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Right before electrolysis and therapist appointments my wife said we had to talk. We did and it was a tearful and long discussion but I'm  glad she did. Had I not been on HRT I would have fallen apart but I was loving "in the moment" and gave my complete attention to her concerns. 

 

It drained her and me ... We talked through the electrolysis and I called in to apologize and rescheduled but I did make my appointment with my Therapist and it was a very good meeting.

 

I am not good with expressing my emotions and she gave me home work to help and she gave wonderful advice to discuss with my wife and welcomed her at any session or alone but felt she isn't ready yet and that we two have more groundwork to do.

 

I'm lucky. I have a wonderful wife and friends here who understand and co feel so good to finally have a therapist I feel really good about.

 

I am still drained but hopeful and optomistic

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The long and winding road

 

HUGS

 

C

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Thank you all in all yesterday was rewarding in many ways especially learning I really am on the right path and HRT is really right for me and 

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Talking through the issues is critical for success.  All my best to you! 

Hugs, 

Jani

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I'm happy that you are on the right path with your hormones, have a good therapist and more importantly a supportive wife.

Kudos girl!

 

Hugs,

Brandi

She, Her, Hers

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@Shay Sorry it was a rough day, but sometimes we need to have tough conversations to get through to a solution. This is true for any relationship, and at least you are still able to talk to each other.

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    You are always so attentive to the needs of the people you care about. I am certain you are working very hard to make sure your wife is ok with her feelings. It is reasonable that some days may be stressful along the way for either of you. Patience and honesty are the best advice I have. 

 

Abi

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