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By Kirsten · Posted
I have years in heels. I was cding when I was 8. And there’s been a lot of heels over the years. Too bad most of them got thrown out when my ex found my stash. 😔 My favorites are my bordellos. I posted a pic of them at one time, but idk where or when. I’ll fbmessage em to you. They’re 7-1/2” stilettos but I can only last a couple hours in those. But I am going to go with a block heel peep toe booty I think. In a tan color. I just haven’t chosen which ones yet. There’s a few styles to choose from but since it’s online it’s crappy cause I can’t try anything on. Shoe stores don’t really carry many size 12 options in store. 😔 -
By MaryMary · Posted
congrats for HRT. I've done a quick research for you question and found nothing conclusive so no luck there. I hope someone will have a definitive yes or no -
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By RithiaAllen · Posted
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By jo_g · Posted
Yesssssterday I had my first dose of oestradiol gel and finasteride. Sooo very happy. For various reasons (still not socially transitioned and still investigating the cause of abnormal liver function results) am on only a small dose for the next 3-6 months and an increase is signed off. But considering it's been a much shorter wait than I'd been expecting, I'm totally over the moon and super excited and grateful for any changes that I experience. Mental and physical. However, I do have a (quite silly) question. I've read that wearing sports bras won't restrict breast growth, which is great, but when presenting female, I also use chicken fillets (not full on breast forms). I put the fillets in the bra first and then pull my existing chest above that, so the fillets aren't visible. As this is quite tight (needs to be to keep everything in place, but isn't painful, or anything like) I have this fear that doing this for a prolonged period of time might cause breast growth to be reduced, or deformed. I'm hoping someone can tell me with confidence (or point me to some blog or whatever) that tells my I'm just being silly and over thinking things. I'm off for a weekend in the sun soon and am hoping to get some sunbathing in, but absolutely need these breast enhancers to give the right shape when out and about, as I'm so early on in HRT. In other news... time for my second ever dose of oestradiol and finasteride! 😍🤩🥳 Happy girl is happy. -
By Iwy.13 · Posted
Thank you all for your kind words. They are very much appreciated. It's been just two weeks since I have written my first post here, but it sure did feel like much longer now that I think about it. Things happened. Good things so far. I have found my own place, where I can feel secure and be able to explore my feelings and emotions about everything, albeit behind closed door for now. Also I made contact with a local support group led by a girl who did undergo transition herself and an experienced counselor, I have missed the march session, but am heading to their LGBT+ general meeting next week, to make a first physical contact so to speak. I have been given contact by another group, that is further away, but wery supportive. So, yeah, I am moving forward. Doing a lot of reading in the meantime and given that I come from Slovakia and did struggle to find sufficient info locally, I am thinking on volunteering some hours of my scheudle to start translating some english resources so people who do not speak english can catch up on all the great stuff and support that is out there. Will see how that goes To Lucy - Hi there, glad to be here To Astrid - I guess you are right. It has been something I knew since childhood, but never acted on. To Toni - Well thank you, i have never been one to take offence regarding a nice compliment, well except when concerning the male me I guess, in retrospect now I see why was I allways so irritated by that. Nevertheless, I can relate. I do see a version of life that differs a lot from what I have been experiencing.. To Timber - Thank you for kind words. The reason I came here was to find an experienced community, because I do understand, that going through all this solo, as I have done so far, is not the least bit good for one's well beeing. To Jani - Yes. I do see a world very different from what I have seen all my life. And to tell the truth, one of my first thoughts was that I'd rather endure while being true to myself, than keep slipping deeper into the rabbit hole of conformity, because therein dwells darkness that feasts on the fear, uncertainity and self loathing. Again, thank you all. I hope I can make this work and perhaps become a member who can in a meaningful way contribute to the community. Cheers, Iwy. -
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By ToniTone · Posted
Welcome! This forum is awesome, alot of helpful, supportive folks here. I just started using it recently to seek help sorting out my gender dysphoria. People here are pretty warm and welcoming. Love your username! I have a passion for punk rock here in the states. All my friends are anarcho crusties! ❤️ ~Toni -
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By sophie_the_punk · Posted
Hi everyone, I am a 23 year old from England. I am a musician and I love listening to punk rock and watching horror movies. I was assigned male at birth and have lived as a male my whole life, but deep down I've always felt female. I have always wanted to be seen as a female by others, and every time I am called "he" or "him" it just doesn't sound right. I hate my body and wish it was feminine instead of masculine. This is the first time in my life I have admitted this. I suffer with depression and anxiety but when I dress up in feminine clothing (in private) I feel happy and confident. I feel as though I am whole. Coming out as transgender (which I have come to the conclusion I probably am) just isn't an option though at the moment because it would be very upsetting for my family and ruin all my friendships. I have joined this forum to hear the experiences of similar people and and I hope one day I will be ready to live as a female. -
By DeeDee · Posted
Hi Jackson, I saw this post earlier but because it has been up for a while I wanted to let you know you are not alone. The official answer to this is for you to tell someone, preferably an adult member of staff. Your school should have an anti bullying policy and should enforce it. With parental involvement coming if the school do not solve the issue. Outside of that as someone who was bullied due to frequently just being the new kid in the UK you have two other options - keep your head down and weather the storm, by not reacting you take the fun out of it for them and they will eventually move onto someone else when they get bored, they want to know that their name calling and harassment has an impact - don't let it, people who behave like that should not matter to you, they are not worth the emotional energy. Or stand up for yourself and yell back - which will probably just escalate things and make it worse depending on who is harassing you and why. I do NOT recommend this option. Whatever you decide to do I can promise you that these people do not define you and have no clue how amazing you are as a person, and once you leave school you will probably never see them again. Do not get your sense of self worth from others. Bullies are only bullies because they are insecure about themselves and are trying to hide their own fears about being a waste of space by trying to make others think they are too, hopefully they will grow out of it, and if you are with your friends they will be less likely to start something if you are in a group. Pity them, don't fear them. You can teach a dog how to behave, but you can't teach stupid. -
By Josie Beth · Posted
It’s a sad fact that most murders occur at the hand of a loved one. It’s not because of gender identity or even the availability of a weapon, it’s a flawed mindset that most people in relationships assume that the other person belongs to them. So when this fallacy is challenged they get emotional, passionate and panic because they realize they can’t control the other person and in the attempt to control the person they kill them as a way of being in control of the other person. The only way to stop this kind of murder which is statistically the highest percentage, is for people to understand that they don’t have power over anyone else but themselves and everyone else outside of their body has the right to do as they choose with their own body, as long as they don’t physically harm someone else. It’s a mindset and not a law that is going to reduce murder. In short people need to grow up. -
By Kole Rickard · Posted
This is horrible! There must have been something else going to though to drive her to do that to her partner.. We really do need to take better care of the law of having guns. -
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By VickySGV · Posted
If you think you could have had that type of surgery, my suggestion it to go to your medical provider, tell them of your suspicions and see if they can do any type of check for the surgical scars. Be honest with them since we are years down the road from the practice. -
By Kaidyn · Posted
So my school has this course (JROTC) and it is a military based classes to help citizens become better citizens (and are no way signing up for the military, navy or any of the sort.) I feel like a class like this would help me with my future career ( criminal profiling). The uniforms aren't too feminine, but I would still like a male's uniform (the females have tie tabs and a slightly different jacket while males have an actual tie). I don't necessarily want to come out to him. I know and trust the teacher, but I feel like he'd forget that I'm closeted (only to my family) and call me he/him while discussing with my parents something. I haven't started transitioning, because I'm closeted to my family, but I do go by a male name and I'm just really nervous. I've tried coming out to m parents a few months ago and they didn't react ideally. The told me I was confused, that it would all be over, and that it was just because I have trauma from being abused. Any tips on how to handle the uniform predicament or my parents? -
By Kole Rickard · Posted
Hello Emanda. For the sound of it, it looks like you're having problems with your gender identity. Since you love to xdress, and I am assuming you do shows, you could possibly have those feelings. If you enjoy doing it for entertainment, but wouldn't really go out in public and dress and act like a woman, you might just get enjoyment by dressing up. Though you say you fancy woman and would really enjoy being one, that might also be a sign you could possibly want to transition. Also, you could just be like the big Jeffree Star. If you aren't sure who that is, I would say look them up. They don't exactly go by any gender but yet they don't care what you call them. They look very fem but also masc. They really enjoy makeup and dressing nicely in gender neutral clothes. They have their very fem days and their slightly masc days. Also, he is very fun to watch. <3 For your sexuality, you can be so many things but gay. I, myself, am pansexual. I don't exactly care about the gender, but the way they treat me. You could possibly be bisexual. If you strictly only like men and women. Nothing in between, and no one that transitions. In my opinion, I would see a gender therapist. That helps so much. I hope you figure yourself out and don't have rough times doing it. -
By Amy LeBlanc · Posted
I am no therapist here so I do not want to give any advise. I do want to just say how there is a broader spectrum of just CIS and Trans. There is Gender Fluid where you flow back and forth between the 2x genders, there is of course the standard Gay and Lesbian. Then there is just the idea of Cross dresser, or it could also be a fetish. I am just giving a broader spectrum of ideas, but I am no therapist and just want to help with ideas to think about and that only you can know who you are and a therapist is there it help guide you. Lots of Love -
By Jani · Posted
This is where having a talk with a therapist would be helpful. Is this a fetish type of thought? Or excitement on being who you see yourself as? Your SO will come around, or not. Know this is about them coming to understanding what they want in life as much as understanding you. Many of us here (me included) are very much the same person that we were, albeit in feminine (or masculine) form. Once my spouse saw that she warmed up to me being real. -
By Amy LeBlanc · Posted
Thank You Kirsten. I have done the same thing as you did, where I have not done any of my hobbies or extra curricular activities and have been working on my transition with saving up along with trying to pay off my debt as well since I have dug myself into debt. I used to be a cosplayer and I still am and love making my costumes and showing them off at the different con's but have not done it much till just recently when I finally saved up some money to buy the material to make Elsa's dress and I am still making Elsa's costume. I know the class where I am looking at is only offered as an open class and their prices are $18 for the individual 1 day or a 10 day for $150 or a 20 day for $275. My priorities is my transition which lumps hair removal, surgeries and then the other is to pay off my debt. So I am living a pretty sheltered life with looking to do stuff for free or staying in my house and what I can work on in my house to finish what projects I have started and still have the items for that I dont have to spend money at all. For taking ballet, I am looking at it for for having fun and to be able to fulfill my dream that I have had.
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