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Bri2020

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I came out to my wife this morning and WOW, I thought I couldn't love her more but wow! She was totally supportive and excited about our future together with me being my true self.  She and I understand there will be challenging times but she actually said she wants the challenge, wants to live our authentic selves! Even called me her wife.  OMG I'm still crying.  Well, the cat's out of the bag so no turning back.  I will remember this day the rest of my life as one of the best days.  She's lucky to also have a good friend who is a psychologist and has a trans kid so I told her its totally OK to talk to her and also her best friend for support.  I can't believe how good I am with her being out to her special people.  Next challenge- my kids. That may be a bit since my daughter (who is bi) is facing her own struggles in life (not related to sexuality) and I don't want to dump on her right now.  I'm confident both my kids will be OK with it, but once they know I know there will be a cascade which I'm not quite ready for.  Oh Happy Day!

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29 minutes ago, KayC said:

That's really great news, Bri!  Very happy for you and your wife❣️

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OK, sure, but now that you've won at life what do you do next? ?

 

Very happy for you sweetie! Once your spouse is in your corner you can do ANYTHING.

 

Hugs!

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33 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

OK, sure, but now that you've won at life what do you do next? ?

 

Very happy for you sweetie! Once your spouse is in your corner you can do ANYTHING.

 

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Right? Next is moving forward with therapy so I can start hormones which my wife was cool with.  (cool with what ever I need to do including full GRS)  I have to cool my jets and take it slow which is soooooo not me. LOL. Once I make up my mind on things it's usually full steam ahead.  Tempering myself is very hard but I know it's the smart approach.  I've only been on the forum for a short time but you all gave me such courage when I read all your stories and the immediate acceptance I felt here. Such a big thank you to everyone!!!

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I get that too. I'm terrible at waiting. I felt that 48 years was more than long enough to wait. WPATH standards did not agree. I'll admit that the time helped me take off weight and work on my health too. Remind yourself that you need to give the healthcare industry time to cross their t's and dot their i's, then you need to give the HRT time to do its work. On top of that there are meetings and consults with specialists... I managed to go from starting Therapy to finishing GCS (on 1.5 years of HRT) in just under two years. That's a super short timeline and I didn't do it during a pandemic. So yeah, there's a lot of hurry up and wait.

 

Hugs!

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Congrats Bri! That is fantastic! As Jackie said, once you've got your partner on board, you can do anything. Hugs!

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24 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

I get that too. I'm terrible at waiting. I felt that 48 years was more than long enough to wait. WPATH standards did not agree. I'll admit that the time helped me take off weight and work on my health too. Remind yourself that you need to give the healthcare industry time to cross their t's and dot their i's, then you need to give the HRT time to do its work. On top of that there are meetings and consults with specialists... I managed to go from starting Therapy to finishing GCS (on 1.5 years of HRT) in just under two years. That's a super short timeline and I didn't do it during a pandemic. So yeah, there's a lot of hurry up and wait.

 

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Yea, if I can at least get on hormones in a few months time I would be happy. I'm going to start facial electrolysis as soon as I can to at least start on that ridiculously painful and financial process.  They're currently doing it in my area but only in 45 minute sessions so that will take years to complete but I feel as long as I get started it will help my psyche. I also want to get rid of a few masculine tats I got while trying to convince myself I wasn't feminine.  Voice lessons too.  So much I can do while the system catches up to me.

 

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OMG! I might have the best wife in the world right now. I came home from work to a card and present. The card was addressed to my new femme name and she bought me panties and a cute sleep outfit.  She gave me permission to wear them around her or in private, whichever I was ready for. She admits it's challenging for her but stated, I'm all in so I might as well embrace it and get comfortable with it.  I'm crying.

 

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Sorry sweetie, we're not allowed to show pictures of panties on the site. Super happy for you dear!

 

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Big congrats to both you and your wife.  It is wonderful thing to hear.  I wish you all the best.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hey!

 

That is great! I am happy for you! Wow! Incredible! I am speechless! That is so rare this days - the good news, the news about acceptance and love! 

 

Wish you a lot of love, strength and courage in the future! 

 

Hugs! 

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That was so sweet of her! It sounds like you two are in for a wonderful journey together!

 

Hugs,

Brandi

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