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    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

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      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

    12. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

    13. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

    14. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

    15. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

    16. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

    17. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

    18. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

    19. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

    20. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

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      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

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      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

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      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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      This is for your artwork, not someone else's copyrighted art.  Because of bandwidth limits, you should use the insert image option and link to the image on your Photobucket, Imgur, or other storage account, or your own web space.  Images uploaded to the forum will be deleted.  Images must be site friendly / age-suitable or they will be deleted.

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    • Charlize
      There will be a substance meeting tonight and every Sunday at 9:00 Eastern at the chatroom meeting room.  Please join us there if you think you may have a problem or have questions about substance addiction.   Hope to see you there    Hugs,   Charlize
    • Cyndee
      That ride sounds wonderful Kymmie   Today we have sunshine and expecting 60's here, it will be time spent in the kitchen and visiting with family   Enjoy your day all !   Cyndee -
    • Amy LeBlanc
      So yesterday my diet went right out the door.  I did not exercise and I was drinking my pain away and eating pizza.  But the funny thing is that I woke up this morning and stepped on the scale and lost 2lbs.  How the did that happen with drinking my pain away and eating pizza then find out in the morning that I lost 2lbs.   It is another story on what I was trying to drink away.
    • Charlize
      Of course she is.  With a name like Charlize how could she do otherwise!!!!!!!!!                                                                Hugs,   Charlize (not a pretty as Theron)
    • ToniTone
      I'm mostly into art, music, electronics, aviation and retro gaming, and I walk alot. These things are all pretty gender neutral, so there isn't much concern for me while I transition.    Interestingly though, the kind of music I enjoy making is changing. I used to be more into pursuing a death thrash metal sound. This style is so rough, masculine, and it accompanied my drinking. Now I'm getting back into edm. But for my punk rock songs, I'm trying to get more of an edgy fem, crust punk sound. I'm trying to train my feminine voice, for both my music projects and in general.    I've been so depressed the past ten years. I lived the facade of a cishet male, and I just stopped creating, but rather destroying. Now that I'm embracing my femininity, I'm drawing and creating again, and I'm so much happier now!    I also always enjoyed making jewelry and accessories. Living as a cishet male, I sort of felt the need to hide or repress this. But now that I'm out, I've been getting back into it big time! ❤️   ~Toni
    • Charlize
      You will be limited in what you are allowed to lift.  I remember being a bit upset as a gallon of milk was too heavy!  This being said it's good to get shopping done ahead of time.  You will do fine.  I can't say i wasn't uncomfortable after surgery but it was only for a relative short period.  As an addict i used only a very small amount of pain killer and was able to quickly handle the discomfort.  Just don't expect to run any marathons too soon. I'm sure i did some posting shortly afterwards as have others here at Trans Pulse.  Perhaps you might want to check back in our old posts for more posts.   Hugs,   Charlize
    • Janae
      This Forum is very helpful in providing understanding and reassurance that one is not alone.  I have learned a lot about myself in the past few weeks.  Just being able to talk about what is going on with me is helping immensely.  I think the fact of not living a secret life anymore is a huge burden lifted!   The first really big step for me is to finally realize that there is nothing wrong with me, and to be able to admit I am transgender.   My wife (of 35+ years) and I recently returned from vacation. Sometimes I don’t think we give enough credit to those around us that they actually know us as well as we think they do. I was able to finally get some time and talk to her.  When I really started digging deep and putting the pieces together, then clarity starts to descend.  There was a lot of my early life that I shared with my wife,  I started painting my nails at around 4 or 5,.   I tended to play with the girls, and my best childhood friend and I would dance around as ballerinas.  By middle school I was wearing feminine napkins and panties, and then by high school I had added a bra. And as so many others have shared, I would have these things and then throw them away, only to re-squire them later. I didn’t at the time understand why I was doing this.  Over the years, my wife has from time to time said things (as a result of something I had done) “you should have been born a woman”. At first I was taking that as an insult, but looking back she was only pointing out my feminine behavior.  So, we are discussing all of this, and my desires to go beyond the bedroom with how I present myself.  So my wife asked me if I wanted to be a woman. In my mind the answer is absolutely yes, but I didn’t say that. I can’t exactly recall what I said, and the way I said it, but that was when she told me I need to stop the lies and be true to myself. Very good advice!  So right now I am not going to physically transition- that would be complicated, but in “getting to know” some of the other members here - it looks like it is Ok to not physically transform to a woman. It looks like I can still be Janae without the permanent  physical transition. The big thing is how to handle the GD - and now I get why there can be a need to visit with a gender counselor. (Heck - I have only been to a regular doctor a handful of times let alone a shrink!) Sorry for all the rambling on, but a big step for me to realize and admit I am transgender - and know that those around me have known (or at least suspected) - and are accepting and still love me. Thanks for letting me share. This helps!  It is so helpful to have such a great support group.
    • Timber Wolf
      Good morning everyone,🌳   Happy Birthday Alyss!🎂 Hope you have a wonderful day!   Lots of love, Timber Wolf 🐺🐾
    • Ellora
      Hi! I have been using the Braun Silk-épil 9 for years. And Yes it works really well. It is a cordless, wet/dry epilator, but I have chosen to use it dry because I found it loses its strength in less than a year when I have used it in the water constantly. That is unfortunate, and can be costly to buy one yearly, but now that I have been using one without water, it has been going strong without showing any signs of weakening, and I looooove using it cause I hate having hair on my body. I can use it anytime I want, vs. having to paying for wax, laser, or electrolysis. If I could afford laser hair removal I would use laser of course, but until then I will use my epilator. Additionally, I can use it anywhere I go, like I did yesterday at the hotel I’m staying while I’ve been traveling. 
    • tracy_j
      Our group started when the local school (night school) stopped running their drawing class which I attended (government cutbacks). We started meeting to keep going, in a local village hall. It started and continues with the small group of friends feeling. We have vacancies but obviously you are too far away. I am almost certain there will be similar groups in your area as it is a common persuit in the UK. It can be a little daunting at first but people are usually very friendly and helpful. For subscription groups they usually have a trial session with no commitment.   Tracy
    • LouiseRose1954
      What Epilator do you use and does it really work?
    • Ellora
      Hi! I’m very excited for this upcoming Doctors appointment to talk about an Orchiectomy!! My Primary is totally down for this procedure, and they can do it at the same Doctors office. The visit is a formality, and if she is still ok with m having one, I’m going to try and schedule the Orchiectomy ASAP. Other than frozen peas and soft cushions, I would appreciate any words of advice and encouragement once I have the Orchiectomy.  Thank you! 😀
    • Ellora
      Hi! It’s been 40 days since I started my HRT, and wanted to know a couple of questions about breast growth and body changes.  I started noticing small changes in my chest area a couple of weeks ago, but I haven’t experienced any of the pain/ sensitivity in that area yet, that so many have described feeling on the forums.  I’ve even noticed that my bra is filling out a little bit better. I currently wear a 40B (non-padded). As I look into the mirror there is more of noticeable shape like a woman’s breast, instead of a mans chest. It’s even more noticeable when I wear shirts without a bra. I’ve lost weight in my belly, so that has definitely helped. I’m sure I will see even more of a change when I hit the three month mark, but I was wondering if I’ve only noticed the changes because of my weight loss in my belly or if I can already be getting breast growth without any pain? 
    • Ellora
      I have had issues with ingrown hairs ever since I started removing my body hair. I’ve tried different products, but none have worked. Maybe it’s cause I have curly hair. A friend recommended 99% Aloe Vera, but I found 100% Aloe Vera and it works! i use it especially after showers and when I use my Epilator. I also moisturize my skin with lotion to keep my skin soft, but without my Aloe, none of this would ever work. I also recommend to always exfoliate your skin everyday if possible. I use exfoliating gloves and sometimes I use an exfoliating brush. Soak the exfoliating brush in warm water and then apply soap, so it’s it doesn’t feel as rough on the skin. 
    • VickySGV
      I may move this to Religion, but it is daffier that I like to put there.  My denomination changes church names names for Transgender peeople.  We have a rite to do in the church servide now and a friend of mine was having her Baptismal Name changed as part of the first service of Easter in her parish, and I had talked about is on line on another site.  I had a lay ministry thing to do at my church and could not go to her church because of that.  I did think of her at my church and added her name into our prayer list.  Pretty wonderful as I and she saw the exchange.   When I got back home a bit ago, there was a reply from a person neither of us knew yelling all Caps, about how dreadfully sick we had made this person by having our names changed.  There were about five long pages describing how mentally ill this made the person, and how they were going to find us and sue us on behalf of their deity.   They knew the reason for every  burp and rear end gas release,  I doubt a medical student knew the symptoms as well as they did. It is interesting that taking care of myself can have such a profound effect on some one else.  It the course if the lawsuit they threatened, they were they were going to sue my church as well for not being Xtian. 
    • LouiseRose1954
      Well I bought baby oil and a sleeve of cotton rounds. The first time I tried to use the baby oil on them and my rough beard they tore apart and left more cotton stuck to my beard that cotton balls. So I went back to the drawing board and decided to fold a half piece of paper towel into a small square and use it. That seems to work the best. Then I use Witch hazel. My face is usually still oily so I was with an oatmeal based brown bar soap and rinse in cold water. Then use the witch hazel again. Then I moisturize. By the way, has anyone heard of L'OJESETTE anti-aging creams? I have been using that for the past week for the moisturizer at night and in the morning. I do not notice anything different so far. Maybe after the required 30 days there will be a difference. A review site recommends Stemuderm instead. Maybe I should have read this review before buying. I will let you know if anything works.

    • Carolyn Marie
      https://www.aol.com/article/entertainment/2019/04/19/charlize-theron-confirms-daughter-jackson-is-transgender/23714592/   Sounds to me like Theron is doing right by her daughter, the way we hope all parents of trans kids will act.   Carolyn Marie
    • Carolyn Marie
      https://www.nbcdfw.com/news/local/Transgender-Woman-Speaks-Publicly-for-the-First-Time-Since-Brutal-Beating-508852961.html   She is very brave to speak out publicly.  I hope that the suspect gets a nice long stay in the Gray Bar Hotel.   Carolyn Marie
    • LouiseRose1954
      Alright. I bought the Aveeno moisturizer lotion and use that to shave with. Before that I use an oatmeal based brown bar soap on my face and the hot towel method. After shaving I use Witch Hazel all over face and apply moisturizer before makeup. Less redness and stinging. I am impressed.
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