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Hello, I've been lurking about here every so often for the past 9 months and have finally decided to join in. I am just amazed by how loving and supporting everyone is to each other. I was actually waiting to post until I had come out as trans to at least one person but I have yet to feel the right timing. I need to work on my heart to heart skills, never been one for emotional stuff.

Nice to meet you all!

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hey Hey Westly,

All right!! I am so glad that you joined!!! Welcome!

Come in and relax! Yes we are friendly and love to make new friends!!!

As you can see, you can be yourself, and be happy. We are all here for you!!

Have some pizza. Go ahead and take all you want!! Sally made so much today!!

Soon more people will be greeting you so stick around and let people meet you!!

HUGS and Love

Brenda

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Guest Elizabeth K

WESTLY

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME

Come on in... many of us in all different sortsa ways - but plenty FTMs here

So glad you decided to join in. We love opinions and we need YOURS!

So post post post!

Elizabeth

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Hi Westly and welcome, there is no rush to tell people, take your time and when the timing is right it will happen, there are no do overs and once the genie is out of the bottle you can't but him back in.

HUGS!

Paula

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Guest Donna Jean

Westly!

Dang! It's so good to see that you joined....

Heck...you were leaving nose prints all over the windows from lurking!....LOL

Good to have you, Hon.....get yourself all comfy and dig in to the pizza....

I'm really glad that you decided to take the plunge!

Hey, look around...nice family....eh?

Well, except for weird auntie Liz and strange cousin Zab and......

HUGGS!

Creepy Aunt Donna Jean!

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  • Admin

Hey, is there any pizza left? I want a slice! I could smell it all the way over here in California.

Welcome to Laura's, Westly. You've been kind of an unofficial member for a while, so

its great to welcome you officially. Now you can post, and chat and PM members after

getting five posts under you belt.

Glad to have you with us, young man.

Carolyn Marie

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I smell pizza!

That means someone new is around here somewhere - wait a minute I see a post from Westly, I don't remember a Westly here so you must be new!

I didn't waste my time reading all of those Sherlock Holmes stories.

Pleased to meet you, Westly, welcome to the family.

Nine months is about the longest that anyone has lurked around outside, but as you can see we don't ever chase anybody away if they might want to come in and talk sometime.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Jean Davis

Well hello Westly

So your the shadow that was running around here lately. :P

You gave me quite a scare a couple of times. :o

I'm glad to see you decided to introduce yourself. ;)

Now I can quit looking over my shoulder. Opps, maybe not. :unsure:

Anyway welcome to the playground, I'm sure you'll like it here. :D

LUV

Jean

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Guest CharliTo

*hugs*

It's so nice to finally be able to hug the shadows that lurk the forums :)

hehehehe.

welcome. take your time too. Like we all tell those that get very nervous...start writing down what you might wanna go over when you come out with a trusted person. :)

oh and

*puts a lei on* ^^

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Hi Westly,

As a parent of a FtM, I hope that Laura's provides you with the support and friendship you are seeking. In return, I also hope you can teach us some things about the FtM experience! It is really a win win situation, as I see it. Welcome!

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Guest rachael1

HI Westly,

Good to see you finally dropped in and said hello.

Welcome to the forums.

I got here a day late so I guess all the pizza had been eaten?

Rachael

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Guest darlene lynn

Hi Westly

Welcome glad you findly came inside. :)

You sound like a nice guy. B)

We can use a lot more nice guy's here.

Coming out, You'll find the right time, All we got is time.

Love

Darlene Lynnette

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