, and fights broke out, and the bosses got mad at the workers who showed up drunk, (well you know

how you can't count on some of those things...) Any how, it looked like rats fleeing a sinking ship! Things flew in all directions.

And thats why.

Sincerely,

Roberta

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Guest Elizabeth K

Roberta is off her meds!

HEE HEE - FUN

{In a good way!}

LIZZY

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Guest Roberta1

Meds?

it is nise two no that ssomebody reeds thise stuff.

chinserely,

me again,

Rooobertaaaaaaa!

lets sheenow where is perview/???

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Guest Vicky

Meds? WHY? sorry, WHY NOT? :)

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Guest kelise

OK, I'm leaving the religion forums now.

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JJ

A question too often not allowed to to be asked

And all too often unanswerable!

JJ

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Guest RachaelAnn

Having been raised a Roman Catholic, I have to go with why not?

I don't presume to say anything about other's experiences who were/are Catholic, but at the church I was taken to they went out of their way to break your spirit. I've hated all of it since I was 5.

Others have given quotes that coinside with how they feel, so I'm going to try one, and believe me I'm NOT trying to offend anyone or step on anyone's toes.

"The idea of God is the sole wrong for which I cannot forgive mankind."

-Marquis de Sade

Rachael

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Guest kelise

"The idea of God is the sole wrong for which I cannot forgive mankind."

-Marquis de Sade

Rachael

I <3 you.

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Guest RachaelAnn

I <3 you.

Confused. What is <3?

Rachael

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Guest ~Brenda~

Confused. What is <3?

Rachael

<3 is another way to represent a heart. "I <3 you" means "I love you"

Brenda

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Guest Katrina Reann

Why?? Because we are individuals. So accept it already!!

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Guest Sam_P

"The idea of God is the sole wrong for which I cannot forgive mankind."

-Marquis de Sade

Going to have to agree with this one - 'tis a crying shame. :(

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