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    1. Questions and Answers

      Found a bug?  Feature not working as it should?  Have a question about how to use the forums, a resource on the site, or the chat rooms?  This is the place to get help.


      This is not a forum to ask transition, hormone, or other questions.  It is for questions about the website and technical issues.

  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

    12. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

    13. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

    14. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

    15. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

    16. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

    17. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

    18. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

    19. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

    20. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

    1. News

      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

    5. Events, Conferences, and Gatherings

      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

  8. Spirituality

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    2. Christianity

      Christianity, all sects.

    3. Mormonism


    4. Hinduism


    5. Islam


    6. Judaism


    7. Two-Spirit

      Two-Spirit faiths, both Native American and other.

    8. Wicca


    9. Other Faiths

      Other religions and spiritual beliefs.

    10. Non-Deistic Spirituality

      Non-deistic spirituality.

  9. Entertainment

    1. Movies

      Discuss and review movies.  Nothing beyond an "R" rating.

    2. Television

      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

    3. Jokes and Humor

      Jokes and humor. Keep it clean. No ethnic or other derogatory jokes. What makes you laugh?

    4. Games and Gaming

      Board games, card games, video games - you name it.  What do you play?

    5. Books

      Books and book reviews, favorite authors, favorite genres, and more.

    6. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

    7. Music

      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

    8. Artwork

      This is for your artwork, not someone else's copyrighted art.  Because of bandwidth limits, you should use the insert image option and link to the image on your Photobucket, Imgur, or other storage account, or your own web space.  Images uploaded to the forum will be deleted.  Images must be site friendly / age-suitable or they will be deleted.

    9. Gadgets and Tech

      This is a place to discuss the ever-changing landscape of technology.

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      I prefer women's jeans and shorts.  I love form fitting with stretch and like the way my legs and butt looks in them.  I wear women's jeans and women's short shorts at home (wife is used to it by now).  I wear women's leggings at home all winter long.  A few years ago I was able to find some Levis men's jeans that are form fitting with stretch and bought 6 pairs.  They could pass for women's jeans and probably do.  I wear them most of the time.  Levis has since ruined that style - they have become baggy.  I hate baggy oversized jeans. 
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      I have a lot of experience with laser hair removal.  I have done legs, arms, abs, full brazilian, and underarms.  Underarms are the easiest.  I have had no hair under my arms for years - completely bare.  Brazilian not easy - still some hair there after dozens of treatments - maybe 99% gone but some hair still grows (but it will always look bald down there except for a few stray hairs that can easily be shaved off - not ever getting that bush back lol).  Legs respond well except for knees - most of my leg hair is gone.  I think the face would be like pubic hair - not easy to get rid of all of it.  If they use a high setting the laser will likely leave red marks on your face that may take a couple weeks to fade away.  If they use a low setting (to avoid red marks) then maybe not effective.  I recommend laser but be prepared for years of it if you want to be hair free on your face. 
    • stbSusan
      Hey there. I would be calling a lawyer that deals with that kind of thing. I am not sure what area that falls under but I am sure there is one there. I don't blame you for how you are feeling but Jeff's a positive attitude and keep up on everyone that needs to be involved. Sounds like your doctor and others are behind you! You in girl!!! Hope this helps. Susan
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      I have some calls to make this morning. First to my heart Dr, so they can send a letter stating that my heart is healthy. Second to my urologists office to reschedule the surgery. And this time, the same anesthesiologist will NOT be involved. I also need to find out who I can make a complaint with, against the anesthesiologist for inappropriately touching me, and making me feel extremely uncomfortable.
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      Hi Julie,   I would like to thank you too.  You provide support and inspiration to me, as do the many other people on this forum.   I am glad that you are feeling a bit less stressed now.  Hopefully, you will be able to get back to "normality" soon, when you get everything settled.   Robin.
    • tracy_j
      Hi Charlie,   Welcome   Science was also my favourite too, but I love history and art. really anything at times. I love variation.   Tracy
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      This weekend was...interesting...on a few levels. If you've read some of my other posts you'll know that I came out and socially transitioned at work last week. It went very well, but on Friday night I kind of crashed and all weekend long I was out of sorts.

      I think I had put up all my defenses during the week, preparing to handle the worst, and I didn't realize until Friday night how much stress I'd been under. That's perfectly natural and in hindsight I probably should have expected it, but it left me with something like a stress "hangover". I was just irritable and exhausted. 

      Unfortunately, it was the wrong weekend for that sort of a hangover because my wife and I had decided earlier this week to accelerate putting our house on the market, so there were just a ton of things to do including a small construction project that was really finicky. It was the worst possible thing to have to work on, but I persevered and made good progress.

      What surprised me was that on Saturday morning on the way to Home Depot I suddenly was terribly sad. I was crying and almost had to pull over. There was no one thing that caused it, just a bunch of stuff all mixed up together, but it hit me like a ton of bricks. I could have easily gone to a pretty dark place, in fact I was headed there --  thinking about a life of snarky looks and never quite fitting in: "what have I got myself into!". However, I somehow was able to take a small step back and remember that wasn't true.

      I have been telling people for some time how much happier I am now that I'm transitioning -- and it's true. So, I forced myself to think hard about what's been making me happy. And it's the people that I've surrounded myself with  that love me, encourage me and want to be around me because they genuinely enjoy my company. I thought hard about specific people and how I feel when I'm with them, and a strange thing happened: I smiled and I felt better...quite a LOT better.

      I still wasn't perfect, but I was no longer in that dark place. And it made me want to make sure I said thank you to everyone on here that shares a story, asks a question or interacts with me in posts. This place was one of the things that I thought about because there are so many people here that make me feel good about myself...that make me feel good about all of us and who we are. 

      So, thank you to everyone here. Whether you know it or not you helped me get through a tough time and I will do what I can to keep returning that favor!

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      Hi Kymmie,   Thank you very much for your support and reassurance.   Maybe I should turn up to the next meeting wearing a burka.   Robin.
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      I can’t even imagine how that must feel. Hoping you can get things worked out. Good luck. 
    • CaptainC_Cookies
      'Ey, thanks! But no worries, lots of my friends love the things I dislike. It's weird, but as long as they don't talk crap about English or History class, we're good. 😄
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      Hi Charlie, Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you're here!   I don't know, maybe you won't like me. Science was always my favorite subject in school!LOL😄   Lots of love, Timber Wolf🐾
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    • stbSusan
      very cool!!!!!! and i don't think it is really expensive. my insurance might cover it cause i have a growth on one of my eyelids that need to be removed. it does sometimes cause my vision to go hay wire and i drive truck for a living.
    • Jani
      Good news!  I understand many eye surgeons will do office procedures.  My wife has had two done that were successful (for other than TG reasons!)   Cheers, Jani
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      Hey jani, I found out today that I can get my eye lids done in a doctors office. I guess it is an easy thing to do. i don't know about the rest for now but my eyes are the most important thing right now. Susan
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