My Yom Kippur

[Guest mia 1]

Well this is a special time and a special day. The day after the Day of Atonement.

Let me tell you how my family spent that important day.

We would wake up and know we didn't have school, and we would get dressed and spend about two hrs at the reform temple, leave and visit our grandparents.

Then home and although it wasn't anywhere close to sundown, ,Mom would set the table and we would all gather around (mom,dad, and my two brothers.)

Dad would start the meal with a thank you to god and ask his blessings for the family through out the year....

Then the real holiday would begin.

Dad would go around the table and ask each of us boys what we wanted to be forgiven for. What he would always say is your single most regret.

We would tell what was the outstanding act that we were most sorry for. How we 'dissed' our brothers in front of our friends,or how we didn't stick up for the younger brother when our friends were making fun of them,,,etc. etc.

Mom would always tell us the biggest sin was not being a better mother to 'her boys'.

One holiday meeting Dad told my younger brothers that what he wanted to be forgiven for was that he paid to much attention to me, his oldest, and not enough to his two younger sons...

Because when I went to basic training he wrote me a letter every day and when the boys went to College he wrote once a week. He didn't want the other boys to feel that they weren't as important to him as I was.

We all hugged and to this day we remember dad's confession and regret.

I just want to point out what a great and considerate man my dad was..

I wonder now if he had read my previous 1,999 posts how he would love his son, and I am sure he would love me no less no matter what I was wearing..

[Carolyn Marie]

Mia, thank you so much for your post.

Your father sounds like he was a kind and thoughtful and loving man. It also sounds like you are very

proud of him, and he of you.

Good memories are precious. Hang on to them.

Carolyn Marie

[Sally]

That is a beautiful story.

Something that most of the other religions lack are such intimate celebrations of family.

We tend to gather in large impersonal groups and show off our fine clothing and once we leaave the building we are about our business as usual.

But in the Jewish faith so many of the holy days begin with a family feast or fast but done with the family before ever going to Temple.

I am so happy that your memories of your family and father are so sweet and should be cherished.

So in closing, ikh hob dikh lib. (I love you)

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest AllisonD]

Well this is a special time and a special day. The day after the Day of Atonement.

Let me tell you how my family spent that important day.

We would wake up and know we didn't have school, and we would get dressed and spend about two hrs at the reform temple, leave and visit our grandparents.

Then home and although it wasn't anywhere close to sundown, ,Mom would set the table and we would all gather around (mom,dad, and my two brothers.)

Dad would start the meal with a thank you to god and ask his blessings for the family through out the year....

Then the real holiday would begin.

Dad would go around the table and ask each of us boys what we wanted to be forgiven for. What he would always say is your single most regret.

We would tell what was the outstanding act that we were most sorry for. How we 'dissed' our brothers in front of our friends,or how we didn't stick up for the younger brother when our friends were making fun of them,,,etc. etc.

Mom would always tell us the biggest sin was not being a better mother to 'her boys'.

One holiday meeting Dad told my younger brothers that what he wanted to be forgiven for was that he paid to much attention to me, his oldest, and not enough to his two younger sons...

Because when I went to basic training he wrote me a letter every day and when the boys went to College he wrote once a week. He didn't want the other boys to feel that they weren't as important to him as I was.

We all hugged and to this day we remember dad's confession and regret.

I just want to point out what a great and considerate man my dad was..

I wonder now if he had read my previous 1,999 posts how he would love his son, and I am sure he would love me no less no matter what I was wearing..

Mia

What a great post for your 2000th, full of love and family and a significant piece of your history. I am sure he would love you too, no matter what you were wearing.

If my family was like that, if there was a special day for love and confessions and forgiveness, I still don't think my family would have accepted me for being me. I wonder if the difference is the spirituality you were raised with. We didn't have that. I think I must have missed something very important there.

Allison

[Guest Donna Jean]

WOW, Mia......

That was beautiful.....

I wish that I had such a family and tradition....but, nothing close....

I read your post with a tear.....

Love you so much!

Donna Jeaan

[Guest Elizabeth K]

May God hold you in his hands, my precious Mia!

Elizabeth

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hi Mia,

You parents sound like they were very lovely people. You are their legacy, and you are one of the most beautiful people I know

Love

Brenda