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  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

    12. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

    13. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

    14. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

    15. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

    16. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

    17. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

    18. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

    19. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

    20. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

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      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

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      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

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      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

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      Transgender activism and protests.

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      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

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      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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    • BrandiBri
      Maybe a little late, but Happy Transgender Day to all!   Hugs, Brandi
    • Konstantine
      Thank you for the thoughtful response. Like you say, hormones are driving some of this and it is difficult to divorce yourself from them. I think you have a good point also about there being a difference between wanting and knowing. It is difficult for me to really tell the difference right now and to explore the feelings I have involves overcoming a lot of self-imposed (but not rational) guilt and fear. It does not help that I am taking these first steps so many years into my life. I feel like society has generally changed in some areas where talking about these types of feelings are less frowned upon, however, it doesn't help when you have internalized them. I have never particularly enjoyed looking at myself in the mirror as a man, but I also am not sure how I feel about having a female identity also.   I hope to find that out. 
    • BrandiBri
      Welcome Jett!   Hugs, Brandi
    • BrandiBri
      According to the Mayo Clinic eight 8 oz glasses per day is reasonable, but that can vary depending on the person or level of activity. Also spiro is a diuretic and needs to be taken into account.   https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/in-depth/water/art-20044256   Hugs, Brandi
    • DenimAndLace
      There's a lot to unpack in what you"re asking Konstantine but I don't think the sexual nature of your experience precludes you from being on the transgender spectrum somewhere. Although it may look like a fetish to you or to an outsider, I think your story is similar to many in this lgbTQ* community. One possible explanation is hormone "poisoning" (my term). Although I "always knew", once I started on HRT, I completely lost interest sex which made it a lot easier to sort out my gender feelings. That being said, I think there is a fine line between KNOWING you are a given gender and WANTING to be the opposite sex.  It's my personal belief that those who merely WANT to be the opposite sex are the ones who end up regretting their transition. You have a lot to figure out and I'm glad you're working with a counselor. Between that person and this forum, I think you'll find many of the answers you're looking for. Keep questioning.  sometimes the same question asked a different way will flip the switch. 
    • Kirsten
      Haha. I hadn’t but I went back and read some now. It’s amazing what just a little time will do for a girl! It really is just building confidence. Small steps to get to big goals. It really helps having all the help and support from here though. Reading everyone’s stories really helps to keep things in perspective. To follow, walk with, and teach how we get through the obstacles brings a semblance of order to an otherwise chaotic process. And the joy of the results is like nothing else.     I did have a question though. And it’s probably silly but how much water should I be drinking daily? I’m at close to a gallon per day. It seems a little high. I also have 2 glasses of milk, 1 diet soda, and 2coffees. Literally drinking all day. All my test results were “perfect”. But it becomes a chore drinking all this fluid. Lol. Especially for work. I work out of a truck all day so bathrooms aren’t readily available. 😕  if anyone actually knows if there’s a formula or something please lemme know. Thanks.  ❤️Kirsten
    • KoreyA
      I have been thinking it over lately,dressing fulltime as Korey and always wanted to do this.Been in my mind for 6 years now.My wife and I had the talk about this last night,we are on the same page.She knows I always have the talk with her on things instead of making the decision myself without her knowing.Also had the talk with my family today,on the same page too.They have always seen me as the feminine son/brother and want to see what is best for me.My daughter and two sons were talked to this morning,said they will accept the changes and love me as their dad still.Plans to dress fulltime as Korey are going to start in August and not going back.
    • Charlize
      https://www.aclu.org/blog/lgbt-rights/transgender-rights/federal-court-philadelphia-joins-growing-chorus-defending-trans   I'm glad we have the ACLU even though i can remember times when i wish they hadn't been right.   Hugs,   Charlize
    • Konstantine
      Hello All,   I thought I would join the forum to get some advice from people further along on their journey of self-discovery. I apologize if this is a little lengthy and veers a little towards the sexual in nature, but it is necessary to explain my situation.   Recently, after a period of extreme stress, I came to the realization that I was repressing a female part of my personality. I am not sure how I feel about this or if I really know who I am (a crossdresser, trans, something in between).  I know I shouldn't be trying to put labels on things but not knowing is giving me extreme anxiety. I am talking to a counselor about this, but think it would help me if I heard from some other people on this. I am trying to be honest with myself now so I can just live my life without feeling constantly unsettled and uncomfortable. Maybe part of this is an internalized phobia of discovering things about myself that I am just not prepared to deal with.   Just to tell a short version of my story, i've always enjoyed wearing women's clothes since I was 13. It was almost always sexual in nature. After achieving my sexual needs, I would feel sick about it and then stop. I spent a lot of time around transgender women in my teens since I lived in several countries where it was socially accepted to be trans. I always found them very attractive and beautiful. I now realize with hindsight I am not sure if I was just sexually attracted to them or wanted to be them or both. I stopped crossdressing into my 20's as I thought it more socially acceptable to just watch pornography. I have almost exclusively watching transgender pornography now for the majority of my adult life. I can say with honesty in my daily life I have never been really sexually attracted to men, but when I watch pornography, I often times imagine I am the women.  This progressed into me almost exclusively watching pornography where men are tricked into becoming women and also pornography that is filmed from a woman's perspective. I understand if this type of pornography is offensive to some here, but I want to be honest about my situation.   As is obvious to you and to me now, I have an unhealthy relationship with this, and I have decided to stop watching it and try embracing whatever feelings I may have. The issue is I still have sexual feelings when I think about dressing up, but I am also excited and happy about trying to present as a woman.  I have started to try to learn to embrace this side of me, but I am not sure where it is going to lead. Regardless of what I do now, I feel anxiety. I would like to say this all sounds like garden variety crossdressing, but I am not sure if it is more, and I am not sure if I am ready to make it more.    I wanted to know if anyone has had these types of experiences and where they ended up or how they dealt with them.   Thanks for taking the time to respond.      
    • tracy_j
      An interesting article. To me it shows more about what we don't know than what we do!   Tracy
    • tracy_j
      It varies a bit here. I remember being on holiday on the west coast of the country (Lancashire) a couple of years ago. That place was scary as honking and shouting were commonplace with people cutting each other up. It happens here in the east but it is much quieter here although incidents happen. Road rage often seems to increases as the temperature rises. I do sometimes wonder why they are putting 50 limits on many roads as, when I drive at 50mph, a queue soon builds up behind me. Before the limit was there people would just pass without issue. The dangerous drivers still do anyway. When I was working in the job which took me around the county etc, I just drove to get there in reasonable time. I was not fussed by fast or slow drivers, just moved. Sometimes I used to get irritated but road rage is just bad and counter-productive.   Tracy
    • tracy_j
      Hi Newguy   Welcome   Tracy
    • Dev
      Non-binary folks are those with dysphoria who aren't fully compelled to transition from birth to the entirely opposite gender.  It's also a gender designation, rather than a sexual orientation.
    • Jani
      Ouch, that's hot!  
    • Jani
      Interestingly I was reading the other day that there were more B folks than L, G or T.  I hope I'm not conflating Non-Binary and Bi-Sexual.  If so I apologize.     https://www.thedailybeast.com/why-bisexuals-feel-ignored-and-insulted-at-lgbt-pride?ref=home   It does seem this community that has gotten even less attention and care than transgender.       Jani  
    • tracy_j
      Hi Jett, welcome   As Jani and Dev have said, we are all different.   Don't be worried.   Tracy  
    • Willow
      Yes that’s true.  I’m Coastal SC where the heat index is over 100 with 115 possible inland.
    • Dev
      Hello again and welcome aboard!  You've figured out there's more than one way dysphoria can affect folks, so being unsure about where you want to go with it is both normal and less a barrier than it might seem to be.  We're all here to help with any questions you might have, so feel free to jump in anywhere.  We have had a large influx of new people who are non-binary, so I'm hoping to see some new and insightful conversation in that section of the forum in the near future.  (I'd love to know where y'all found us.  We've been waiting for you. )   If you haven't already, you're welcome to join our Discord server as well.  Plenty of NB folks hang out there as well, many of whom don't spend time on the forums.   Glad to have you with us!
    • Jani
      Very good.  Sounds like you have it all mapped out.     Hugs, Jani
    • Jani
      Hello Jett and welcome.  Don't worry about the social awkwardness here.  Many of us are or were due to our gender dysphoria.  Being unsure is also all right.  We all have questions about where our lives are headed.  This is a good place to talk about those things as we are a like minded group.  We are here to support each other first and foremost.  Please join in the conversation and post any questions you have.  We'll do our best! 

      Cheers, Jani
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