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I would prefer a pill for society to forget their prejudices. I would prefer society abstain from the avarice of power. What actual harm have we caused that is worthy of the pain inflicted in that we seek to “remedy” ourselves. Yes, surely, there is calm in oblivity. A dull, grey, painless calm.

As to the question at hand, would I take some pills to wake up happy as a cis man? No, because I’m happy as a transfemme. But for many years the answer would have been yes.

That’s good. I agree I can see how some folks might conflate the two.

Betty, I'm not conflating anything. There is no listing for transness, the only formal listing for diagnosis is for Gender Dysphoria. The official bodies have stayed away from using the term transgender as none can classify it. As the only diagnosis is Gender Dysphoria, I can see why the masses would conflate it with trans, and label us as with mental problems, as it is the only information they have! Hugs, Allie

Logically taking his argument there, he is simply two in a line of 47 POTUS. Kamala or Hillary would have been nothing first that way. Its the 2 count that makes her unique.

@AllieJ it sounds as though you’re conflating transness and gender dysphoria. The DSM-5 deliberately does not classify transness itself as a disorder. Dysphoria is simply the distress that can arise from gender incongruity. Nobody gets diagnosed as being transgender.

The only formal diagnosis for us currently in place is in DSM-5, The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. While currently there is no 'cure', as it is listed as a disorder, it leads towards the concept of 'cure'. In 2018 the WHO reclassified transgender from a mental condition to a medical condition within the normal range of human experience, named Gender Incongruence. Don't get offended by the term 'condition'. Life is a medical condition. For the next couple of years the APA was asked when they would change the DSM to reflect the WHO classification, as most world bodies quickly adopted it. The APA finally released the DSM-5 classification for Gender Dysphoria, management admitting that part of the driver to their classification was to keep funding available under the American health system as driven by insurance companies. This has not benefitted the rest of the world whose healthy systems are government based. Mental disorders are the least health condition accepted by the general public as they are generally abstract, and the public views sufferers as 'faulty'. We are not 'faulty' and I believe this classification of a mental disorder is wrong. This is why there is no 'cure' under the current system. But it is also why we struggle for legitimacy in the eyes of the general public, and why there is fear in the community. Think about it, would you be comfortable with your children sharing intimate spaces with someone diagnosed with a mental disorder? It would raise your caution levels, and has for much of the community. Right, or wrong, this is why MAGA gets support so easily. Would I take the option to not be trans? Let's see, being trans has given me terror through my childhood, critical distress through puberty, has robbed me the opportunity of ever having close friends lest they discover my secret, cost me 2 marriages and caused me to raise my children on my own, made me live in isolation as an adult so I could be myself behind locked doors and closed curtains, given me chronic stress to the point of a breakdown go my health, caused a heart attack and 2 cardiac arrests, and consigned me to loneliness in my senior years. Would I give all that up to have a so called 'normal' life with more wealth, friends, and a spouse? You bet! Hugs, Allie

I agree with this also, let people be themselves. I didn't mean to say that anyone is more or less anything, more meant that being true to who you are isn't necessarily determined by outfit.

The hormones are doing their thing. I now have curves, small breasts, and a cute feminine belly. Mom says I look pregnant, LOL!

Just because we don’t do gender the same, doesn’t mean anyone is less or more so said gender—or a threat to yours. Let the person wear fishnets to the clinic. Wear that hoodie to church. Wear the makeup or don’t. But for the love of all that we hold dear, please stop clutching your pearls when someone dresses outside your boundaries of style or perceived appropriateness.

he can't stop winning. He beat both Hillary and Kamala to it!

(Talk about silly) After his executive order on sex, is Trump legally the first female president? https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/jan/25/trump-executive-order-sex

Yes! Very much this! Everywhere we are, that's who we are.

Welcome Bella

I agree. There is something that is deep inside us that's independent of clothes etc. They are only how we express ourselves in the moment.

This was really well put and a very good point. That is very close to how I feel about the subject. The look you like is part of feeling feminine but being feminine is a bit different. Did I understand you correctly?

Thank you and hello! Everyone has been so welcoming, it's been great! I'm glad to be here!

Agree, a "cure" is flawed and dangerous.

Yes, this. The projected social punishment has made people reconsider their agency and autonomy. It's the subtle change in public attitude that allows the orange regime's hate to spread. From "what was she thinking" to "she shouldn't be here" to "what's wrong with him" to...you can imagine the rest. In other words...assimilate or hide to survive. Respectability politics has never done anything but serve those who would otherwise suppress or repress others. "Pick me" transgender assimilation isn't a slippery slope, it's a sheer cliff face. Sometimes you just have to say "eff you" to the face of oppression.

Frankly, the idea of a "cure" is a broken concept. There is no disease, so can be no cure. We have innate harmonics with an internal reality that society, in the current era, is telling us we must be prevented from realizing at any cost. We cannot be harmonious with ourselves because of ancient societal structures founded on the principle of 'might is right'. Society has continually been shepherded by the privileged and powerful to maintain this hierarchy, one which benefits them primarily by restricting the "others'" access to resources, agency, and community. So no, there cannot be a "cure". There might only be a method to zombify people out of their autonomy and free them of free thought--to remove their humanity, essentially. There are plenty of science fiction novels that explore the idea of societies that use "pacifying agents" to "maintain an structured order" and they're always dystopian--for good reason.

Those apps really do give us a sense of what we might become. I used a similar one several years ago and seeing myself as a woman was the final straw that cracked my egg. I have an album in gallery 2 that documents my journey in finding my style over the past two years, including going from wearing a wig to going with my natural hair after it grew out sufficiently. Just as a note, remember that we have minors here on the forum so watch that your pictures are appropriate for all ages. You can find those things that are specifically prohibited in the Community Rules (Rule #8)

Hi Centered_Self89, Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here. Lots of love and a big welcome hug, Timber Wolf 🐾

I think this topic has strayed a long way from the original post, which was just the text of the Executive Order we're all concerned with. I think everyone has had a chance to weigh in on it, and all kinds of related and unrelated matters. So I'm going to lock this topic. Anyone is welcome to continue a discussion in a new topic of your choosing. Carolyn

"NO" problem! lol