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Hi everyone. In the past few years, I have been in relationship with two transwomen. (Not at the same time) I have always been attacted to trans women...thinking we deal with a similar situation...so no explanation needed. Anyway, in the first relationship, this woman took me for everything I had, and then told me good bye. The second woman told me i was responsible for her happiness...and when i could'nt fullfill that need...told me good bye. And please hear...I have nothing against transwomen....Just stating my experience. Anyway, I'm now thinking maybe it's time to find a way to be on my own. Live the life of a hermit...

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Aww, Justme, I'm sorry that you had bad experiences with those women. :( Some people are just jerks! And whether they're trans or cisgendered, there will always be a few bad apples in the bunch.

In my experience, the people that have been burnt the most in past relationships are those that will make their special someone the happiest person in the world. Don't give up on dating just because of a few bad experiences - there is a special someone out there for everyone, and we have to be careful not to miss them. ;)

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Hi everyone. In the past few years, I have been in relationship with two transwomen. (Not at the same time) I have always been attacted to trans women...thinking we deal with a similar situation...so no explanation needed. Anyway, in the first relationship, this woman took me for everything I had, and then told me good bye. The second woman told me i was responsible for her happiness...and when i could'nt fullfill that need...told me good bye. And please hear...I have nothing against transwomen....Just stating my experience. Anyway, I'm now thinking maybe it's time to find a way to be on my own. Live the life of a hermit...

Living alone for a time might be just what you need...sounds like a great idea.......

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Hello,

Sorry to hear about the bad apple experience.

The one thing that I have come to find out in life is that when you look it is harder to find someone,

The really good ones come along when you are least expecting it.

I would not really worry yourself over trying to find someone but try to do and enjoy the things that you like to do, and maybe someone that enjoys the things that you are doing will come along and walla boom tadda. Who knows, but I wish you the best of luck in meeting the perfect person for yourself.

Don't be a hermit, then how will the right person even know the great person that you are even excists.

Thanks,

Jessica Hayden

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Guest NatalieRene
Hi everyone. In the past few years, I have been in relationship with two transwomen. (Not at the same time) I have always been attacted to trans women...thinking we deal with a similar situation...so no explanation needed. Anyway, in the first relationship, this woman took me for everything I had, and then told me good bye. The second woman told me i was responsible for her happiness...and when i could'nt fullfill that need...told me good bye. And please hear...I have nothing against transwomen....Just stating my experience. Anyway, I'm now thinking maybe it's time to find a way to be on my own. Live the life of a hermit...

I am so sorry that to people used you so badly like that; thats terrible. Don't give up on people though, you will find that one special person someday.

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Hi Justme.

Mia may be right being alone for some time can be nice. We all know that Tans folks have lots of issues. I know how wacky I am. If I had to live with me or some one like me, wow would that be hard. If you like women try lesbians or a natal women. I know a trans women who met her partner (male) through Craig's list. I'm not pushing Craig's list. I'm just repeating what she told me. she put up an ad with a picture saying she was looking for a guy and got quite a few responses from women.

kelly

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JustMe--Hun spending some time alone and giving yourself a breather from relationships may be just what you need. And you might want to figure out (maybe with help from a therapist) what a healthy relationship would look like _for you_, and when you are ready look for that. It's far easier to start off a relationship with healthy boundaries than to try and put them in place later.

ricka

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Hi everyone. In the past few years, I have been in relationship with two transwomen. (Not at the same time) I have always been attacted to trans women...thinking we deal with a similar situation...so no explanation needed. Anyway, in the first relationship, this woman took me for everything I had, and then told me good bye. The second woman told me i was responsible for her happiness...and when i could'nt fullfill that need...told me good bye. And please hear...I have nothing against transwomen....Just stating my experience. Anyway, I'm now thinking maybe it's time to find a way to be on my own. Live the life of a hermit...

Don't give up on love just because some people have screwed you over. There are a lot of nice women, both transgender and cisgender,out there. Just keep trying. You'll find someone special.

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Hi Justme.

Mia may be right being alone for some time can be nice. We all know that Tans folks have lots of issues. I know how wacky I am. If I had to live with me or some one like me, wow would that be hard. If you like women try lesbians or a natal women. I know a trans women who met her partner (male) through Craig's list. I'm not pushing Craig's list. I'm just repeating what she told me. she put up an ad with a picture saying she was looking for a guy and got quite a few responses from women.

kelly

Why would a guy try to date a lesbian? Most lesbians don't guys - that's why they identify as lesbian.

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JustMe,

Don't give up on people all together, after all 5 billion bad apples don't spoil the bunch there are nearly 2 billion more good people and about half are woman and of them a large number are trans woman.

There is an urge to just give up but so many people are not suited to living as hermits, I am living as one but it is far from ideal, I would so much love to have someone to share my life with but that does not seem to be in the cards right now so I keep hoping that after my transition is farther along someone somewhere might actually want to be with me,

Never give up hope - it is what keeps us going.

Love ya,

Sally

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