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Andi Shay

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Just wanted to say hello to all of the warm, welcoming contributers and others who are drawn to this beacon in the night. I'm 50, just started HRT and my cats really don't care ?. When you live a half century as the wrong gender, you tend to accumulate a long, winding and weird life story. I will start at kindergarten or perhaps my 31st birthday, or maybe just leave my past alone right now. Highlights: father to a teenage daughter and recent divorcee, I spend a lot of time trying to find Karaoke songs that I don't suck at with my female voice (it's not going well). I think I want a boyfriend sometimes because it gets lonely, but I also like many aspects of being single- most notably, the ability to honestly say that I am unattached after a two decades long failed marriage to a woman. I am vegan, atheist, progressive but I understand that I will find more unicorns than people in Georgia who check those boxes once I add trans. Still, I hope to build some kind of social life in the coming year with any open-minded kind souls.  

 

I have been learning makeup, clothing sizes and am a few months into growing my hair. I have kept in good shape and hope to adhere to my fitness regimen as HRT progresses. I dream of being passable (mostly for me) and am uncertain about my future career path (right now it dead ends in the food service industry). But I am grateful to finally embark on the HRT journey. It may seem like I raced into transition after my marriage ended, but this had been planned for years- and therapy hashed out that I had been trying to outrun the truth for most of my life until I finally stood and faced it- as a confident woman. I do want silicone implants down the road but am leaning towards no on the SRS question. Well that's enough random information for one message. Thanks for reading and feel free to say hi. No friends yet in our community but I look forward to corresponding with many of you.

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Salutations @Andi Shay! Welcome to Transpulse!

 

My cats don't care either!

 

Try songs by Cher? I can do a pretty good Cher. 

 

Hmm, I only check the last box. I'm more agnostic than atheist. I remember reading about a community with a statistically improbably number of trans children though. I could have sworn it was in Georgia.

 

I'd wait on the implants until you've been on HRT at least five years. I mean you HAVE to wait at least two but... You never know what nature has in store for you. I'm actually surprisingly satisfied with my A-Cups. Sure I'd LIKE them to be bigger, but they're mine and I'm OK with that.

 

So yeah! I think you'll find a lot of like-minded people in similar situations. Please feel free to join the discussion wherever the mood strikes you!

 

Hugs!

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Thank you Jackie C. Good info. regarding the wait for the implants. I didn't know that. And yes, Cher is a go to of mine. And just to mention another plus, I have found acceptance in my workplace and Atlanta does offer some safe social outlets that I am pursuing.

 

Thanks again and I look forward to chain-reading your past posts on here. Big hugz

 

? Andi

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Hi, Andi, and welcome!

 

I am glad that you have acceptance at your workplace, and that you have some social possibilities.  I hope you find some acceptance with your teenage daughter as well.

 

Yes, definitely wait on the implants until you see what the boob fairy has in store for you.  I'd have been happier if she had been a bit more generous with me, but I am not complaining about my almost-A cups.  They are super cute.

 

Regards,

Kathy

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Hello Andi!

Welcome to the forums. Lots of kind, caring people here.

I'm sure you'll feel right at home.

Hugs,

TA

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Welcome @Andi Shaylove your name - Shay picked me 30 years ago and now I get to use it. You are in very good company here and  wonderful ladies like you to share and find comfort.

 

Heather Shay

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Hi Andi

Welcome, and thanks for coming. You're very pretty ....

16 hours ago, Andi Shay said:

No friends yet in our community but I look forward to corresponding with many of you.

Au contraire, girlfriend, you have all of us. My experience of being on this forum has been a feeling of being surrounded by friends. The people here are kind, helpful, empathetic, encouraging, commiserating, funny, compassionate -- the list continues, adjectives describing "friend," and "friendship."

 

I'm in my first month of MtF HRT. I'm 76, and unlike you, I'm not pretty and skinny, so I'm not looking to get laid anytime soon. I'm mainly in it for the emotional changes -- gaining feminine access to my emotions like cis women have. That list of adjectives describes this for me. What I find here are people with whom I can practice letting those emotions flow, and expressing them out loud; ie, practice being a girl, I feel. 

 

Welcome home, Andi.

~~Here comes a great big hug, from Lee~~

 

 

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Andi!  It's nice to meet you.  Congrats on your progress towards being the woman you always knew you were (and are).  Please feel free to post all of your questions and comments.  We'll be here for you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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6 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

 

 

Yes, definitely wait on the implants until you see what the boob fairy has in store for you.  

 

Thanks Kathy for the kind words and the prospect of a boob fairy with HRT. I will start sleeping with a bra under my pillow ?

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1 hour ago, Lee H said:

Hi Andi

Welcome, and thanks for coming. You're very pretty ....

Au contraire, girlfriend, you have all of us. My experience of being on this forum has been a feeling of being surrounded by friends. The people here are kind, helpful, empathetic, encouraging, commiserating, funny, compassionate -- the list continues, adjectives describing "friend," and "friendship."

 

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So nice to read your lovely message, Lee. I also appreciate straight talk. And yes, I suppose I am going through a wild teenage phase right now but I feel like I have just been released from a work camp in Siberia. You look lovely Lee and perhaps you should reconsider taking in a lover. Thank you friends for these messages.

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Hi Andi!  nice to meet you, and Welcome!
Congratulations on all the progress you've made so far! and you've found a great landing spot to share experiences and learn from the experiences of other Members here.

 

On 11/7/2020 at 11:09 AM, Andi Shay said:

but I understand that I will find more unicorns than people in Georgia who check those boxes once I add trans

and ... I love the lovely shade of Light Blue that your beautiful state has become.  Things can change (just like we change).

Deep breaths ... one step at a time❣️

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Hi Andi Shay,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

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Hi @Andi Shay
 Welcome sister. I am turning 52 in a few weeks, and like you I'm just starting my transformation to Holly and I have started HRT which is one of the best things I've ever done for myself. And my cats don't care either. Lol.

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On 11/6/2020 at 6:09 PM, Andi Shay said:

Thanks for reading and feel free to say hi. No friends yet in our community but I look forward to corresponding with many of you.

Hi @Andi Shay, Nice to meet you! It’ll be even nicer after a time when we all get to know you. From your post it seems like you’re enjoying a nice start to this journey...marching forward with full self acceptance. A few changes here and there and in a couple years and you’ll be feeling your inner & outer self in complete sync. I hope you can keep us all updated here as these milestones pile up. If you need a friend, advice or just a place to rant, we’re here for you!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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I feel like I should amend one statement. My cats may care a little. I get head-butted in the boobs a LOT...

 

Hugs!

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Welcome Andi! ?  So glad to have you here! I'm a newbie here too and still can't figure out how to post my own "Hi, my name is" post Lol. Thx for including a bit of your story. That's part of what brought me here, to learn how others are experiencing this life of ours. Again, welcome and we are happy you have joined us! ♥️

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2 hours ago, Andi Shay said:

Thanks for all of this welcome love!!?. See ya'll around...

Hey there Andi, welcome to TransPulseForums you're among like minded friends here. 

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe,

 

Mindy???

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