Help On Crossdressing.

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Well. I am new to this form and have been crossdressing for sometime. I like the fact on how I feel when I dress and what it feels like. I like the fact that I am comfortable when I am dressed, but I am starting to get afraid on what people will say if they find out that I dress. Will I be accepted or will there be excuse my language but jerks who do not know anything about crossdressing.

I love dressing in my gymnastic leotards and doing gymnastics like a cute pertty girl. I also love to dress up completly in the underware and outware and love the way it feels on me and how I look. I am glad that I do have a nice slender body type.

But the problem I have is the fear of not being accepted due to the way our society is.

So the big question is: should I give it up and feel uptight and stressed out to fit the social norm or should I dress and feel comfortable but run the risk of being found out?

Hope to hear back some answers for all and talk

Amy

[Guest Sakura_Stingray]

i would say keep on drssing... the worst thing that could happen is people would think of you as gay... now some people have different reactions on that some people are friendly to the idea and others are mean.. i found by observation that the people who are mean came from families who treat their children the way they believe.. in which cas they have no individuality of their own... bottom line is do what you love and if someone has a problem with it do not worry about them.. all they care about are themselves and not the people around them anyway.

have fun and be yourself! ^.^ the world is your balance beam ^.^

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hi Amy

Acceptance begins with yourself. Once you accept yourself, it naturally follows that others accept you too. For the general public to accept you there must be a degree of passability. You do not have to look like a movie star, but it is necessary to move and look who you are with conviction.

There is no magical formula to pass and be yourself.

Acceptance by others requires your own self acceptance first.

Love

Brenda

[Carolyn Marie]

Hi, Amy! First let me welcome you to Laura's. I've got some of Sally world famous pastries here, and some hot cocoa, so have a seat in the member's

lounge and relax.

You've certainly come to the right place with your questions. There are hundreds of crossdresser members who will love to share their experiences

and ideas with you. There is a forum just for CDers, as well as a moderated chat time on Tuesday afternoon's.

CDers, like everyone else here, come in all styles and preferences. Some wear women's underwear only, some dress only at home, some take pride

in dressing up and going out and passing as women, and everything in between. Some members, like myself, crossdressed for many years before

realizing that we were really transsexual and are now headed towards transition. Where you fall on the spectrum only you know for sure.

Read through the forums, post your questions, and you will find answers in good time. After five posts, you can send private messages (PMs) to

other members if you want a more personal conversation.

I look forward to seeing more of your posts! Take care.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Emily H]

Run the risk of being found out. just be careful and be prepared for the worst.

Whatever you do, don't conform. Be who you are girl.

~Andrea

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Amy,

One should be careful when coming out to someone. I am not sure who you are refering to when you talk about being accepted by people. I am guessing you mean that would people accept you if they knew you were a crossdresser. Well, that actually depends on the people you are talking about and what their biases are.

I am finally out to my family, and they accept me. I am not out to some other people I know, because I don't think that they would accept me. I am not out at work yet either.

Coming out is tricky and timing is everything.

Take your time, and come out to one person at a time

Love

Brenda

[Guest ditzydayz]

This is part of who you are....its part of what makes you the amazing unique special person you are. You shouldn't give that up.....

[Guest Sina]

Amy,

The fear of discovery is always there regardless of how far out, or not, we are. You have to accept who you are regardless of whether any one else can. I fought with it myself for many years and am sorry that I lost so much time. Very few people in my life know that I cross dress, but it doesn't make it any less true. The hardest person to come out to is yourself. You have done what was the hardest step for me. Enjoy yourself.

Those people who mean the most to you will still like you regardless of how you dress. It just may take them a few minutes to accept the idea.

Love ya

Sina

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Thank you all for your great advice. I have started seeing a therapist and she has said the same thing. She has also advised me into seaking out these forms and talking to others and to feel comfortable. I have been dressing for years and years and after talking to my therapist and getting it out to 1 person, I feel so much relieved. I do know that I am a crossdresser and I started dressing at a very young age and always in seceret and still dress in seceret but I like it alot and want to continue to dress.

I have told my sister and she has accepted me and that now I do know how to start out slow in letting people know. I do know that there are members in my family that I do not want to tell. The reason why I do not want to tell them is because when the elections were going on and there was the big California Prop. 8. There was alot of members in my family that are against it and I did not like that very much and that tells me that they probably would not accept me.

My sister has told me that she would help me dress if I need help and she would keep it a seceret and help me out with whats in style and making sure that I will pass.

I do know how the Prop. 8 that I talked about is a big converstional subject here and that I am for it.

But once again, Thank you all for your help.

Hope to hear more from you

Amy

[Guest Roberta1]

From what I have experienced, and seen and heard, the urge to dress does not go away, and worse if you depress that urge, sometimes bad things happen.

My advise is to dress for yourself, by yourself, until you find somebody with whom you feel really comfortable. Then, in the gentlest of ways, broach the subject. If it looks

as if the encounter will be positive, then continue, but don't become obsessive about it. If, on the other hand, things look black, keep an open back door "Oh, haha, I was talking

theoretically." One day the time will be right, so keep your ear to forums like this one. Lot's of good advice in the short time I've been here. One last thing: honesty is allways

the best policy. So don't marry with out all the cards on the table.

Sincerely, Robert(a)1

[Carolyn Marie]

My sister has told me that she would help me dress if I need help and she would keep it a seceret and help me out with whats in style and making sure that I will pass.

Amy

Amy, that is really wonderful news. To have a cisgendered family member who is not only supportive, but willing to help you is fantastic. I am out to my

wife and still hoping for such an offer to come my way. You are a lucky girl! Make sure your sister knows how much you appreciate her support.

Best of luck, and please do keep us posted on your progress. We care!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Amy, that is really wonderful news. To have a cisgendered family member who is not only supportive, but willing to help you is fantastic. I am out to my

wife and still hoping for such an offer to come my way. You are a lucky girl! Make sure your sister knows how much you appreciate her support.

Best of luck, and please do keep us posted on your progress. We care!

Carolyn Marie

Yea, I know the feeling. Only my youngest daughter actively supports me in terms of buying me nail polish, points out things that would look good on me (blouses, dresses, shoes and such ) We have this thing we like to do when I have visitation with her.... SHOPPING!!!!

Love

Brenda

[Guest mia 1]

Hi Amy

Acceptance begins with yourself.

Brenda

That's the answer...that is where the term pride comes into play. Accept your self and the world will stay say yea, or nay, but it won't affect you as much....

You will have a different attitude when you face the world, and people will know it....

Mia

[Guest Amy LeBlanc]

Thank you all for the good advice. I am feeling alot more comfortable just by talking to you all and that I have also been doing some thinking on who I am and that is I am proud to be a crossdressing snowboarding, computer geek that loves star trek. Now this is who I am and I am comfortable with this and I am who I am.

I have been finding myself dressing more and more and getting into it alot more and enjoying and that this is me.

Hope to hear from you all more

Amy