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  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

    12. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

    13. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

    14. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

    15. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

    16. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

    17. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

    18. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

    19. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

    20. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

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    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

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      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

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      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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    • SugarMagnolia
      As I enter this I'm watching a bunch of high school kids dance. I'm volunteering at a Valentine's day dance for LGBTQ youth in our area.    Let me just say that fluidity and grace are nowhere in sight. But spastic moves to the feel of the music are everywhere. 🤣   I think Jani's right. Just give and enjoy the music like these kids and you can't go wrong!
    • Cyndee
      Some of the best dancing girls could be seen at Grateful Dead concerts, the hippy chicks could let loose like no other, there is a fluidity in that style. I like to emulate that, twirl like a girl, feel it and let go....   I have also had the fun to observe dancers from the stage as I'm jamming and moving my feet, it's a wonderful feeling to have the groove and their feet moving with you, gyrating bodies below you amazing....   One night we were playing a club in So Tacoma and these 3 girls come in immediately liven up place, one of the girls was like us and she was amazing, watching this T girl worship our lead singer, it was so much fun, and he was in denial....   C -
    • Cyndee
      A move forward for the non binary folks here in the US using the airline ticketing system.   https://apnews.com/1f5551b79b8c491e82ca2695fd84677a   C -
    • Cyndee
      That tail fin on the vid is something Jani 😃 It's so basso nova....dig those bongos...   Tonight, I'm listening to Andres Vollenweider - Eolian Minstrel (1993), the harp playing master composer from Switzerland, and his female vocalist Eliza Gilkyson, so soothing.   C -
    • Jani
      Julie is correct that there are many "average" dancers and that's fine.  I love to dance and I watched a younger cousin years ago to determine what I was doing wrong.  Get looser and let your body move through all its joints!  Get rid of the stiffness, loose the inhibitions, and feel the music. 
    • Jani
      Thanks for sharing Susan.  Sounds like a fun evening!   Yes time has a way of changing all manner of thoughts.   Jani
    • Michelle F
      I am stabilized again. 170 lafter a heavy meat n potatoes meal last Monday lost 18 pounds. My jeans are loose again... Finally!   Geeez nearly four months to take off 20# that was gained in just one month...  Yikes   Y'all weren't chiding! One week to put it on...   Nearly 3 months get it back off...sheesh
    • SugarMagnolia
      I'll throw this out: less is more.

      You're thinking of women dancers that you've noticed which means they're probably pretty good. But there are tons of women who just move a little.

      I'd say that starting out your goal is to just not look like you've drank a quart of espresso. So, slow down, don't do too much and concentrate on torso/hip led movement, bent knees, and with your hands and arms at chest level or above.

      Disclaimer: I'm NOT a good dancer, but I have reasonably decent observation skills. Just don't ask me to put my observations into practice!
    • VickySGV
      Welcome @Kayla christine Self harm is very common among Trans people and for the reason you have mentioned, lack of acceptance by our families and communities of Cis (non-Trans) people.  Trans people are highly recognized by the scientific community as being almost super resilient to our situations and going ahead with our lives when we do find acceptance, that is one of the foundations of this web site, to overcome self harm by showing acceptance and some community.  I would like to suggest that you also make a post in the Introductions Forum so we can get to know you better.
    • Susan R
      Hi all, hope you all had a wonderful Valentine's Day.  I'm sitting here having my afternoon coffee and wanted to tell about yesterday. My wife and I had the best time.  Since being on this diet we have not gone out to eat much because frankly it's hard to find great tasting healthy food that fits into our current diet.  So most of the time she does the cooking here at home and then I do the cleaning. Well, this Valentine's Day, I drove down to our favorite restaurant and picked up a take out order of her favorite Pad Thai Chicken (which is hard for me to make it like she likes it), then when I got home I got all dressed up nicely as Susan and started cooking for her while wearing her girly apron.  I made a quick batch of my favorite Tom Ka Gai (Chicken Coconut Thai Soup) and reheated the Pad Thai.  She loved me cooking and doing it as Susan.  We sat down as two women and watched a few movies together while eating our Thai meal.  It's so amazing to me that my wife and I can experience this together now when just 6 mos ago I could never have imagined such a thing happening. The evening went so well, I just had to share.   Susan R🌷
    • Cyndee
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    • Susan R
      Hi Makayla, imho..Looking perfect isn't necessarily a sign you're experiencing a cross dressing fantasy.  Yes, it's possible you are but you would likely not get a counselor to diagnose you as one based on that fact alone. My wife and I spend way too much time on our makeup and deciding what we're going to wear in the morning.  As a woman, you want perfection to some degree.  I think it's a personal decision for each of us but hardly dictates whether it's a core part of a need to express yourself as a woman or a fashion kink.  I would look at some of the deeper issues with past behavior, desires, thoughts, etc with your counselor.  They may help you resolve this question in time.  The answer is in each of us.   Susan R🌷
    • Kirsten
      Amy I was not anything like a ballet dancer. That is so hard to do. My niece does ballet. She’s amazing. As for me, I can’t turn my feet like that, not do I have anywhere near the flexibility required. Good luck to you there hun! 
    • Kirsten
      @DeeDee I can’t say I’m familiar with those. If you look up Webster Hall that’s what I listened to. It’s your basic rave music. I’m sure y’all had great rave music over there though. We were a bit behind with that. I actually went there a bunch of times too. It was crazy. I met dj tiesto and actually got to hang with him a couple times when he came to a club just outside Boston. Drugs girls booze and crazy a nights back then. It’s how I hooked up so much. When you can dance, the girls melt. Well when you’re 21-25ish. The drugs and booze didn’t hurt either. Lol. Oh the memories. 😔 @Makayla2019 I tend to be okay in the car. But that’s kind of a 1 handed head bobbing deal. Idk. I’m sure I’m overthinking it anyways. As usual. But I am proud of how I dance. And now I’m not. Stinks is all. From the only guy allowed on stage with the girls back in the day to afraid to dance in public. Gonna have to call the girls I guess. 
    • Susan R
      Thank you Cyndee.  Life is better than ever now.  Here's a highlight of just a few.  My wife is more than just accepting she is actively helping me become myself.  She loves me as Susan.  My health, specifically my kidney issues, seems to be better than ever.  I now have the best gender health doctor I could ever ask for and she's so close geographically.  No long commutes now.  My doctor mentioned that she wants to change up my HRT regimen to include a higher E dose and also try a new safer anti-androgen which I'm very excited about.  My female wardrobe is getting larger every week.  I've now incorporated a daily routine in my life that makes me feel more whole than ever before.  I know I'm riding a positive wave right now and I want it to last for as long as possible.  Thanks to people here like youself and many others, it's all becoming a reality.  2019 is sure to be filled with even more positive changes in my life and in my transition.   Susan R🌷
    • Kayla christine
      When I was 15, I felt mad that I was not a girl so I tried to gut a genital off. It then got infected and I went to the hospitL . I lied about it to my parents because I was afraid of what they would think of me if they new I wanted to be a girl. They would have probably tried to have me be satisfied with who i am but I do not want that. I want and need acceptance.
    • Susan R
      Thank you @Janeshannon  I have another gender health appointment this Thursday.  I am going shopping on Monday to get a new top for it.  I can't wait.  Being full time at home is one thing but I feel so much more alive when I'm ME out in the real world.  I love it! ❤️   Susan R🌷
    • Amy LeBlanc
      Your lucky Kristen.  I was never a dancer myself when I was male.  But well, I was never the out going type of person.     But this has got me thinking and I have always wanted to signup for it, so I am thinking on signing up for Ballet.  I know out here in AZ and I am already checking into, there is a Ballet class that is for Adults and I can go dressed and myself and follow the female dress code, as long as I also keep everything hidden.
    • Makayla2019
      Wonderful story willow. So happy for you and it too fills me with hope that my wife could also be accepting. 
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