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This site was helpful back i nthe day what happen from when it was Lauras ? 

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I did not know it when it was Lauras so I do not know what it looked or felt likem, but I think it is a welcoming place and a great source for information to read through. Ultimately though it is a forum site, if there is not something being discussed that you want to talk about and can't see any info on just start a thread.

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Please directly contact the Moderator / Administrator staff via the PM feature for specific problems you are seeing and give us anything you feel that can help us improve it.   

We have had a difficult time here during this very stressful period of Pandemic and U.S. Political stress and the ugliness that has crept in that I am afraid reflects elements of society as a whole.  Discussion is going on among the staff members over how to help the site recover from both and we welcome observation and suggestions from the membership. 

 

in trying to be fair to all points of view and avoid accusations of censorship, things did get very intense in the one forum and we drifted away from our goal of supporting our members over the obstacles of Gender recognition and affirmation.  We do know that our members need support in many many ways and truly wish to keep that as our foremost goal and activity. 

On our Main page is a list of our Administrators to whom you can be open and frank even if the problem is a staff member.  We want to know how to make this a better place. There is a  place on that page for contacting the new site owner @Petra Jane directly and confidentially

 

I was a member and moderator at the time Laura turned this site over to the current Admins and staff when she became incapable of handling it, and I do remember those times.  The site helped me so much that I was pleased to become a staff member and I hope I still serve in that tradition.

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7 hours ago, VickySGV said:

I was a member and moderator at the time Laura turned this site over to the current Admins and staff when she became incapable of handling it, and I do remember those times.  The site helped me so much that I was pleased to become a staff member and I hope I still serve in that tradition.

This was me too, though not nearly as tenured a member as Vicky.  Like many places, Laura's could have its ups and downs too.  Vicky is right about how this has been a stressful year for many of us and we do reflect the general population in many ways.  We've also had an influx of new members.  As noted you can contact any of the Admins, or even a Moderator if you're more comfortable with any of us.  

 

We're open to hearing our members thoughts on the site. 

 

Jani

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On 11/19/2020 at 7:21 PM, Sydneyblue said:

When did this site become so bad ?

 

This site was helpful back i nthe day what happen from when it was Lauras ? 

 

Thanks for your sweeping statement, by that, what do you mean, what has changed so much you need to say this?

 

Criticism may not always be kind to those trying to do the best for all, but constructive criticism is often welcomed as it gives a guide to how we could improve.

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Forums are like any other public speaking place. It would be best for everyone to treat each other with great respect, even in a disagreement. Unfortunately that does not always happen. It is hard to read the cascade of frustrations that have been felt by each and every one of us. That is what support looks like though. It's being there when things are difficult as well as being happy for others when things are getting better. That is a job we must ALL share here. I am relatively new to this forum but, I have not seen any sign of poor management and that is all I can go by.

Quite often, things can feel like a personal attack and many people get heated because they either do not feel heard or understood by people that have differing opinions. The backlash of anger can build up very quickly if we are remiss in our actions. The result of that is never going to fix the real issues, if they can be at all. I'm a firm believer that even negative criticism can be expressed in a positive way. That is all I can offer here and that is all I shall give. 💗

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Thank you @Abi this is indeed what we are looking for in terms of constructive feedback.  I am sure that even though you see no poor management that there are things we still could improve on as the site staff, we need our member's eyes to see those things for us and with us. .

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9 hours ago, VickySGV said:

Thank you @Abi this is indeed what we are looking for in terms of constructive feedback.  I am sure that even though you see no poor management that there are things we still could improve on as the site staff, we need our member's eyes to see those things for us and with us. .

One good thing about this forum is that there is almost always a moderator online. That creates a greater sense of security for all of us in my opinion. No one should ever feel like there isn't a person to handle those heated moments. All of the moderator do that when they are here and you all join in and give support when you can. There's only one thing to say about that...thanks.

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I don't have any experience to compare from any other Forums @Sydneyblue, but I can say this site has been a true blessing for me ever since I stumbled across it about 6 months ago. 
Without the shared experiences and encouragement I have received from the other Members here, I probably would not have started gender therapy, or made the progress I have to this point.

I will be forever Thankful❣️🙏

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To everyone:

Regarding what Vickie said:

On 11/19/2020 at 11:56 AM, VickySGV said:

things did get very intense in the one forum and we drifted away from our goal of supporting our members over the obstacles of Gender recognition and affirmation.

and Petra said,

 

On 11/21/2020 at 1:38 AM, Petra Jane said:

Criticism may not always be kind to those trying to do the best for all, but constructive criticism is often welcomed as it gives a guide to how we could improve.

 

If you're discussing the debate in which I engaged regarding current political events, I want to extend my sincere amends to you and everyone who found my comments too "pointedly political."

 

My excuse is being too deeply worried about the future of American electoral democracy, but I'll cease and desist for the sake of fellowship on this site. I plan to stay out of any "Politics" threads henceforth.

 

Also, my sincere thanks to Petra Jane and all the moderators. I, for one, have found the Forums very helpful and educational, and I appreciate all of your efforts.

 

My only suggestion might be, maybe just avoid threads labeled "Politics" or any of its variants. Feelings are running very high these days.

 

~~With big hugs of gratitude for all of you, Lee~~

 

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3 hours ago, Lee H said:

If you're discussing the debate in which I engaged regarding current political events, I want to extend my sincere amends to you and everyone who found my comments too "pointedly political."

 

My excuse is being too deeply worried about the future of American electoral democracy, but I'll cease and desist for the sake of fellowship on this site. I plan to stay out of any "Politics" threads henceforth.

 

Also, my sincere thanks to Petra Jane and all the moderators. I, for one, have found the Forums very helpful and educational, and I appreciate all of your efforts.

 

My only suggestion might be, maybe just avoid threads labeled "Politics" or any of its variants. Feelings are running very high these days.

 

~~With big hugs of gratitude for all of you, Lee~~

Same.

 

I also feel that the moderators did their best at trying to rein things in once they became too heated.  Labeling it "Politics" was a good move.

Personally, I feel that one can never really change another's opinion by arguing.  After a certain point it is time to just drop the matter.  Shutting that thread down was for the best, and it was done.

 

I appreciate the work y'all do to keep this site up for the rest of us.  It has been a lifesaver for me this year.

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5 hours ago, Jandi said:

Personally, I feel that one can never really change another's opinion by arguing

Agreed. I get involved when I worry that innocent third parties might buy into the ... um ... disputed facts? 

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