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Guest Singthesoul

So I'm going clothes shopping soon with some guy friends who are uber supportive of me :D

The only thing is, I get the money from my parents, so they like to SEE what I get.

Now I want to get more, you know, male clothing, but at the same time, I don't want it to turn into a coming out fiasco. Though my friends would def take me in if anything bad happens. I need to def get some pants, and shirts. But I'd also like some androgyny clothing, so I can push it either way.

Any suggestions? Or at least cover ups if I decide to get full male clothes?

Sincerely

Quinn, the now confused shopper amongst all other things.

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Guest JenniferPH

Most folks won't be able to tell if the jeans/pants you buy are actually from the womens department. And get some pantyhose for those cold wintery days. Or if you have to, go to Activskin and get mens hosiery. :D

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Quinn,

I was mislead by the title of your topic and did a little research about what schools would be good to purchase and had decided that you should go for a College with the eye toward the Ivy Leagues for prestige, but there are a lot of independent, private colleges available.

The I saw it was about clothing so the idea of jeans/pants from the womens department is very good - you pretty much have to read the label in a quick, "let's see what you bought" session i doubt that it would be noticed.

Only tee shirts will work because women's shirts button the opposite direction and it will seep in after a little bit - but they never notice the pants - people tend not to stare at you pants so much.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Singthesoul

Thanks guys :D I am really excited/kind of scared. It's like a whole new step. One of those ones that that you're excited for and scared for at the same time.

I know I am going to feel so much more comfortable when I go to school. I have a good feeling.

Would compression shirts from like a sporting goods store work well for binding? I have a DIY binding device made from an old girdle and it does fairly well, it's just not as good as I'd like. I'm fairly small chested, a B, like JUST a B. so I thought if I wore a tight sportsbra and a compression shirt I could get almost perfectly flat.

Any suggestions?

Again, thanks for being so helpful :D

Quinn.

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Guest Konnor

Hey Quinn, the other two posters who replied are ladies, so I figured I'd help you out on the binding front, lol. Under-armor type shirts work okay to compress if you get a small enough size, and if it's all you can get. I see that you're fairly small chested, so it might get you as flat as you want. If that doesn't work, I would say try a real binder from Underworks/T-Kingdom. I'm a B cup too, and their tri-top gives me a very masculine chest. Remember, you don't want to be flat as a board, because guys don't look like that. You want to have pecs, so having a little bulge up there won't "out" you.

As for the clothes, pretty much if you want to stay slightly masculine/androgyne, you can't go wrong with regular old t-shirts, hoodies, and jeans. No one can usually tell where those come from because everyone wears them. If you want to pick up a few button-up men's shirts, your folks might not notice that they are particularly manly if they fit you well. But you'll know that they're mens shirts, and the buttons will be on the other side, so maybe that will work for you. Hope some of this helped!

--Konnor

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Guest Singthesoul

Thanks! I actually don't own any hoodies, so investing in one would be good. I also have wayy too many girl fitting t-shirts so I'll definitely go get some more neutral ones. At this point I'm kinda like 'to hell with my parents' so I think I'm just gonna go out there and buy what I like and what makes me happy. They'll have to find out eventually! Right?

THANKS EVERYONE FOR THE SUGGESTIONS

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