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Ideas to draw out pronouns on random calls

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I posted a request on the "achieving Feminine Voice" but I got no responses - I wanted to test my progress on my voice feminization exercises and making random calls to some stores and  a hair salon to see if they think I am female from my voice on the phone. I tried but no one used ma'am or any language to let me know if they thought I was female. I even tried a hair salon and said I'd have to check with my husband about taking me and that didn't work either.


Any experience and how you used phrases or something to draw out if they thought you were a girl?


Thank You,





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For me it moved from "he" to "her" at some point without me totally understanding why exactly. One thing to keep in mind is that many people who work in public job will actually be thoughtful and avoid using those pronouns if they are not sure. Maybe that's what you are experiencing. Maybe your voice is now in the "androgynous" range and people are more careful?


It's funny because in french it's very much part of a certain "etiquette". I found out that if I call in more serious institutions like banks or government  they tend to call people "madame" or "monsieur". I don't know if it's like that in the usa? Maybe try that, try calling a bank, lol :P


anyway, good luck in your quest ;)

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Good idea - calling government or banks or institutions - I'll give it a try and tell you how it goes.


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Be patient and give it some time. There will be a day you aren’t reaching for the pronoun yet it will find you. It all seems stars only align once the time is right. ❤️

Just keep doing the work for yourself and that day will come. 


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For someone who I imagine is still in some pain - you are amazing and I thank you for the support - I admire you, I am thankful for you, you are my heroine. 

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