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Inhibition Theory and "True Self"


Heather Nicole

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Heather Nicole

Ok, so this isn't directly an "alcohol abuse" topic per se, but its an open ended question that does relate to both alcohol and trans-ness, and as far as I can tell, this seems like the best place to ask something I've been wondering about for a long time...

 

I've noticed an interesting phenomenon: While I'm usually very questioning and hesitant about being trans (on and off, to varying degrees), literally ANY time I consume even a moderate amount, all doubt disappears and I "know" my true desire is to be female and that transitioning is absolutely right for me, no doubt whatsoever. And not that I remotely advocate it, or have any reason to imply any validity whatsoever to "alcohol-fueled ideas", but strictly for the sake of relevant data, I have definitely noticed that the more I drink, the more certain I am. (Which, yea, again is perhaps very much in line with alcohol-driven impulsiveness and impaired judgment and all.)

 

I'm not saying any of that means anything, but I find it an intriguing potential(?) piece of the puzzle that is "me".

 

Related to this, when I was in college, I had a friend who took...some kind of psychology course. Not sure what class exactly, but there was one thing in it he mentioned to me, and I found it such an interesting, plausible concept that it stuck with me, even decades later. Granted, I have zero background in psychology so I have no basis for judging the validity, but the idea was this:

 

Alcohol is well known to break down "inhibitions", therefore (so the theory goes), it brings out one's "true self", whether that be an angry abusive individual, a sorrowful one, a fully-content happy social one, or whatever else. I know that's only a theory...but my fully-amateur-at-psychology mind finds it intriguing and plausible...And I have always been absolutely full of inhibition...OMG, like you have NO idea...

 

I'll fully admit, there's a part of me that definitely wants this to be a clear sign that transitioning is right for me. But the trained-logician side of me (which I have very deliberately cultivated over the years and value very much) goes, "Whoa...there, buddy! Better do your due diligence first, and fully research all your assumptions and guesswork!"

 

So that's where I am. Aside from the very obvious "Yea, I should limit/eliminate my drinking!", which I won't disagree with...Anyone here have any background in psychology? If so, any insight into this "theory of alcohol"?

 

Or even more generally, is this something anyone here can relate to? If so, what experience can you offer?

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I can totally relate to this. And while I have a biology degree, my experience in psychology is zero.

 

I can say, however, when I thought i was a cross dresser, I would often begin with a glass, or three, of Shiraz. It certainly calmed me and I recall my feelings of "this is exactly how I want to spend the rest of my life" were far greater after the alcohol relaxed me.

 

Hardly scientific evidence, but I can relate.

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I have no background in psychology. For what its worth, I don't think cis people question their gender too much.

 

Hugs,

Mike

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I have only a basic understanding of psychology and can not offer any advice as that is not my place. I would say this though, alcohol very well may lay our inhibitions to the side when we drink it. That does not mean that we will react to these moments with a responsible and well thought out plan of action. The very concept of using a substance and gauging our true selves based on this experience has too many potentially negative outcomes. One very big problem is in how this becomes a crutch and is still an act of hiding behind something which is feared in an effort to find comfort. That, to me, seems like something we should wish to avoid. Just my uneducated opinion.

 

Great now my head is all hurty and stuff. :blowup:

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