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  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is a dual-gender forum for both FtMs and MtFs. Issues discussed here affect both groups, such as the WPATH Standards of Care.

    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

    4. Androgyne Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

    12. Transition Product Info

      This forum is for information about and reviews of products you use in order to feel more authentic during your transition.  Packers, breast forms, whatever it may be - share your experiences here.  Remember, we do not allow advertisements or sales pitches.

    13. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

    14. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

    15. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

    16. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

    17. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

    18. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

    19. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

    20. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

    21. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

    1. News

      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

    5. Events, Conferences, and Gatherings

      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

  7. Parents, Family, and Friends of Transgender Individuals

    1. Parents of Transgender Children Support Forum

      A place for parents of transgender kids to discuss their problems and concerns.

    2. Family and Friends of Transgender People

      A place for partners, wives, husbands, significant others, friends, and family of transgender people to discuss their concerns and get advice.

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  9. Entertainment

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      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

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      Jokes and humor. Keep it clean. No ethnic or other derogatory jokes. What makes you laugh?

    4. Games and Gaming

      Board games, card games, video games - you name it.  What do you play?

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      Books and book reviews, favorite authors, favorite genres, and more.

    6. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

    7. Music

      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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      This is for your artwork, not someone else's copyrighted art.  Because of bandwidth limits, you should use the insert image option and link to the image on your Photobucket, Imgur, or other storage account, or your own web space.  Images uploaded to the forum will be deleted.  Images must be site friendly / age-suitable or they will be deleted.

    9. Gadgets and Tech

      This is a place to discuss the ever-changing landscape of technology.

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      Just to clarify ladies my hrt is supervised, my clinic is very progressive and listens to its patients about what approach and meds that are used. Self medicating is a very bad idea.
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    • Ms Maddie
      Thanks Brandi, and everyone else on this thread Alex started.  Felt like maybe I ranted too much.  I'm pretty new here, and don't want to bite people's hands that were only trying to comfort me.  Because yeah its hard out there sometimes and there have been times I overreacted and got defensive.  To be honest sticking up for myself at those times in public did not seem to do me, or any other gender non-conforming people, any favors.   In the spirit of the thread title, I absolutely feel this way.  I'm not that into makeup and if I wear it, its to try and just look less like a man. Maybe I need more expensive makeup and just paint roller it on.   Going to look for a stir crazy thread to post on because I'm ready with spoons  
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    • MetaLicious
      It is nice to hear from others that fears like I was experiencing are not just me.  I am also reassured by all this talk of asymmetrical breasts, for while my forms are identical (almost as if they came from the same mold!), I find it difficult to place them in perfect symmetry.  I guess "abnormal" is normal...
    • ShawnaLeigh
      So to keep it somewhat short. A lovely young , well younger then me, lady sent me a message early this AM.  She asked me if I knew Jeff. Who is my brother so I say I do and ask her who she was?  I have never met her but she knew me through my brothers.  So she introduces herself and we chat for like two hours. Just sharing things but nothing to deep.  We grew up in the same town and she apparently knows both my brothers and my sister.  A ton of the same people so I felt comfortable sharing.   So she then asks me what my story is she would love to know.  I assume about me being trans.  So I said what the heck and shared.  She asks me a ton of good questions as was in general very kind and very interested in it all.   So it’s getting on in the morning and we both had stuff to do so she asks me if it would be ok to get a friend request from her.  Yes I’m ok with that.  She then asks me out on a date.   😳😳😳🤔👍 Of course it is delayed until the virus lets us all out again but I accepted.  😊 I admit I find her very attractive.  She had mentioned how young I look and how very pretty she though I was.  She couldn’t believe it was really me.  I said it really was and then we had to go.     Wow is all I can say.  Ive said I’m not ready to date now and that’s true.  But this virus could delay that for quite some time so I thought why not.  By then my divorce will be final so I’m free game.  Lol  
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      Hey Traci! Welcome to the forums! I think you'll find us a warm, supportive and largely friendly bunch. Please feel free to browse the forums and join in the discussion!   Hugs!
    • ShawnaLeigh
      I can assure you my entire life I’ve only held attraction towards women.  It was one of the most confusing thing to me at an early age that I felt so female living in a male body and being so attracted to women.  I just thought I had some weird fetish of something.  I did not understand nor know anything g about LGBT back then.  I was just weird so hide it and live life with the cards I was dealt.  Even after coming out I had zero interest in men.  Gross.   Today I get all weak in the knees when one pays attention to me. So I’m not sure but it definitely seems like a change in preference or at least an expanded gender pool to play in.  Jmo
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    • Suzanne1
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    • ShawnaLeigh
      I recently came out at age 52.  My entire family took it very well to super supportive.   Accept my mother.  She said I had killed her son.  Now since then she has been ok but not accepting it still.  “Not in 1000 years will I ever see you as a women”. Now this being said my mother and I have always had a strained relationship so please don’t read into it.  To me I’m good either way.   Now I didn’t tell you this to discourage you but you know your folks better then we do.  It sounds like you kind of know their reactions so I say take it really slow and just be honest.  If they take I badly then just deal with the fall out.  You are who you are and have every right to be happy too.   I did not think my mother would take this stance nor did my sister who has had hundreds of talks with her.  It’s sad she is missing out on a wonderful daughter that pretty similar to her son.  
    • BrandiBri
      I guess that I too am "abnormal" as my left breast is the smaller one😕 It's not quite as firm as the right one either.
    • Debra Michelle
      Heather and I been making up for lost times big time even before the paternity test done.I did show her the old pictures of me as male and our relationship is going great.Heather says I am a great grandparent to her one year old son,said I am invited to his 2nd birthday party next month.Did spread my dad's ashes over the lake he loved to fish at yesterday,Mom did it.My friend Kevin is a great helicopter pilot flying over it at a safe speed doing it.My family and I know he is at peace there.
    • BrandiBri
      Maddie, I agree with you completely. Please don't take my words as misunderstanding you. My older sister and my youngest daughter do not understand and can't accept my being trans, but that is ok by me. I can't change the way they think, however I can try to help them understand that I am the same person that they have known all their lives, it's just that who I am doesn't match my anatomy and never did. I would not have reacted the way Alex did (no offence Alex). I would have taken the opportunity to try to help them understand that I am just as human as they are. 
    • ShawnaLeigh
      Oh no hon I did not take it wrong at all.  I actually respond well to tough love and sometime you just need to be told the bare bones truth by a person to finally get it.  Goddess only knows there are many here that need some tough love.  Though what you said was nothing like that. We are good!
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      Yes I know.  Does make it want to grow and faster though.  LOL Though happily they are both equally sore so growing still. Its my left that is smaller @Jani so I am continuing to beak all the molds. 
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