Saying Hi. Newb here

[RachelS]

Hello everyone. My name is Rachel. I was born with all those ugly boy bits. I have felt different since high school. 30 years or so. Didnt know what it was. Did the the male stuff growing up and into adult hood. All feeling like I was wrong. Never have been attracted to boys always girls. Growing up I remember wearing girls underwear and that made me feel better. It wasn't till my first marriage that I started wearing more women's clothes. In private though. My then wife encouraged it but we just thought it as cross dressing. Flash forward to my 3rd marriage and I have come to realized that I am transgender. My now wife is okay with it but she does have concerns. So I hope we both can use this site for support. Prior to The Covid I was scheduled to see a endocrinologist that my then primary set me up with but couldn't go because of things being shut down. Looking forward to getting all set back up and going forward. 

[Cyndee]

Welcome @RachelS - to trans pulse forums, and thanks for your intro post

 

That's great news having your wife onboard Rachel, and may it continue to go well.

 

Have a look around our forums, join in the conversations, you can start your own topics or answer others, it's up to you.

 

Post away as the mood strikes ya

 

Hugs

 

Cyndee

[Heather Shay]

@RachelS welcome. You have found others with similar backgrounds and age. As Cyndee says it is good to have support from your wife and know you are among friends who will support you unconditionally and will try our best to share our experiences and help as we can.

Heather Shay

[Susan R]

6 hours ago, RachelS said:

My now wife is okay with it but she does have concerns. So I hope we both can use this site for support.

Hello Rachel, It’s a pleasure to meet you. It’s so nice to have spousal support with your transition as you’ve read.  If possible...take it slow and steady as your wife is making mental adjustments along the way also. It’s scary for them not being in control of changes that affect them. Letting your spouse assist with transition related decisions helps them and essentially keeps them from feeling powerless or worse...helpless.

In my marriage, I try to communicate as clearly and as often as possible, I ask for my spouses advice, ask her what her opinions are, and on occasion, I ask her for approval with something new for us. It’s a transition for us both and it has been working well. With a little effort and lots of patience, soon her concerns will be a thing of the past.

Thanks for joining us here today. It’s always nice to see a new face. I hope to read more about you and your journey.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

[Elizabeth Star]

Hi Rachel. Nice to meet you.

[KayC]

13 hours ago, RachelS said:

I have come to realized that I am transgender. My now wife is okay with it but she does have concerns.

Hi Rachel!  nice to meet you, and Welcome!

You will find many stories and journeys here similar to yours, including my own.  So, I am sure this Forum will be a great assistance to your and your wife.
I have a wife with "concerns" also, and the advice on communicating is really important.  The other advice I received here  .. start gender therapy for myself (and also including the spouse if possible) has been the been life changing,  I hope you are on that same path.

 

Hoping to hear more from you❣️

Deep breaths ... one step at a time

[Bri2020]

Hi and Welcome Rachel!  Ditto to all the above comments.  You could try and see if your endocrinologist will do telehealth consults.  As long as you can go get labs drawn somewhere they shouldn't need to "see" you in person.  Mine was happy to do that.  Just a thought since Covid isn't going anywhere over the winter.  Once again, great to have you part of our online community here.

Hugs

Bri

[Confused1]

Hi Rachel,

 

Welcome to the site. I am one State South of you. I have a telehealth consult with a endocrinologist next month. I'd bet if you call you can get a consult with someone near you as well.

 

I will ditto the above comments. Most wives struggle with this, at least in the beginning. The more you communicate and let your wife participate in decisions the easier it tends to be.  As Susan stated, it is a transition for both of you.

 

I think you will find others here with stories similar to your own and resources to help you wife.

 

Hugs,

Mike

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Rachel.  I hope that you and your spouse find the information, support and connections here that you need.  You are lucky that your wife is being supportive so far.  I hope that continues.  Best of luck to you both.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[RachelS]

Thank you everyone for the kind words, support and advice. I look forward to posting more about my journey. Hugs!