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    1. Questions and Answers

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      This is not a forum to ask transition, hormone, or other questions.  It is for questions about the website and technical issues.

  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

    12. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

    13. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

    14. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

    15. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

    16. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

    17. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

    18. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

    19. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

    20. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

    1. News

      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

    5. Events, Conferences, and Gatherings

      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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      Two-Spirit faiths, both Native American and other.

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    9. Other Faiths

      Other religions and spiritual beliefs.

    10. Non-Deistic Spirituality

      Non-deistic spirituality.

  9. Entertainment

    1. Movies

      Discuss and review movies.  Nothing beyond an "R" rating.

    2. Television

      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

    3. Jokes and Humor

      Jokes and humor. Keep it clean. No ethnic or other derogatory jokes. What makes you laugh?

    4. Games and Gaming

      Board games, card games, video games - you name it.  What do you play?

    5. Books

      Books and book reviews, favorite authors, favorite genres, and more.

    6. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

    7. Music

      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

    8. Artwork

      This is for your artwork, not someone else's copyrighted art.  Because of bandwidth limits, you should use the insert image option and link to the image on your Photobucket, Imgur, or other storage account, or your own web space.  Images uploaded to the forum will be deleted.  Images must be site friendly / age-suitable or they will be deleted.

    9. Gadgets and Tech

      This is a place to discuss the ever-changing landscape of technology.

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    • onaquest
      It's pretty cool y'all!✌️
    • Michelle F
      Except one thing...   I lost my card wallet on the friggin bus with all my ID and my bank cards blah blah blah...   Now Shawn really has something to be missed about...     I GIVE UP!😫
    • Michelle F
      I'm in Palm Springs... 51 miles due west   Do you have IEHP or Medi-Cal?
    • Leo
      I guess you could share everything at once, or share it piece by piece as you transition and she notices the changes.  Have you considered telling the grandparents before you tell your daughter? They may not appreciate hearing such important news from a child.    Your daughter is smart so this may or may not work...Dad loves mom so much he wants to be a woman just like her, and this is what I plan to do to look like her. How do you feel about having two moms? . I will still be your dad on the inside? Your daughter being smart will probably mine you for all the information she needs to be ok with it. Then run off and tell all her friends. 
    • Terri
      Thanks for the discussion.  I cant imagine telling my kids, but I think they will be ok.  I have been practicing coming out to strangers and some casual acquaintances that wont get back to my social circle.  All supportive, but I think everybody has been brainwashed to be supportive despite what they might really think.
    • Jani
      Very funny.  People can be so odd sometimes in what they see and think.    Jani
    • MelissaAndProudOfIt
      Hi all Really hurts me to learn that if you identify as a varient of female being male or the reverse that it causes in worse case scenarios so much hate in society.  As a Crossdresser if your born with a passable body frame your very lucky in the body lottery and with little work you can pass and go out thats great.   Though there are many mtf Crossdresser s out there that are quite well built, even quite stocky that have a near impossible chance of passing seems so infair, if their inner selves wish to be identified as female, when on the outside they seem obviously male. Even if they are wearing make up and wearing a skirt or dress. We are all human, society is the one with the problem of intollerance towards anything they deem not to be normal, Society (minority)  seems to be the problem.  Crown law ought to make a huge issue on our rights and also should be included in the Uk bill of rights as well as any freedom act.  Impose strict penalties on offenders as we do after all have our rights. The police should have new powers to protect or enforce against offensive behavour towards tg, cd etc who are just living their lives, and not driving them into the shadows. Have a huge push on tv media that thus behavour will not go un-noticed or un punished and any violent offender or verbal offender will be dealt with by the courts.  Heavy prosecutions or put in clink if justified.     Let finally the wings of freedom fly.
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      Hey! Does anyone know any gender therapists residing in the riverside/Temecula/Orange county area? I'm 18 in a couple of months and want to start searching. Any feedback is greatly appreciated. -Trevor
    • Cthorne
      I find that I pass way more than I ever thought I would. Like 90% of the time in fact, I've been told I pass more than others but we have different styles so I just chalk it up to that. I am very boring, I wear dark clothes and altho I do take time to make sure I look good I think most people thing I don't have to put much effort in where as my friends : well one dresses more fashionable I guess and adds fem stuff to it so thats one reason I think people might get confused and the other really doesn't put much effort in at all. He has bright blue hair and even wanders around town in female clothing (I ain't judging I swear altho I'm a little worried that when he gets to the gic they won't take him seriously) He says he ain't gonna try passing until he starts T. (Please PM any advice or thoughts you might have, thanks folks)   Anyways back to the post.   I've passed so many times  I always get that big warm fuzzy feeling inside. It happens out and about quite a bit but the main two have to be my works christmas party!! I got called Sir! I told everyone and they were so happy they were so supportive, my boss and friends are so amazing. Second one is very very funny. I was on a night out with my friends, and one of the ladies legit went to school with me, we were in the same year and everything. So I go out for a breath of fresh air because it was sooooooo crowded. I come back to my two friends practically wetting themselves! This guy in a xmas jumper was trying to chat up my friend and asked her if I was her dad! (I now have 5 ladies at work calling me Daddy, my life has become very very weird) She said no and then he asked if I was her boyfriend!!   So I'm happy that I don't look like a school boy but do we have to go from one extreme to the other??? How could I? Who has been told multiple times I look about 17 that I could be a father to a 30 yr old??? Anyways we all laughed it off and I can't wait to see what happens on the next night out..... (11 days..... I'm so scared we're going to a gay club this time.... my friends want me to  meet people)    Wow that was one long ramble!!! I'll end it here then      
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      when every new adult you run into is immediately strongly convinced that you're a young/early-teen boy instead of an afab of any age and instinctively starts firing off assumptive questions about your age/what grade you're in/school you go to and acts like you're joking or lying(because some teens do this) when you say no, you're not a kid or in school.(which... to be fair, i probably could bypass the obnoxious disbelief that i'm a grown adult by just going along with their assumptions so it doesn't come up, but i'd feel like a bit of a creep about pretending to be a minor, even for the sake of convenience) so, hey, i pass as a boy, atleast. really hope that getting on HRT will get me to pass as a man, though.
    • Terri
      I have been going the sober route on my own for the last 3 years after decades of binge drinking. Today no alcohol, but some occasional CBD/THC.  I have been lucky given all the times I was behind the wheel drunk.  Between my health issues and the fear of doing major damage to some innocent person I stopped.  Throughout the years I have been a very closeted cross dresser, but I always avoided alcohol when dressing.  This was my way of keeping it "real", and preventing myself from having any delusions about my feminine desires and owning it.  However, I think drinking was keeping my dysphoria in check.  When I stopped, my dysphoria and anxiety went through the roof.  It set off a period of risky behavior of being out in public and hooking up with men.  I've settled down, but wow, I am feeling very TG and attracted to men beyond what I used to think I was keeping real. I should have recognized and accepted this a long time ago.  I have avoided AA, but learning here that there are some TG friendly meetings I think I need to give that a try.  Thank you all for sharing here.
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      Susan, thank you. 🙂    I can tell I am in the right place.
    • MelissaAndProudOfIt
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    • Susan R
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    • Ashlee
      I am becoming more confident and comfortable in the woman’s bathrooms. Last night the girl at the counter actually pointed me to the womens bathroom instead of the men's. That really made my night I have to keep telling myself to have confidence, hold my head up and not be scared. I am very scared in men's rooms lately, especially truck stops, and uncomfortable in women's. At least in the women’s I know I'm not going to get beat and left for dead in a stall or something. I'm not exactly large, 5'3"+/- and 137-143lbs give or take. A trucker would just squish me if I couldn't out run them.   
    • SeekingSadie
      That is the problem! I have been very careful to have separate google accounts and the kids never get on my laptop, and I have made sure they haven't gotten near my phone when it had photos on it. I just never knew that it would keep things that you did not store, let alone share them across devices! 
    • Jani
      It appears she was more liberal leaning but this is good.  We do need more people to be vocal about what and how they feel.  I'm sure many don't speak up out of fear of being ridiculed for supporting us.  It's all about equality and fairness. 
    • Jani
      This hits home with me as I have always said secrets eventually come out.  Better to be honest upfront and reveal at your own schedule.  My gender had been the only secret I ever kept from my wife and family.  I've tried to be an open book and now I am completely.     Yes children need to be made aware that not all people are like them.  I hope this works out well for both of you.  Jani
    • Jani
      Oh Yes!  The internet never forgets.  And it seems all these systems talk to each other.  Yikes! 
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