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alright well i went to church on saturday. after church i always go to this church thing for teens called Life Teen. and its pretty fun. i feel comfortable. and well i come out there as a guy but i think many ppl are confused on whether i am a girl or boy because some of my friends from school go there and its hard. people call me he and then my friends have to correct them and i hate that. well my friend from my school was there and so did a former student that went to my school 2 years ago was there. and he knew me as kayden because of my myspace. and my friend rebekah was like no its Kaitlyn and it really made me mad but i was like well it doesnt matter i go by both and she was very confused i think. well ok we had to break into groups. and we had to seperate from boys and girls. and i was very hesitant to stay in the girls but i didnt want to. cuz i pretty much passed a boy and everyone thinks i am besides my friend. and well at first i didnt go up with my guy friend and well i was like i gotta go to the bathroom. and i went to go to get a drink of water next to the bathroom and when she wasnt looking i went with the guys. i felt bad leaving my friend but i felt more comfortable when i went with the guys. so we formed a circle in the guys room. and we had a guy talk about the sins and how we rationalize things and make up excuses for the sins we do. and it felt like i was one of them. it didnt matter if i was a girl physically, nobody knew. not the guy next to me or the guy in front of me. so it was very refreshing and exciting to finally talk with the guys. so it felt good. but i didnt know how to tell my other friend that was a girl and how i would tell her. so i dont know what to do. she didnt talk to me after we went back together with the girls. seems like she was avoiding me. i think she was really confused. so i emailed her explaining it. so now im just waiting for her response to it.

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Ah, these kinds of awkward situations come up all the time.

I've always felt better associating with guys. Groups of girls just make me feel awkward. It's not their fault; just that I can't really relate very well.

You explained yourself; we oughta wait to see what happens.

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Hope she responds to the e-mail in a good way. I feel wrong in a group just for the girs. But i also feel odd in a grooup of just boys. I can't relate to girls very much. apart from the pain side of the time of month........But i find myself uncomftable with guys cause i wonder "Can they tell i'm in a female body?" and i dunno i find groups of males very intimidating. I dunno why. I just....i dunno......I dont fit into any group really. Never have done.

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well i never get to associate with guys before and i finally got to get one talk and it was even in a chuch group. i thought i was gonna get caught and be sent to the girls group but luckily i didnt. i've been mistaken for a boy and i liked it. i pass pretty well. i've always been in so much girl talk. i mean i can relate with girls in some ways. but usually i just stay quiet in many convos. and sometimes when i see guys just talkin about stuff i want to talk to i just want to go to their group and talk. talking with girls has actually helped me , or listening to girls because it helps me on what girls want. and its a pretty big advantage for me.

well i got an email back. and well its surprising. she actually understood. and she accepts me for who i am. i feel glad that she doesnt hate me for it.

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That's awesome, Brandt!

A good positive sign. Hopefully it's okay for everyone else you choose to tell.

That's awesome, Brandt!

A good positive sign. Hopefully it's okay for everyone else you choose to tell.

Oh man, I thought I was the only one who had situations like that. Everywhere I've ever gone (summer camp, out of school activities, groups etc, work now) I pretty much presented as a guy, and everyone just thought I was a guy, but there were always those one or two people from school or somewhere who knew I was a girl and felt it was their moral duty to go around telling everyone who called me "he" that I was actually a girl. This just confused the hell out of people, and even though they would accept me as a girl, I still always just felt more comfortable when they thought I was a guy.

And that's really good about your friend, Brandt. Good work :D

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