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Guest AshleeB

Hellooo! I know its a long time between posts with me but i cant help it. im a forgetful person. i keep thinking to myself "IM GONNA POST ON LAURAS TODAY!" but i then proceed to... not. lol

Well recently i sent a letter off to the Gender Dysphoria Clinic in my local city and about 5 days ago i got a call saying i should expect ANOTHER call organising an appointment with the gender therapists there. this is fantastic news (although i still havnt heard back... begining to wonder if i will) but i have a problem. As do all us pre-op MTF's >_<... i read a topic about tucking today on here and it got me thinking... i have no idea how! i tried it and tried it and TRIED IT but i cant seem to get it. The "inside" thing seems ideal coz there would be no lumps or bumps and theres no way to sit on them XD

Thing is... how the flip to I get them "inside" me? >_< this may be something that cant be answered on the forum depending on how this topic is rated but if not, PM's would be appreciated. esspecially since i saw this really cute skirt recently that i dare not wear due to... bulging.

oh and last thing, does genital size make a big difference? coz i was blessed with a rather small penis but none the less, i cant seem to hide it...

OK thats my question and incase your wondering... i died alittle typing it. i NEVER talk about this stuff >_<

umm... THANKS in advance! im not even sure this question is answerable lol

Lots of love!

Ashlee

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Guest Elyncia

I'm looking forward to an answer to this, too. I'm not so sure about tucking, to be honest. I've tried it more than a few times, and I think I've gotten "them" "inside", maybe, but they don't stay inside. And... trying to get... "them" inside is reeeally uncomfortable, because they're sooo sensitive!

So, yes. Help please :D

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The easiest way to get them up on the pocket(they)decended from,

Is to get comfortable laying on your back on a/your bed,knees up.

Reach down between your legs and feel for that pocket,it is there.

Gently push each teste up into it.It is the panty or control panty(girdle)

that holds it all in place.You have the panty all ready to be snugged,

resting around your knees,and you pull into place.That's it,and it works.

Yes it can be painful for a while,because(they)aren't used to being so confined.

But with patience and the desire to have(them)out of the way,one does

grow quite used to the sensation.

Good Luck Girls,

Angie

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Guest AshleeB

Oh yay :D thats detail enough for me :) i would test it out and get back to you on how successful i am but this little piggy needs to sleep. But im sure it will work so thank you very much :D you may have just sped up my owning that skirt by ... well who knows how long it would have taken me to figure that out myself. im not the fluffys muffin of the bunch you see :)

Untill next time!

Stay frosted!

Your muffin pal

Ashlee

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Hi Ashlee,

This was a great challenge for me. I bought quite a few "gaffes", which is basically a garment designed to hold them inside and keep uncle louie pointed down and under between my legs. Right. Not one of those could even come close to doing the job.

The real problem is the 2 boys have grown tremendously since they descended and the pockets they grew up in have shrunk. It just takes a long time to get the pockets stretched back out to hold them again.

I don't necessarily recommend this, but I bought a custom-made male chastity belt. Hand made in Britain, this stainless steel belt has a front metal piece with a tube for louie (so he can't ever expand, if you get my meaning) and seems to hold the boys in place. This was extremely uncomfortable and required frequent adjustment to eliminate pinching, binding and pain. I wore it nearly full time for almost 2 years before I finally got the pockets to hold them using only panties to secure everything.

I guess I was one determined girl with a mission.....

I will say that, with it on, I was smooth as can be in the front. I really came to love that. PLUS--it makes sitting mandatory to relieve yourself and toilet paper to mop up. I loved that part, I was finally a real woman.

All I need now is just a nice snug pair of panties and I love it. I can look great in tight slacks.

Like anything else we have to do, it just takes time and determination.

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Guest Elizabeth K

I don't tuck unless it is absolutely necessary! It is uncomfortable and reminds me of something I'd rather not think about. And the HRT has done wonders.

So there you are...

Lizzy

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Guest nymphblossom

(hoping this passes the board sensor)

A little trick that works for me-

After I have the testes in their pockets, I reach for the end of my penis from behind me, gently pulling it backwards and up while I slide my panties over my hips with my other hand. It gives a neat clean tuck.

I love the feel of tucking and the smooth flat look when I'm wearing a pair of skinny jeans!

Blossom

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(hoping this passes the board sensor)

A little trick that works for me-

After I have the testes in their pockets, I reach for the end of my penis from behind me, gently pulling it backwards and up while I slide my panties over my hips with my other hand. It gives a neat clean tuck.

I love the feel of tucking and the smooth flat look when I'm wearing a pair of skinny jeans!

Blossom

Here here Blossom,

I do too,use that same finishing motion myself.And after so long of being tucked this way daily,

I have no problem after using the potty,getting it all back in place.I started sitting to relieve myself

at the same time I started tucking,g-women sit and so do I.The smooth flat front in skin tight jeans

is our reward for putting up with the discomfort of getting used to it.I even wear tight short shorts.

Hugs girl,

Angie

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Guest AshleeB

Thanks for the help and advice ladies! It worked a treat. Although this discomfort thats been mention several times, im afraid i havnt noticed it. I can get a smooth front without bumps and bulges but i experienced no discomfort what so ever. I mean it could be due to my previously mentioned blessing of... being petite shall i say... but maybe not...

although, could also be that neither of my testicles decended when i was an infact and i had them surgically pulled down at about 8 years old (why so late, i dont know lol... not at all would have been better XD) so they are not as big as they would normally be and im assuming that where they were pulled down from is slightly larger due to them having to cut it up a bit. who knows

but in a nut shell, Ashlee has succesfully "hidden the evidence" from the outside world without pain or discomfort and wants to thank everyone for posting :D

Lots of gracious love

Ashy

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That Is Great Ashlee!

I only say it's uncomfortable,because some find it to be.

Yes seeing your clothes fit right,with nothing in the way,makes a girl happy,

in knowing nothing can be seen.I am very happy to have helped you find this

personal peace that a simple bit of work and cloth can give to one of us.

Happy for you young lady,

Angie

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