Feminine Androgyny?

[rainbowsharl]

So I have always been so confused with how to look androgynous the way that I want to. I'm non-binary/gender fluid. While I'd say that my gender identity has a more male leaning, I also know that my gender expression is more feminine. As such I am constantly trying to figure out how to make that into a look, I can't figure it out. I need something that makes the more feminine side happy at the same time as the more masculine side. 

 

If I could ask a genie to make me look exactly how I want, I'd say long hair with a full beard and romantic edgy clothes. However, I have not been able to find a genie yet and have to look at what is actually possible ?. Due to chronic migraines I can't do heavy long hair. I was AFAB and even if I did go on hormone therapy, none of the cis-males in my family can even grow a beard in the first place so its unlikely I would. At least I have my clothes.

 

With a beard and a flat chest out of reach, still needing to find a masculine element to balance my look, I have tried cutting my hair to a more typical 'man' haircut. However, with no beard and little hair I was almost the exact opposite of how I want to look and I hated it. 

 

I've tried to go the obvious route of looking at how people typically do androgynous looks, but I can only find ones that lean so heavily masculine. 

 

Have any of you had similar experiences? Any chance you've found helpful solutions? 

 

-Rae

[SydneyAngel]

What do you like to wear ? I like Computer games and such so i have gaming shirts that i like. I think you are over thinking it. i use to hate hearing this from people when they told me to be myself. I didnt know who i was but honestly i did and didnt know it. How do you want to feel ? 

[rainbowsharl]

I generally go for the romantic and edgy styles, leather and lace, of clothes. The 50s style dress with a leather jacket. The make-up with the hair all done. I love all of that. But, you know it is? Ultra feminine. I love it, but its not all of me. 

 

I want that, but adding in the more masculine parts. Unfortunately, I don't know how to add that part.

 

Most tutorials on dressing more androgynous talk about wearing a binder (cant hide that under the dresses I like) or cutting your hair short (just not me).

 

I have been underthinking this for years. Knowing I'm not really looking how I want cause I don't know how to. It is nice to hear that one day I'll look back and see the obvious solution, but hindsight is 20/20.