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Guest Robin Winter

Not specifically a transsexual issue, but in my case at least, it's related.

My GT referred me for an anger workshop, a 10 week course for anger management. In my case though, it's not because my temper gets away from me. I'm passive agressive. I've spent most of my life bottling up my negative emotions, hiding from the world, now I can't get angry when I need to be. Which translates to me not being assertive. He believes this group can help, and I hope he's right.

My hope is that if I learn to manage my feelings appropriately, I'll be more assertive in moving forward with my transition, and just as importantly, not blowing up at home as I tend to do when it gets to be too much.

Anyway, I went for the screening interview this morning, and they just called me and told me I'd been accepted, so yay :D

Another itty bitty step toward feeling better.

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That's great news, Shilo. It is never good to keep your emotions bottled up. It is self

destructive and, as you noted, eventually explodes and effects those around you.

You are wise to take the advice of your therapist. A lot of folks would have resisted the

suggestion and said they "didn't need it." Recognizing that you have issues that need

to be addressed is a crucial first step.

I wish you the best of luck. Please let us know how you are progressing. I care.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Robin Winter

Oh, if there's one thing I know for sure, it's that I have issues. It took a lifetime, but I'm ready to leave it all behind me, and I'll do whatever is necessary to make it happen.

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It took a lifetime, but I'm ready to leave it all behind me, and I'll do whatever is necessary to make it happen.

Now that sounds like a trans.Being assertive comes with experience.

Stopping agressive,take it out on everybody,behavior will take time

in therapy.You will see once approved for HRT,that the estrogens will

tend to end the agression.As your mind and body are coming into alignment.

Good luck and keep on the right track,

Angie

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Guest Robin Winter

I've already been approved for HRT =D

I just can't do it until I sort out some things. Like making sure I'll still have a place to work when I start sprouting breasts. Gotta feed the kidlets.

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Guest Jean Davis

Hi Shilo

It's so nice to see that you are planning your progression and following your therapist's suggestions.

It may seem like that is the long way to transsition but actualy it is much quicker and the result are better.

You'll find that most of your questions and concerns will be answered and you'll feel better about progressing at every step.

Best wishes

Jean

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