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By ShawnaLeigh · Posted
Thank you all. I wasn’t sure as my natural color is a chestnut brown and it looked so foreign to me at first. Well chestnut brown in my youth. It’s now a crappy grey. Lol I do intend to do an everyday makeup and take another picture with natural light and I will post these too. Thank again!❤️❤️❤️ -
By Emily michelle · Posted
I hate nosey neighbors too. I can kind of understand her because it’s hard to keep a secret from her husband. My wife and I spend a lot of time with them. He has been asking too mostly about why I haven’t gotten a haircut. I’m pretty afraid on how he will react. What made it even better he asked her about me in front of a whole crowd of people I know. -
By KathrynnCox · Posted
Wow. That’s not cool. Personally I hate nosy neighbors. Mine just complain about my lawn. Right now. I’m so sorry you got cornered. You should be able to come out when you are ready, not someone else’s schedule. -
By Emily michelle · Posted
My sister just cornered me and asked when I was going to tell her husband. Because he is asking questions and our neighbors are asking questions. Of course the one neighbor is a loud mouth that has no filter. Apparently he asked my sister point blank what is going on with me. So I don’t know I want to come out so bad but I’m scared to death. -
By MaryMary · Posted
I remember when I was a teenager the first years when I felt more intense dysphoria. I was starting my puberty (the wrong one). It felt like a mix of panic and depression. It was like a cloud that was setting in on top of my emotions and feelings. Without really realizing it I went from being relatively happy, listening to pop music and all that to being a trainwreck and just unable to deploy any effort on any projects and listening to very very dark music, suicidal etc etc lol I also remember when my voice changed because I remember the trauma and the panic. In fact I reacted so strongly that my voice didn't actually deepened. Later, doctors said it was because of stress... Then as an adult, before my coming out it was like a general numbness and felt like I was turned off (like a computer that is turned off). I like the expression "crushing depression" that someone used, that's pretty much it. Now I relatively don't have a lot but when I feel it it's no longer general numbness and depression. It's more like a knife stab, that sudden feeling you have the first second when you learn a really bad news. Anyway, that's my way of describing -
By Susan R · Posted
I can relate to this exact feeling although I never smoked, I have seen the affects on others. After purging my entire wardrobe, the powerful feeling of ‘accomplishment’ would eventually wear off. Then, during this state of suppression, the dysphoria would start to kick in, often triggered by singular events...seeing a beautiful woman, seeing a man act chivalrous to a woman, or some similar event. My mind would not relent on those images and the need to dress as myself would increase as it always had. Within a week, I found myself thinking about nothing else but dressing as myself. Eventually, to calm my mind, I would break down and go shopping. Acceptance of yourself and who you are seems to be a good way to stop this unproductive, painful and costly cycle...at least this is true in my case. Susan R🌷 -
By Suiraa · Posted
As previously stated, everyone experiences dysphoria differently. I've tried to study mine some to try and understand how it functions. It is like an internal mechanism that is uncomfortable and knows exactly what is causing the discomfort. This discomfort is then translated into impulses that feel very similar to craving something like nicotine (but not quite). One of the things for me is that I will feel discomfort in my body hair and I will have to shave and make myself look pretty. Otherwise I will start to become distracted and irritable. I need to study it way more and I currently consider my understanding of these mental processes to be rather limited. -
By Tori M · Posted
What's all the fuss? Is that not your natural color? It's you, girl! Hottie, gonna have all the guys' heads turnin'. -
By Susan R · Posted
Didn’t disappoint...absolutely love it! Watched the video. Thanks Sally!😃 -
By Carolyn Marie · Posted
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By Just Lee · Posted
Personally, I think the style and color strongly emphasize your eyes and forehead, giving a more youthful appearance. Can we see this blonde with makeup for the full picture? -
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By Susan R · Posted
I think you look good as a blonde. Show us this same look with your everyday makeup on and I think almost everyone would agree that it’s a very nice look. I want to also mention...to me, it looks just slightly more natural too. Maybe that has more to do with the way it shapes your face.🙂 My Best, Susan R🌷 -
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By RachelQ · Posted
I think that human beings, families, communities, etc. (probably since our beginning) are comfortable with “sameness”. Being trans or anything else that breaks that sameness (small and large) can cause fear in our family members but also, of course, with people outside our families – and sadly that can lead to hurtful things said and done by them. I wish too that people were more accepting and kind. -
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By Susan R · Posted
I’m not one for sugary things but right now that sounds so good. Tell me it was as good as it sounds. Seriously though, I’m happy you were able to have family over on your birthday...people who care enough to do things for you and affirm you like they did! Save me some cake, Susan R🌷 -
By Susan R · Posted
I know this would be true of me..especially now. I’d be the most supportive person they had in their life. I’ve changed in many ways, so much so, that I know that if I had to re-parent my children all over again, they’d likely turn out much better for it. But the past is past. We all learn from our mistakes (and from our parent’s mistakes too, as it turns out) Excellent revelation, NB. I think that the world would be a much better place if parents (and possibly siblings and adult children too) used this as a base foundation for their parenting and relationships. Many of us try to influence people to be more like ourselves, at least some time in our lives...it’s human nature. Rarely though, if ever, does forcing anyone to conform through indoctrination, withholding love, discipline, shaming, or restrictions change them in a long term positive manner. Most of the time it builds resentment, stubbornness and can instill bitterness in time. In some cases, it causes one to run the other direction possibly disregarding common sense or logic. My late parents used all of these methods to try to control & steer my evolution. It was an epic failure. Now, my children are attempting to do the same. I am not allowing it to control my life and understand that I do not need their approval or support. I have found those things elsewhere.😊 Thanks guys and gals! Susan R🌷
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