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Ithani

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Many of us have that day. The day we look in the mirror and dysphoria jumps out from the shower curtain to skull punch us. 

 

Then it picks us up and shakes until a ragged, broken, and shattered thing remains. 

 

Then, it gets out the matches. Once that job is done it proceeds to start jumping on the bits and it carries on jumping until it can find something even worse to do. 
 

Well good news, ladies. Today is my turn for that most holy of rites. With Maat’s blessings perhaps I’ll be the last sacrificial offering to dysphoria and we will all be free!

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Emily michelle

I understand exactly what you are going through. The dysphoria is horrible and really hard to deal with. Stay positive, it will get better. 

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@Ithani Keep your head up, hon. If there one thing I know for sure...change is always right around the corner. Take a deep breath and know that things will improve.

 

Before I let you go....Can I ask what you have done or are doing for yourself to combat this? Are you trying to handle his on your own? Do you have any real life local support or allies?

 

Susan R🌷

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Hi @Ithani!  Been there ... and still there.  Gender therapy has been a revelation and revolution for me, and is highly recommended for anybody trying to deal with the dysphoria.

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Thank you for all your responses! I know that these sorts of things come in waves. This is just a big wave and I will find my way through it.

 

@Susan R I have a therapist I talk to on Mondays. It is a big help, just sometimes the middle of the week can be tough. She recommended journaling, so I suppose in a way that is what I did above. One of my greatest fears and impediments to journaling has always been a deep seeded fear that it will be read or somehow made public. By posting it here I guess is my way of taking that power away from my fear. I made it public so that can't be taken from me.

 

Thank you all again!

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