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Hi Everyone,

I'm Bri.  I just recently had the epiphany/acceptance of being a trans-female.  I haven't told anyone yet except my GP and  got  connected with a therapist and had an initial "assessment" virtual visit. #awkward. I'm 53 and married with two kids in their 20s.  I'm both really excited that I have accepted who I am and my desire to move forward but honestly scared to -crap- about what will happen when I come out to my wife and kids who are the world to me.  Luckily I own my own biz so don't have to worry about being fired or anything.  I'm going to need a lot of support from you all, and I apologize in advance for all my stupid questions.  I'm so lost, I hate to admit I have avoided being engaged in the LBGTQ community so I'm so ignorant of everything, although I've been a political ally.  I think I've just be avoiding the truth my whole life and it was a defense mechanism.  

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No worries, everybody starts ignorant. The important thing is willingness to learn.

 

Welcome to TransPulse! We're glad to meet you Bri, I hope you find what you're looking for here. We're pretty friendly and really good at offering support.

 

Hugs!

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Welcome Bri. We all have to start somewhere. It wasn't that long ago I was at where you are now. It's great that you've connected with a therapist, I have been helped so much and continue to be helped through my therapist, with trans and just general life issues.

 

I know how much fear and anxiety can pile on when you realize who you are and then realize you will need to tell your family. Coming out is not an easy thing. I wish you the best when you are ready to take that step.

 

You will find that this is a very supportive and loving bunch of folks here. Look around, you will likely find lots of your questions have been asked and answered by others, but don't hesitate to ask any yourself.

 

Have a wonderful day! Hugs!

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Hi Bri,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf ?

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Welcome Bri to trans pulse forums, and thanks for your intro post, nice to have you with us :)

 

Have a look around, many folks here can probably relate your situation. Hope you enjoy your time with us

 

Hugs

 

Cyndee

 

 

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Welcome Bri.

You don't have to align yourself with the LGBT for starters.

Coming out to your family is a much more important thing to do IF you want to come out to them at all.

Coming out to family is not always the right choice so you have to weigh what their response might be.

Some wives will end a marriage over something like that.

You have your business to think of but say your wife isn't happy about you being a CDer or trans she might just take your business home and family away from you.

These are all huge questions you have to deal with. There is way more to this than you can imagine.

I am glad you have come to terms with it yourself and thats a start.

 

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Greetings Bri,

as you can read, there is a wonderful, caring support group here 

Heather Shay

 

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Hello Bri, welcome!  You have lots to think about and speaking with a therapist can help.  They won't tell you who you are or what you should do but they can guide you to a good decision (for you).  We are all different, with different paths.  Find yours.  Join in the conversation! 

Jani

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Yep everyone is different and this whole thing is not a cut and dried "one size fits all" thing.

Best to ask questions here or get a therapist to help you.

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Hi, Bri and Welcome! 
I am pretty much in the same place as your are as far as recent "epiphany" and I can tell you .. You have found a GREAT place to start by being part of the Forum.
My epiphany was about 3 or 4 years ago, and included coming out to my wife (only, so far).  That part has been a rollercoaster but we are still together and trying to work through this.  I encourage your efforts with your therapist as being a part of if/when/how to come out to your family. 

 

Hope to hear more from you in the future.  Wishing you all the best❣️

Deep breaths ... one step at a time

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Welcome Bri. Realizing that there is nothing wrong with us, and others share the same questions and emotions is very comforting and a deep relief. Coming out to a spouse can seem daunting, but lifts a huge weight from our shoulders.  I had a lot of anxiety and fear when I came out  to my wife, so know what may be going through your mind. I think you will find that there is a lot of support here to help with your journey ♥️

 

Janae

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What up Bri..

1st LGBTQ...etc is a great resource for things like meds, referrals to Doc's and therapist . So you might  want to give then a look see,.

2 There's plenty of women on this site whom have gone through what your going through., so this place is prefect source of research , support and love. 

3. Congrats on your commitment , courage and will be up front with yourself and fam..I think that's the hardest part of this whole journey. Be safe, BE Proud, and KICK ASS  

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