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      Found a bug?  Feature not working as it should?  Have a question about how to use the forums, a resource on the site, or the chat rooms?  This is the place to get help.

       

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  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

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    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

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    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

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    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

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    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

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    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

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    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

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  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

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    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

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    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

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    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

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    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

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    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

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  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

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    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

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    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

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    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

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    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

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    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

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    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

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    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

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    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

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    12. Transition Product Info

      This forum is for information about and reviews of products you use in order to feel more authentic during your transition.  Packers, breast forms, whatever it may be - share your experiences here.  Remember, we do not allow advertisements or sales pitches.

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    13. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

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    14. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

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    15. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

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    16. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

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    17. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

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    18. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

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    19. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

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    20. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

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    21. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

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  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

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    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

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    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

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    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

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    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

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  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

    1. News

      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

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    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

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    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

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    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

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    5. Events, Conferences, and Gatherings

      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

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  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

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    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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  8. Spirituality

    1. Buddhism

      Buddhism.

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    2. Christianity

      Christianity, all sects.

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    3. Mormonism

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    4. Hinduism

      Hinduism.

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    5. Islam

      Islam.

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    6. Judaism

      Judaism.

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    7. Two-Spirit

      Two-Spirit faiths, both Native American and other.

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    8. Wicca

      Wicca.

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    9. Other Faiths

      Other religions and spiritual beliefs.
       

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    10. Non-Deistic Spirituality

      Non-deistic spirituality.

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  9. Entertainment

    1. Movies

      Discuss and review movies.  Nothing beyond an "R" rating.

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    2. Television

      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

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    3. Jokes and Humor

      Jokes and humor. Keep it clean. No ethnic or other derogatory jokes. What makes you laugh?

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    4. Games and Gaming

      Board games, card games, video games - you name it.  What do you play?

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    5. Books

      Books and book reviews, favorite authors, favorite genres, and more.

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    6. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

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    7. Music

      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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    8. Artwork

      This is for your artwork, not someone else's copyrighted art.  Because of bandwidth limits, you should use the insert image option and link to the image on your Photobucket, Imgur, or other storage account, or your own web space.  Images uploaded to the forum will be deleted.  Images must be site friendly / age-suitable or they will be deleted.

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    9. Gadgets and Tech

      This is a place to discuss the ever-changing landscape of technology.

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    • ShawnaLeigh
      Thank you all.  I wasn’t sure as my natural color is a chestnut brown and it looked so foreign to me at first.  Well chestnut brown in my youth. It’s now a crappy grey.  Lol I do intend to do an everyday makeup and take another picture with natural light and I will post these too.   Thank again!❤️❤️❤️
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      I hate nosey neighbors too. I can kind of understand her because it’s hard to keep a secret from her husband. My wife and I spend a lot of time with them. He has been asking too mostly about why I haven’t gotten a haircut. I’m pretty afraid on how he will react. What made it even better he asked her about me in front of a whole crowd of people I know.
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      Wow. That’s not cool. Personally I hate nosy neighbors. Mine just complain about my lawn. Right now. I’m so sorry you got cornered. You should be able to come out when you are ready, not someone else’s schedule. 
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      My sister just cornered me and asked when I was going to tell her husband. Because he is asking questions and our neighbors are asking questions. Of course the one neighbor is a loud mouth that has no filter. Apparently he asked my sister point blank what is going on with me. So I don’t know I want to come out so bad but I’m scared to death.
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      I remember when I was a teenager the first years when I felt more intense dysphoria. I was starting my puberty (the wrong one). It felt like a mix of panic and depression. It was like a cloud that was setting in on top of my emotions and feelings. Without really realizing it I went from being relatively happy, listening to pop music and all that to being a trainwreck and just unable to deploy any effort on any projects and listening to very very dark music, suicidal etc etc lol I also remember when my voice changed because I remember the trauma and the panic. In fact I reacted so strongly that my voice didn't actually deepened. Later, doctors said it was because of stress...   Then as an adult, before my coming out it was like a general numbness and felt like I was turned off (like a computer that is turned off). I like the expression "crushing depression" that someone used, that's pretty much it.   Now I relatively don't have a lot but when I feel it it's no longer general numbness and depression. It's more like a knife stab, that sudden feeling you have the first second when you learn a really bad news.   Anyway, that's my way of describing    
    • Susan R
      I can relate to this exact feeling although I never smoked, I have seen the affects on others.  After purging my entire wardrobe, the powerful feeling of ‘accomplishment’ would eventually wear off.  Then, during this state of suppression, the dysphoria would start to kick in, often triggered by singular events...seeing a beautiful woman, seeing a man act chivalrous to a woman, or some similar event. My mind would not relent on those images and the need to dress as myself would increase as it always had. Within a week, I found myself thinking about nothing else but dressing as myself.  Eventually, to calm my mind, I would break down and go shopping.   Acceptance of yourself and who you are seems to be a good way to stop this unproductive, painful and costly cycle...at least this is true in my case.   Susan R🌷
    • Suiraa
      As previously stated, everyone experiences dysphoria differently. I've tried to study mine some to try and understand how it functions. It is like an internal mechanism that is uncomfortable and knows exactly what is causing the discomfort. This discomfort is then translated into impulses that feel very similar to craving something like nicotine (but not quite). One of the things for me is that I will feel discomfort in my body hair and I will have to shave and make myself look pretty. Otherwise I will start to become distracted and irritable. I need to study it way more and I currently consider my understanding of these mental processes to be rather limited.
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      What's all the fuss?  Is that not your natural color?  It's you, girl!  Hottie, gonna have all the guys' heads turnin'.
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      Didn’t disappoint...absolutely love it! Watched the video. Thanks Sally!😃  
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      Way to go!!! You did it!
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      I think you look good as a blonde. Show us this same look with your everyday makeup on and I think almost everyone would agree that it’s a very nice look. I want to also mention...to me, it looks just slightly more natural too. Maybe that has more to do with the way it shapes your face.🙂   My Best, Susan R🌷
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      It's very nice and suits you well.👍
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      I know this would be true of me..especially now.  I’d be the most supportive person they had in their life. I’ve changed in many ways, so much so, that I know that if I had to re-parent my children all over again, they’d likely turn out much better for it. But the past is past. We all learn from our mistakes (and from our parent’s mistakes too, as it turns out)    Excellent revelation, NB. I think that the world would be a much better place if parents (and possibly siblings and adult children too) used this as a base foundation for their parenting and relationships. Many of us try to influence people to be more like ourselves, at least some time in our lives...it’s human nature. Rarely though, if ever, does forcing anyone to conform through indoctrination, withholding love, discipline, shaming, or restrictions change them in a long term positive manner. Most of the time it builds resentment, stubbornness and can instill bitterness in time. In some cases, it causes one to run the other direction possibly disregarding common sense or logic. My late parents used all of these methods to try to control & steer my evolution. It was an epic failure. Now, my children are attempting to do the same. I am not allowing it to control my life and understand that I do not need their approval or support. I have found those things elsewhere.😊 Thanks guys and gals!   Susan R🌷
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