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Guest Joanna Phipps

Since I have been full time I cannot count how many times I have given my bank card for some purchase or another. Yesterday was different, my wife and I had gone to Fashion Bug to get (what else) some more clothes. When we went to check out something happened at the till to cause the sales gal to compare me to the name on my bank card. Well I was presenting female, as always, but the card still has my old name on it. I finally had to tell her I was trans, and that I took her confusion about the discrepancy as a complement (which I think confused her even more). I guess this goes to prove that I now pass well enough that my old name doesn't appear to fit anymore, I was about to reach for my carry letter to prove things to her, but she took my verbal explanation.

Life does have its hilarity

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Guest Charlene_Leona

Joanna

This was one of my earliest problems when I started transition. I went to the bank and requested to have my name changed from Charles to C on my debit card you can do the same thing if you are staying with the same letter in your name. You can also request a card with your female name on it even if you've just done a common law name change, just show them your carry letter.

I can imagine it was a big moral boost having the lady get confused, about the same as being carded for age issues. So congratulation on passing well enough to confuse the sales lady, it is a great feeling isn't it?

Charlene Leona

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Guest Donna Jean

Yeah, Joanna....that is way cool!

I know...I know...someday it will not be a thing at all....but, right now it's really great having these kind of things happen!

I went to another branch of my bank and was asked for my DL.....The pic didn't match at all...

They made me sign my name and compare it to the sig on the DL...Loved it! Inconvenient, sure...but worth it to me!

Good on you, Girl!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

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Guest Joanna Phipps
Joanna

This was one of my earliest problems when I started transition. I went to the bank and requested to have my name changed from Charles to C on my debit card you can do the same thing if you are staying with the same letter in your name. You can also request a card with your female name on it even if you've just done a common law name change, just show them your carry letter.

I can imagine it was a big moral boost having the lady get confused, about the same as being carded for age issues. So congratulation on passing well enough to confuse the sales lady, it is a great feeling isn't it?

Charlene Leona

I dont know if its post 9-11 or just what it is, my bank wont give me my full name until I do the full legal thing. Though having it as my first initial and the new pic is going to have to do for now.

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Joanna,

Early on when i shopped at stores and used my credit card every once in awhile i would be asked for ID and it gets awkward to say the least, i got a debit card and even though it has my male name on it i have never been asked to show ID when i use it. Of course those problems will be history next month when my name change is official and i start getting everything changed.

Paula

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Guest Joanna Phipps

Yeah I have 8 months more to wait for that lovely day so the disphoria gets worse. I dont relate to that person as me or as ever being me anymore, mentally and emotionally Ive made the switch so completely that its like who was that person claiming to be me.

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Guest Donna Jean
Yeah I have 8 months more to wait for that lovely day so the disphoria gets worse. I dont relate to that person as me or as ever being me anymore, mentally and emotionally Ive made the switch so completely that its like who was that person claiming to be me.

Hey, Joanna!

What is eight months? What happens then?

Donna Jean

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Guest Joanna Phipps
Hey, Joanna!

What is eight months? What happens then?

Donna Jean

Next June my wife and I move back to Canada, since British Columbia will not accept a name change done outside of Canada I either have to pay twice for it (that makes little sense) or wait till then.

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Guest N. Jane

I have had a few of those moments over the years.

When I had SRS, it wasn't possible to change birth certificates but I didn't need it so I didn't bother until 30 years later. To get the BC changed, I needed a court-ordered name change so I filled out the papers and took them into the court office.

The lady behind the counter said that it would be published in the Gazette (the government legal notice paper) and I would get my papers in about 6 weeks. I asked if publication was necessary and she asked why. I said it would be awkward. At that point she finally took a closer look at the old name and looked back at me with wide disbelieving eyes, looked at the paper, looked back at me and said "No, it can't be!" and then took me to a private corner of the office. "Is ... is .... is this YOU?" she asked, pointing to the old name. "It used to be, a long time ago." I said. She looked at the attached surgeon's letter, shook her head in disbelief, and said "No, of course it wont be published. It will be handled by a judge in chambers and the old records will be sealed." I got my court ordered name change in 2 weeks.

Then there was the nurse who kept pressing me on when my last period was or the lab techs who were all in a flap because my doctor asked for a PSA test.

There have been a few moments over the years.... :rolleyes:

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Since I have been full time I cannot count how many times I have given my bank card for some purchase or another. Yesterday was different, my wife and I had gone to Fashion Bug to get (what else) some more clothes. When we went to check out something happened at the till to cause the sales gal to compare me to the name on my bank card. Well I was presenting female, as always, but the card still has my old name on it. I finally had to tell her I was trans, and that I took her confusion about the discrepancy as a complement (which I think confused her even more). I guess this goes to prove that I now pass well enough that my old name doesn't appear to fit anymore, I was about to reach for my carry letter to prove things to her, but she took my verbal explanation.

Life does have its hilarity

rofl

Good for you Joanna,

We live for those days and I am delighted for yours. And you know things will get better still as time goes by .

So happy for you , Love Viv.

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