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By Lydia_R · Posted
I know my transwoman appearance can be a negative trigger for men. I mean, it even negatively triggers what is left of my male thought patterns. I'm wearing a tight fitting, full length, black dress the last few days. If I could get rid of my male "junk" today, that would be wonderful. I'm not going wear clothing that I do not enjoy and I'm not going to avoid wearing things like this dress just to avoid triggering some people. During my coming out phase, I was very conscious about going out in public. Now, several years later, it doesn't even cross my mind at all. I am free to express myself the way I want to. I do get some negative reactions from people in the public places I go. I think it is good for them to realize that when you are in public, you are not in control of who you bump into or what you see. I'm a homebody. Before coming out, I enjoyed dressing up at home. Even when I was presenting as a male, I enjoyed dressing up at home, in a masculine way, even if I wasn't going to go anywhere. I just like looking good and feeling my best. And it isn't about showing that to other people. So the "acceptance" part of this, is that I just want to be accepted as I am out there in public. I just want to make my transactions out there and for people to be civil about it. I'm actually for segregation on the level of if people want to form some club or tavern with a certain culture where they don't have to see and be triggered by me in my dress, and I can go to some club with people who are doing a trans thing, listening to down-tempo acid jazz and drinking ginger tea. But then there are the super public places like the grocery stores that everyone goes to and you know, we need greater acceptance there. The work/employment thing is a huge deal too. I think trans people should not use it as an excuse to get out of work or create waves at work and that employers and employees realize that there needs to be professionalism at work. At work, we're trying to get products to people. It all boils down to that. We all use these products and most of us go to work to keep that thing going. Work isn't some social club. Back to the lump in my dress... I kind of step into a woman's world by doing this in that they have breasts sticking out that they have no control over. -
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By Ivy · Posted
My son has an industrial type stove on their farm. I think he got it used online, he gets stuff online a lot. Burns propane. It is pretty nice. I did use it when I was farm sitting for them. But definitely overkill for someone like me living with a house-mate daughter. We do our own cooking for the most part. We also keep very different hours. -
By Timi · Posted
I saw Lane 8 last Saturday night at a wonderful outdoor concert/dance venue. When he played this song I almost cried. The words are such a powerful statement of friendship - to my ears anyway. -
By Lydia_R · Posted
Welcome Felix! It sounds like we have a lot in common with music on multiple instruments and food. I'm not into lifting weights though. That could be a good skill in the Marines. I'm a Navy veteran. They just stick us in a little metal room and sleep deprive us. In all seriousness, I felt that it was good to travel the world when I was young and working. Loved this "...but what can you do." It sounds like you have a firm grip on reality! -
By KathyLauren · Posted
It undoubtedly depends on what country you are in. And even then, there would be discrepancies between policy and culture: what is allowed may not be accepted, depending on the personalities of the people involved. For the Canadian Armed Forces, I found this in regards to acceptance into Basic Training: "Transgender candidates may make request in accordance with CF Military Personnel Instruction 01/19 Transgender Guidance. The accommodations granted should aim at facilitating the integration and the success of the person making the request while complying with the Minimum Operational Standards as illustrated in the DAOD 5023-1. The final decision regarding accommodation measures rests with the Commandant of CFLRS." https://www.canada.ca/content/dam/dnd-mdn/documents/military-benefits/QMB_QMBO_e.pdf Presumably, this refers to things like bathroom and shower access. It indicates that the official policy is to accept transgender candidates. Whether or not the specific drill sergeant and the other recruits would actually accept them is something one could only find out by experience. -
By Lydia_R · Posted
I see myself as athletic and makeup is not a part of that. I've always been curious about lipstick and I do dress up quite regularly. I'm certainly much more into clothing than makeup. I don't own very many clothes either because I have minimalist tendencies. I have been curious about lipstick and bought it for the first time a couple months ago. I tried it twice and didn't like the kind I got, and then I tried again a couple days ago. I got a nice hot pink this time that I'm happy with. I'll experiment with it slowly and see if there is a keeper there. -
By KymmieL · Posted
I do have make up but do I use it. nope. it was mostly purchased as Sephoria. Some at wallys. Only thing I use on a regular bases is lip stick or gloss. With my wife not using makeup at all. Mine is hidden away. Kymmie -
By Mirrabooka · Posted
I don't use makeup, but I am starting to become interested in it. It always seems like I'm looking for the next step in my journey, even though I'm non-committal. Makeup could be it. A hack that my hairdresser suggested to control frizz was to smear a bit of moisturizer over my hair. To paraphrase from one of my favorite childhood books, "Never apply a lot. Just so much, and no more! Never more than a spot! Or something may happen. You never know what!" One day I applied more than a spot, and not knowing what to do with it, I wiped the excess over my face. It felt nice and I have kept it up since. It's a start. -
By RaineOnYourParade · Posted
Green tea and a granola bar this morning (haven't eaten it yet tho) 6 mins into the school day and I wanna go home, I am not feeling it today lol -
By RaineOnYourParade · Posted
Yeah, there's a lot of guys 5'8"+ over here ^^' Nice to know it wouldn't be an issue elsewhere tho Hands are surprisingly gendered lol -
By Adrianna Danielle · Posted
Been a good morning so far.Another ex GF and I did meet up last night.She has not see me since 1997.It was a little shock for her to see I changed at first.Good thing is she has accepted knowing I live a much happier life.Said she saw I was hurting inside. -
By MirandaB · Posted
If I'm doing something where I interact with people for any length of time I usually do something with my eyes (mascara, brow fill-in and taming). Bigger events I'll do some makeup but always try to be as subtle as I can, plus I think my freckles make me seem younger to people. I know it's too much when my brain suddenly thinks "clown!" -
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By Willow · Posted
Good morning wow, this is what 6 AM looks like not looking out the windows at work. Interesting week of start times 7,8,7,7,4. ASM is off most of the week. No coffee this morning, at least not until I get to work. I’m going to see if no coffee makes a difference in how I feel today, I’ve head a headache for several days now, nothing has helped. I do realize that stopping coffee cold turkey can bring on caffeine withdrawal headaches so I expect today to be no better. But I’m hoping for tomorrow. Today is just to see what if any affect it has on my throat. time to fix my hair and walk the dog before I motor across the road. Cherri o . keep a stiff upper lip and all that stuff. (Sorry, nothing the least bit funny coming to mind this morning, you’ll have to entertain yourself today}
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