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I have no doubt that I have to fully transition as quickly as possible, but fear and indecisiveness have held me back for years. I'm pretty and I think I'm relatively passable (although I haven't had many opinions besides my own and the few I have had have been rather biased). I have begun laser hair removal treatment on my face (I tried electrolysis but it was so painful, I think I'd much rather have as much removed as possible by laser and then go back to electrolysis for what is left). I have a sinking feeling that having waited for so long (I'm 27) to begin transitioning is going to hugely impact the rest of my life, it's a shame I was seeing a therapist who kept advising me to "put it off" and "make sure I'm ready".

I haven't begun hormones yet. I won't see the endocrinologist until October, what will I need to get him to prescribe hormone therapy, and will my insurance (medicaid) cover it? What should I tell him to have him write it down as "hormone imbalance" so insurance will cover it?I can try to order online and work out the doses myself. Should I order hormones online before I see the endocrinologist to get started as quickly as possible? I've had a pulmonary embolism after a surgery, will that affect my chances of getting a prescription for estrogen?

Also, and I've found zero information about this online. I'm very overweight, 350lb, I'm going into weight loss surgery soon but I wonder, are there any special concerns I should have as an overweight T-girl? Will I have any special challenges? will I face a lot of discrimination within the trans community?

If anyone can give me any advice or just wants to say hi, give me a response, Thanks, ♥Kaila♥

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Guest ~Brenda~

Woah Kaila!! Slow down!!!

First, let me just welcome you hon to Laura's!!!!

I know that you want to transition post haste!!

One step at a time sweetie, one step at a time. Your gender therapist recommends HRT for your therapy. An endo prescribes hormones and monitors it.

For your own health outside of transitioning, I implore you to loose weight. My grandfather was 300+ pounds when he retired at 65. He died of a stroke at 66. All because his body could no longer handle the weight.

Baby steps sweetie, baby steps..

Inch by inch, your life's a cinch. Yard by yard you make life hard.

Love

Brenda

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Hi, Kaila, and welcome to Laura's!

I'm really glad that you found us Hon. This is a great site with a lot of good information and several

thousand of the best people you'll find anywhere. So make yourself at home here, because you are.

Please be sure and check out the resource pages for some of the information you seek, as well as

the various forums and chat rooms.

I agree with my sister Brenda about taking things one step at a time. Your hormone usage needs to be

monitored, so no way should you buy them online and use them unsupervised. It is dangerous,

and could lead to blood clots and other problems.

There is no need to be in such a rush. You're only 27, which is young! We have many members

here who began transitioning in their 40's and 50's. Not that you need to wait THAT long. lol

You'll find friends here, I'm certain. Welcome aboard.

Carolyn Marie

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Hi Kaila,

Let me welcome you as well.

Listen to your new friends they are giving you such good advice.

Sit down and have some fresh baked cookies and hot cocoa while you wait for the other.

Welcome to the family.

Love ya

Sally

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