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The thought of coming out to family is terrifying early on. Heck, it's terrifying until we've done it. At first it was a petrifying fear for me. In time, I just couldn't keep up the double life with them. I had to be able to be me. Both my parrents have passed, so I chose my younger sibling and sent her a coming out email, then held my breath figuratively. The next morning the reply came. She not only accepted me, she was very supportive! As I read it I laughed and wept with joy and relief. My two older siblings accept me too. I'm now Carla with my family, and have been for almost a year now. Even my oldest sister who I was most afraid would reject me accepts me.
On the other hand, the one who was my best friend has not accepted me as Carla. And I thought he would accept me. We never really know.
I hope one day you are able to be yourself with your family, whoever you turn out to be. Just remember it's a jourrney, there's no need to do everything fast. Take your time and do things when you are ready.
There's no rush to even put a specific label on yourself yet. Explore yourself. Get to know who you are. And above all, love yourself. We will love you until you can love yourself!
Lots of love,
It's good that you have taken your steps. It is something you would always wonder about, and need to explore.
I know cultures and people differ, but do not write off your parents completely. It is good to stay in contact, even if they never know the full extent of your change. I live as androgyne, and am usually dressed female. My brother, for one, along with his wife have seen me dressed in a local supermarket wearing girly clothes (skirt, tights etc). I suspect they were not impressed, but in our family there is no direct predjudice. I have never explained anything to the family, except my partner and son. As I am not physically changing (surgery) and unlikely to officially change gender I think, for me, it would be too complicated (especially as my mother is very forgetful so I would have to continuously explain things). They accept me as I am with no problems.
You will find your way. Just to tread carefully for the first few steps until you get to know yourself and your environment better. You will become more confident with time
I know the feeling of lack of trans folk as I don't know any at all here, although it is some while since I last investigated. Logically there must be many! It does not worry me, and I have a steadily changing circle of friends, but the change in viewpoint means I just have to be aware of how may partner may see things.
The Web research site Snopes.com looked into this case, because of the predictable right wing media misinformation being disseminated. You can read it for yourself here: https://www.snopes.com/miguel-martinez-transgender-bathroom-controversy/
The bottom line is that yes, this case is horrific, the perp is evil and needs to be locked away, but the crime has nothing to do with access by trans women to public restrooms. The folks who are most outraged by the transgender aspect of this story are the same folks who try to ignore all the politicians, priests and rich businessmen who have been accused or convicted of or admitted to sexual assault over the years. Where was, and is, the right's outrage about that?