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  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

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      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

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    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

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    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

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    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

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    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

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    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

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  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

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    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

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    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

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    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

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    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

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    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

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  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

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    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

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    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

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    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

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    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

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    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

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    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

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    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

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    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

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    12. Transition Product Info

      This forum is for information about and reviews of products you use in order to feel more authentic during your transition.  Packers, breast forms, whatever it may be - share your experiences here.  Remember, we do not allow advertisements or sales pitches.

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    13. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

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    14. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

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    15. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

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    16. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

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    17. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

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    18. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

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    19. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

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    20. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

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    21. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

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  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

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    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

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    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

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    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

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    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

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  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

    1. News

      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

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    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

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    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

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    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

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    5. Events, Conferences, and Gatherings

      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

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  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

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    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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      Buddhism.

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      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

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    6. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

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    7. Music

      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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    8. Artwork

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    • Jackie C.
      I don't know, T is a hell of a drug. You might be surprised how masculine you become on HRT. I'm a little jealous of FtM's honestly because of how well most of your physicality turns out. (MtF's get better bottom surgery, but that's about it.) Seriously though, grow a beard, nobody will question you.   Hugs!
    • JoniSteph
      Welcome ErinElizabeth from another new member of the Community. I have been a lurker of the shadows as well learning what I can and finally hit the GO JOIN button. Enjoy.   JoniSteph
    • JoniSteph
      A BIG Canadian HUG to you ladies for the warmest of welcomes. I am sure I shall learn a lots and be as nervous as everyone else has been plus a whole lot more. I break down at least 3/4 times a day over the least little thing. Be it my voice, my thick white facial hair, or my self doubts. I am know what i want though, so i keep that in mind on my journey of 40+ year adventure of life.   HUGS and love to All JoniSteph
    • Josie Beth
      There’s really no way to contact a complaint department. But I’ve already filled out a survey from a 3rd party that does the same thing. Unfortunately it’s not going to change anything, will probably mean some inadequate “training videos” for the employees to virtue signal and cover their butt legally, and then they won’t even punish anyone for the mistake. I probably can’t even file a lawsuit because they keep trying to contact me off the recorded line and are very vague in text. So I’m blocking anyone else that calls me for them. They call me or text me on official channels or I won’t answer.
    • Adrian Doyle
      Thank you so much! I’ll be sure to update here if I get to know that girl better! She’s got a really cool name too (it’s Livi). ٩( ᐛ )و
    • Adrian Doyle
      Thanks everyone! Well, unfortunately, I naturally look very “feminine”, so it’s still a bit of a battle with looking “masculine” enough. On the other hand, I find that even though I am 100% sure that I am a trans guy, many of my mannerisms, interests, and choice in apparel stems from both male and female upbringings. I love sports, but I was trained in music and dance at a young age. I love them equally. I can’t live without oversized hoodies, band shirts, and baseball tees, but at the same time, I feel more comfortable in high waisted shorts than jeans (I think the only jeans that actually fit me show my curves off too much for comfort, so I wear shorts all year round). There’s so many other little things that have confused my friends for years, but I know who I am, and personally, I think that it’s not so much how you look or act, but what makes you most comfortable and happy that helps define one’s identify, gender, sexuality, or otherwise. I am a boy, but I don’t look or act like the “average” one. But at the same time, that in no way discredits what I identify as. I would never be “average”, no matter my gender or sexuality, and I’m so grateful for the friends and my boyfriend that recently entered my life and support and love me as much and I do them. I can’t thank them enough for the amount of happiness they’ve brought me in the past few months, so for now at least, I’m trying to be positive about my transition. 
    • Jackie C.
      She might just think you're shy. I have a gorgeous friend (I mean really, it should be illegal to look that good) who changes in "my" bathroom (it's unisex and has a lock) because she doesn't like to change or shower around other women. Anyway, if this girl wants to be your friend, be her friend and come out to her when you think you're ready and you have a better idea of how she's going to react.   I completely get the locker room thing. By law I still have to use the men's room until after my bottom surgery. I feel like a frog on the highway in there. I always have. One dude commented on my breasts. I don't even really do "naked" in there, I just wore my gym clothes under my street clothes. Still super uncomfortable. I am SO very glad to have some space to myself now. I don't even mind sharing with Xena (seriously, that's her birth name. Gorgeous and a cool name? I could absolutely DIE of envy.)   Still though, once gym class is over, it's over and you at least have a quiet corner to change in. Best of luck. Perseverance. Other uplifting words. High school is terrible. It gets better though. (Unless you're one of those people who peaks in high school, then it doesn't get better but I don't think that applies to ANY of us.)   Hugs!
    • Susan R
      Hello @JoniSteph Welcome to the family and good luck to you on your upcoming HRT appointment.  If there's ever a place to learn about your "new self to be", it's right here.  Everyone on TP is a different flavor but we all are hoping for some of the same things you are...peace with ourselves, our mind, and our body.   My Best, Susan R🌷
    • Adrian Doyle
      Welcome to the community! I’m new here too! Everyone is so nice!
    • Jackie C.
      Is there a contact person you can call? Register a complaint? I remember there being someone I could bitch to when I was being mistreated at Volt. Of course Volt is no longer in business in this area. Maybe it's because they didn't treat their temps like complete garbage. Mostly garbage, but not complete garbage.   I really have no words. I'm angry on your behalf. That's inexcusable behavior from an employer but I understand how "at-will" states work. I live in one too.   I'm just sorry Josie. You deserve better.   Hugs!
    • Adrian Doyle
      I mean, as a teen, I’m self-conscious enough. Adding dysphoria from being a trans guy makes it a million time harder.    My school has a mandatory year of aquatics class for sophomores (which yes, is just as awful as it sounds for anyone that’s trans). I was so incredibly uncomfortable that I had to change in the stalls, wear a rash guard, and ended up having a panic attack that worsened my predisposed breathing issues until I nearly drowned. For obvious reasons, they pulled me out of the class, but gym in still very uncomfortable. I recently met a girl who’s been quite nice to me, but I’m not sure if I should come out to her unless she asks why I change somewhere away from everyone else.    I still feel quite isolated from the rest of the class, but I still have hope that it’ll get better. Hopefully, I’ll get to know more of my classmates and be able to distract myself from my disphoria    
    • Susan R
      Welcome ErinElizabeth, it's a pleasure to meet you.  It's so nice to read that your spouse is a supporter.  If the time comes that you need to move forward in your transitional journey, you're in a rare position of having your strongest ally right there along side.  Most things will be smoother...even the difficult milestones will be reached with greater ease.  You have been given one of the greatest gifts you could ever receive.   I know it was difficult but thank you for sharing your wonderful news with us.  It's been a long and tiring week for me and I needed some good refreshing news.   Warmest Regards, Susan R🌷
    • Josie Beth
      I am so upset right now. Most of you know about my temp agency texting me not to go in to work last week on Monday. Well this morning I was woken up by the same temp agency and this time I was asked why I had not been to work for a week!!! So this whole time it was a mistake that nobody was willing to admit that they made, that screwed up my chances of ever working for this company again and it’s putting me dangerously close to homelessness!?!? Because of ineptitude? I’m so furious right now I don’t know what to do. After explaining this to the person who called me and voicing my feelings about not appreciating the mistakes because it could make me homeless, they just didn’t even acknowledge it! So I blocked them. I’ve been gaslighted and now they not only punish me but just ignore the fact that they are responsible for maybe making me homeless? She was just munching on some food and said “uh huh” with the same disinterest as if I said there’s free napkins in the break room. I just can’t. If they ever send me anything else on any other number I am going to explain that I don’t want any assignment until they pay me a full week to make up for them screwing up royally. 
    • emily the wolf
      Thx im going to attempt an aproch simmaler to that I just hope that my mom will let it happen
    • OliverPerry
      You're living the dream! Well, a male body, of course, would be an even better dream but still I do envy your situation. Your boyfriend must be a wonderful being. It must be quite rare to find someone so loving and expecting.   The whole calling you his "girlfriend" when talking to his parents thing must suck though. But I guess it must be done.   I'm FTM and dating another FTM like myself is not something I would oppose to. I like blokes and I perceive trans man as blokes (male anatomy is great and all but it's not the only thing that I find attractive in a guy).I'm still living as a girl though. And, while dating as one, If if I were to bring a trans guy to meet my parents, then I guess, if pre-T, I would introduce him as a "friend" and, after T, as a cis boyfriend (hiding the trans issue). I guess this is bad but the need to protect ourselves and others is important.    Hopefully, when you start taking T (if that's what you're hoping to do) and begin experiencing physical changes, your boyfriend's parents already like you so much that they won't mind and you'll become the boyfriend instead of the "girlfriend" in their eyes with no judgement. This would be heavenly and it's not completely impossible. I have a bisexual female friend who used to bring her girlfriend to her parents house as if she were just another friend. They broke up in a horrible way (after almost three years of dating) and my friend was so low she ended up telling the truth to her parents over the phone in a crying fit. Her mom and dad are wonderful people and had been quite found of her "friend". However, they've always lived in a small town and never had access to anything other than what's considered to be "normal", so it was quite a shock to them. Also, they are very religious people. Still, after only a couple of days, they accepted it, maybe not fully but at least showed their support. In the end, all they wanted was for their daughter to be happy and actually expressed missing her girlfriend's presence in their house, even after knowing about the truth of their relationship.  I'm sharing this just to show that isn't impossible for not very openminded parents to accept things like this. Well, I guess if they don't like you now as their son's "girlfriend", they'll probably won't like you as a trans boyfriend in the future as well. I hope that's not your case and that they adore you.    Oh well, again: your boyfriend is bloody amazing!        
    • Jackie C.
      I can't vouch for how good this is going to be, but here goes.   Personally, I started with a therapist. You're only 14 though (oh good, high school. High schools have counselors), so my first avenue of attack would be the school counselor. They ought to be trained in what to do when a student comes to them for help.   Your mother is going to be tougher. I've personally experienced my egg donor denying my condition and calling all the professionals who've helped me along the way, "Liars and thieves after my money." You'd think if they were just after my money, there wouldn't be so many hoops to jump though, right? You might be able to get your mother to agree to a gender therapist on the grounds of your "confusion." We both know you're probably not confused, but that's what she needs to hear. Once you have a gender therapist, you've got another ally. I'm not privy to how the legal side of things works in Ohio, especially for minors, but a good gender therapist ... or maybe even a bad one, I've only seen two. That's not a valid sample size ... Anyway, a gender therapist can help guide you through the system to get what you need. On the plus side, once you've talked to your gender therapist he (or she, all of my therapists have been women but I prefer female doctors) can help talk with your parents. They might be more accepting of your situation after they hear it from somebody in a position of authority. Once you've talked to a gender therapist and maybe your school counselor (mine was rubbish, I hope yours is better), you might be able to get the help you need. Worst case, you have to hold out until you're eighteen. I completely understand how much that sucks, but unless your mom's on-board, you're stuck until you're independent of her.   You will have to wait until you're eighteen for GCS though. You might also have to wait a bit for hormones. Assuming you get through the other hurdles ... ok, assuming you get past your mom ... your endocrinologist will have an opinion on what it's safe to give you and when.   We'll be expecting regular updates. 😋   Hugs!
    • Jackie C.
      Salutations @ErinElizabeth!   Supportive spouses are just the best! I'm glad you have one as well. A partner in life makes the trials and challenges so much easier.   Hugs!
    • NB Adult
      Welcome Erin Elizabeth! So nice to have an encouraging spouse by your side!
    • NB Adult
      Welcome Joni, wish many more would come out of the woods and join us around the campfire here!
    • NB Adult
      Unlike humans, they don't judge and know all about unconditional love!
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