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My Thursday Appointment.


Guest Robin Winter

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Guest Robin Winter

I had intended to write about this sooner, but I've been crazy busy.

So my appointment on thursday with my GT was the first one my wife went to. It had it's tense moments, to be sure, but overall it went pretty well. We did this communication exercise, where we were supposed to say things we've been withholding. So one of the things I'd mentioned was that I'd been coming here. I wasn't withholding it for any other reason than I'm pretty nervous bringing up anything to do with my transition, but I'd also wanted her to sign up here too, and was waiting for a good time to bring it up. I figured that was probably it :P

Anyway, she hasn't brought it up since I mentioned it, but I'm hoping she will, and join.

Also, I think before the appointment, she had preconceptions about my GT and was determined she didn't like him, but after meeting him, she's decided that she does ^_^ She even hugged him before we left, and that resulted in him hugging me, which I'd wanted to do before this, but was never sure if it would be appropriate. The next appointment is also booked for us both. I think this will help make it easier for me to open up to her.

I did find out while I was there that after he sends my referral to the endocrinologist, there's a 9 month waiting list :( I'm starting to think I should ask him to put it through now. I might not be ready just yet, but I bet I'll be in 9 months, or shortly after.

Anyway, ya, that's my update.

*Hugs*

Shi

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Guest Donna Jean

Well, Shi.......

Overall, that went well, I think.......

We have to tend to the feelings of our partners, too...it makes it better all around....

I tell my wife everything that I'm doing anymore...at first, after coming out to her, I took off like a rocket and ran over everybody and everything in my way....that was wrong....

I slowed down and included her in everything....

Way better now....I think that you'll find the same thing...We get so caught up in our new freedoms and changes we often neglect others feelings...I'm glad that you've included her!

But, Honey...that 9 month wait thing is just awful....(I got my HRT letter on a Friday and was at the doctor's office the following Tuesday!..DANG!)

Best to you both, Honey!

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K

Canada must be more sadistic in the medical departments - I had my HRT letter and it took five weeks! I was ready to explode! But I used a ob gyn that was sympathetic to transpeople , I already have a endo - but he wouldn't do it.- (he works my diabetes) but he did give me a hug (then charge me $50 for the visit)!

Be patient. Thats all we transpeople can do. NO ONE wants to help us quickly get relief - it's almost like they are hoping we will change our mind (we wont) or that we have to 'earn' our transition. Frustrating... I wish a doctor would experience a broken finger "Sorry - we can give you some pain pills in about four weeks, and after you show us for two years you REALLY DO have a broken finger, we can set it for you.

Lizzy

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Guest Kayliegh

Hi Shilo –

My GT finally met my SO this past Monday and she was impressed with her, as was my sister who’s a doctor.

I’ve been through hell the past week, but my SO is finally coming to terms with my TG issues and has been supportive, although it has been a rocky road.

She was supportive at first, and then was hurtful and negative, but now she seems to understand the misery that I’ve live through my whole life.

Keep your wife in the loop and let here seek out counseling if she needs to and make sure that she, at the very least, attends a session with you at least once a month.

It can be difficult, but not impossible.

Hugs! - Kayleigh

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Guest Robin Winter
Canada must be more sadistic in the medical departments - I had my HRT letter and it took five weeks! I was ready to explode! But I used a ob gyn that was sympathetic to transpeople , I already have a endo - but he wouldn't do it.- (he works my diabetes) but he did give me a hug (then charge me $50 for the visit)!

Be patient. Thats all we transpeople can do. NO ONE wants to help us quickly get relief - it's almost like they are hoping we will change our mind (we wont) or that we have to 'earn' our transition. Frustrating... I wish a doctor would experience a broken finger "Sorry - we can give you some pain pills in about four weeks, and after you show us for two years you REALLY DO have a broken finger, we can set it for you.

Lizzy

I don't think it's a matter of them wanting me to wait, I'm told there's just nobody else. He's that busy. But...I think there is the possibility that they also do want you to have time to think it through, I don't think they quite understand that most of us have spent a LIFETIME thinking it through. They're just trying to protect us...and their own behinds. Can't blame them for it.

Hi Shilo –

My GT finally met my SO this past Monday and she was impressed with her, as was my sister who’s a doctor.

I’ve been through hell the past week, but my SO is finally coming to terms with my TG issues and has been supportive, although it has been a rocky road.

She was supportive at first, and then was hurtful and negative, but now she seems to understand the misery that I’ve live through my whole life.

Keep your wife in the loop and let here seek out counseling if she needs to and make sure that she, at the very least, attends a session with you at least once a month.

It can be difficult, but not impossible.

Hugs! - Kayleigh

Yep, Jim was impressed with my wife too :D He said she was strong and vibrant (and she so is most of the time, I really admire her for it). I know we have one more session scheduled together for sure, after that it's hard to say, I'm down to one appointment every 3 weeks most of the time now. Sometimes 2 weeks if the timing is better for us both (me and GT). We'll see how it goes :)

*Hugs*

Shi

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Guest Jean Davis

Hey Shi

I'm happy to see that everything is going well for you.

Your both very lucky to have found each other and I'm glad to see both of you are working to keep your relationship.

LUV

Jean

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