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Thanks for that     Of course, it's fine to ask questions, however...     it may appear we do because...     a debate implies there are opposite sides, each trying to convince the other that they're right. And perhaps I am not understanding your communication style, but it seems you are indeed debating over defending that your personal experience and beliefs - that those across the transgender spectrum are noisemakers who have created a "cottage industry" because we want labels to feel special and in so-doing are threatening the lives of binary transexuals - are right and others are wrong. Your experience is valid. There's no question about that. And your beliefs are too; they are your own. But no one's personal experience and beliefs define THE truth. So, instead of debating who's right and who's wrong, we can share and learn to empathize with each other. We can listen to and validate experiences and perspectives. One does not need others to agree with them for their experience and beliefs to be valid. So, when the debate sounds like this: "You're not really valid, don't you think? Don't you agree that you should quit saying you are who you think you are and insisting on visibility and dignity because it's a threat to my well-being? Reply." then it's neither productive nor healthy.      Thanks very much for this. This is very clear and I understand where you're coming from and feel for you even though it's not my personal experience. I understand why it's a sad and uncertain time for you. I think it's beautiful that you have gained a clearer perspective on your own identity, and thereby helped others to understand yours. We who do identify as transgender desire the same. It's clear you feel hurt by the transgender population. Likewise, transgender people's desire for visibility, dignity, and rights were never meant to undermine your safety and existence. My hope for all of us is existence with fulfillment, love, and peace. And that may not be reflected in our external circumstances because no one on earth has ever led a life free of challenges. So, that calmness and steadiness comes from within. And that's a lifelong pursuit. Can we turn away from blame and use that energy to pursue goodwill? Goodwill for all. That's the ultimate challenge - to see the humanity in all and to simply deal with the practical reality in front of us.    

It sounds like getting back in is the issue.  It will still be handy to have it if you aren't planning on coming back.  Hopefully it doesn't get that bad, but it is good to be prepared.

as well as floating the idea of exceeding 2 presidential terms

Did they provide a diagnosis, follow-up treatment, medicine?  I agree with Vicky, that it seems like they treated you well, which is great.   Carolyn Marie

The way things are going, this country won't be recognizable in two years, nor will we have a Constitution that means a damn.  The admin is already trying to impeach any judge that dares disagree with him.   Carolyn Marie

I love the lighter nights and warmer weather, its a great time to start outdoor hiking and our usual yearly walks, I am going to have to watch my weight, i am 59kg my average tends to be around 62 kg if i can stay around 59 kg i am not too much bothered. but spring is a time of planting up flowers on my balcony and attending my hanging baskets, Mia loves the cat mint and loves to watch the butterflies. 

I love doing exercise, more so in the summer, i can be quiet strict with my diet, i do eat red meat and potatoes, its about finding out what works for you and being realistic. When i first started on hormones i had my weight checked by the endocrinologist at hospital every three months. I tend to worry a lot too so that might be one reason why i do not gain weight easily. when i go on very long walks say around 30 miles friends will say have your brought anything to eat? i never did only bottles of water to keep me going.

Circular reasoning is popular these days.

I have my passport, but I'm afraid to try to use it.  It sounds like it might get confiscated.  But I don't really have anywhere to go anyway.

@montyone I was stationed at RAF Mildenhall from April 2004 to April 2007. It was fun.

Thank you MaeBe for always being there. I really do appreciate you. I hope things are going better for you and family.   Thank you HeatherK I will tell him you said happy birthday.   montyone well I can talk with you. I'll try to make it a habit to check the forums more often. I just have a lot going on. As you can tell by my post count, I was very active. I have kids two boys and doing house renovations on top of it. Getting a new floor put in because I have only had concrete for a while because the HVAC flooded the floors and of course the laminate wasn't waterproof. What I selected now is plus I love the look better on this. I'll post a picture.

Exactly.  This was the rationale used to prohibit LGBTQ+ people from the military in the first place, back in the last century.  They said it wasn't being gay itself that made you ineligible, it was the fact that you had to hide it, thus making you vulnerable to foreign blackmail.  And of course, the reason they had to hide it was because they'd boot you out if they found out.  Total circular reasoning.

We did yoga at ballet school it was the first lesson of the day starting at six in the morning. Yoga is important to ballet because its about mind, some of the exercises in ballet could be really painful, part of yoga was about pain management and working through the point of pain. If you thought about it you would tense up and that would make it worse. The butterfly pose or a variation of it was to have someone stand on your knees and push them flat down to the ground, a teacher would then go behind and pull your body back until your head touched the ground. Never do this pose it has to be supervised and is usually done once the body is warmed up and your mentally relaxed. Once you manage to relax the teacher would lift your head your partner stopped standing on your knees and the teacher would then pull you forwards by holding your hands until your face touched the floor, the teacher would say relax and work through the point of pain.The important part is to keep your knees to the floor, so, why do they teach this for classical ballet? well its because we turn out our legs, eg first and second position, fourth open fourth closed and fifth, known other wise as positions of the feet.