I'm Horrible

[Guest Mrs. Miniver]

How horrible I was to my Dad yesterday. After cooking him dinner he was critical of my cooking methods as he usually is and I just went biserk and started to pout and I told him to stop being so condescending and that he never understood me and that as the middle child with two sisters it wasn't exactly easy for me growing up. He told me to be a man. At that point I smirked. Understand I was my male personna at the time. Then the shocker when he told me about his childhood and how my grandmother dressed him as a girl and bought dolls for him to play with. I froze after another smirk on my part. I then quickly changed the subject though he seemed he wanted to talk about it. That would have been the opportunity to give him some advise and let him know that I truely could empathize with him. However, I didn't tell him my little secret for fear I may traumatize him and cause him to have a stroke. He is 82 and lives alone. I take care of him the best I can and sometimes it is frustrating.

[Zufrieden]

Hi Mrs. Miniver:

No, I don't think you were particularly horrible. I think everybody has to push back a bit occasionally or else they'll just get run over.

I do think you might have missed an opportunity to come clean. You'd be surprised how often "traumatic" confessions are just anti-climactic.

Bu then again, you know your father best.

Z.

[Guest Mrs. Miniver]

His mid western staunch conservative values seem to be getting in my way.

[Guest angie]

Hey,

I assisted in the care a wellbeing of my Father In Law whom passed at 73.

That i kinda freaked him out being femme and open about it.

Was to be expected.I had been in the family for 24 years when i came out.

But learn to accept me he did.

Often poking fun at me to see my reaction.

My reaction was always to smile and poke back.

Letting him see that i am happy being who i said i was.

And standing by my decision no matter the pressure to conform to the norm.

Hugs,

Angie

[MaryEllen]

Hi Greer,

I don't think you were horrible at all. If your father hadn't been critical of your cooking, the incident wouldn't have happened. I think Z was right. You missed a good opportunity to let your father in on your secret. I suspect that he might have told you that story because he already knows and wanted to give you an easy way to come out to him. Just a guess on my part.

MaryEllen

[Guest Jenny]

Everyone pushes, just a matter of pushing at the right times. As far as giving you the opportunityto tell him, the situation obviuosly wasn't right for you or you would have told him. Yes it was a good opportunity, maybe wrong time or place or circumstance. Learn from it, it might help you in the future.